Bonke abazali banenkxalabo yokuba abantwana babo abahlangabezane nabantu ababi abangabakhubekisa, babangele ukukhathazeka ngokwenyama nokuziphatha. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, abazali kufuneka baxelele abantwana babo imithetho yokuziphatha nabangamaziyo kubantwana. Emva kwakho konke, umntwana omncinci uyaxhamla kakhulu, ngoko ufuna ukujwayelana nabo bonke abakuyo, ngokukodwa nalabo abamomothekayo, bathethe naye mhle, banikele amathoyizi kunye neesekese. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuthembela okunjalo, abantwana bangena kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu. Yingakho abazali befuna ukubeka umthetho ocacileyo wokuziphatha nabangamaziyo kubantwana.
Ukunxibelelana nabangaphandle kuphela nabaphezulu
Ngoko, okokuqala kuyimfuneko ukuchazela umntwana ukuba unokuthetha kuphela nalabo bantu abaye baziswa nguyise okanye unina. Ukuba esitalatweni umntwana uqala ukuthetha nabantu abangaqhelekanga okanye abafazi, ngoko olu nxi belimele lulawulwe ngokugqithiseleyo ngabadala. Chaza kwintsana ukuba inokuthetha nabantakwabo abangaqhelekanga kuphela xa kukho unina, utata, udade omdala, umzalwana, esinye sezihlobo okanye umntu omdala owaziwayo kumntwana, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, bazali. Ngaphandle koko, kuvunyelwe ukuthetha nabantu abangabazi.
Iindaba malunga nohambo oluya kubazali
Ukucacisa imigaqo yokuziphatha, kubalulekile kwakhona ukugxininisa ingqalelo yentsana kwinto yokuba akukho nhlobo oya kuhamba nabantu abangayaziyo kwaye baninzi bahlale emotweni yabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwiimeko ezinjalo kubantwana, ibhayisikili ilungiselelwe ukuba abazali bathumele. Cacisa umntwana wakho ukuba wena kunye noyihlo uya kuhlala umxwayisa ukuba ufuna ukuthumela umntu. Ngoko ke, xa umalume okanye unina uthi bawathatha kubazali babo, akufanele bakholwe ngandlela-thile, mhlawumbi ingxaki iza kwenzeka.
Musa ukukholelwa kwintsimi yabantu abangaziwayo
Nangona kwimigaqo yokuziphatha oya kumxelela umntwana wakho, kufuneka kubekho isigatya esichazela ukuba awukwazi ukuthemba abantu abathembisa ukuba bathenge into ethile. Zama ukuchazela umntwana ngokucacileyo ukuba oomalume abangaqhelekanga nabancinci abasayi kuba nantoni na. Ngoko akudingeki ukuba ukholelwe. Ukuba umntwana unikezelwa ukuba ahambe nomntu ukuthenga into ethile, makhe aphendule ukuba akayidingi nto, kwaye umama noyise baya kuthenga yonke into. Nangona umfo angawaniki into into umntwana aphupha ngayo, akafanele akholwe. Enyanisweni, kunzima ukudlulisela abantwana abancinci, kodwa kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba nguSanta Claus kuphela kunye nabazali kunye nezihlobo ezixabisa iminqweno, kungekhona abantu abangaqhelekanga kwisitalato.
Abantwana abaninzi banethemba labasetyhini ngaphezu kwamadoda, ingakumbi ukuba aba bafazi bayamnandi kwaye bemomotheka. Kwiimigaqo yakho yokuziphatha, ugxininiso kufuneka lubekwe kula majazana. Chaza kumntwana ukuba nangona unina unomusa kwaye uyamomotheka, akafuneki ukuba ahambe naye. Emva koko, ukuba uyayithanda, uya kuqonda ukuba awufuni ukuhamba naye.
Ngubani ozakuqhagamshelana naye ngoncedo
Ukuba umntwana uqala ukuthatha into ethile ngokunyanzela, kufuneka akhankanye kwaye abize uncedo. Chaza inkomo ukuba akukho nto ihlazo. Makhe abize abo basondele. Ukuba unako ukusinda, ngoko nangoko kufuneka ugijime kumadoda afanayo. Chaza kumntwana ukuba umalume wakhe, iphoyisa, unokumkhusela. Ukongezelela, kulo mzekelo, unokuba malunga neepesenti ezilikhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uya kungenelela. Ngendlela, ayingabi yipolisi kuphela, kodwa kunye nomkhuseli okanye umlilo. Into ephambili kukuba ngumntu onomfaniswano. Makhe ahlale ekhumbula le nto. Ukuba akukho nanye indoda inomfaniswano, ke uchazela umntwana ukuba kufuneka afune uncedo kumnye ukanina. Ewe, ukuba ngumfazi onomntwana. Kule meko, kukho ithemba elininzi lokuba le ntombi ayiyi kuhoywa isicelo sayo.
Kwaye enye ingongoma engabandakanywa kwimigaqo yokuziphatha xa le meko ivela. Ukuba umntwana wakho unomnxeba, ke makumemezele ngokukhawuleza ukuba akuphi, into engalungile kuye. Kule meko, mhlawumbi, umntu ofuna ukulimaza umntwana wakho uya kuziva ukwesaba ukufunyanwa nokushiya. Khumbula ukuba umdla onjalo kubantwana ubonakaliswa ngabantu abanobunzima kunye nabangenabungozi abesaba uluntu kunye nokunyuka kwengqalelo.