Mhlawumbi, akukho babazali abangenakujamelana nemeko enjalo:
Uphuma nomntwana, uye kwindawo yokudlala, kwi-sandbox, emva kokudlala, umntwana wakho uqokelela amathoyizi akhe amathandayo ixesha elide. Ngeli xesha, umntwana ongaqhelekanga uzama ukuthatha amathoyizi avela kumntwana wakho, okanye umntwana wakho ufuna ukudlala namanye amathoyizi ebantwini, kwaye ngokubuyisela ufumana umgqomo okanye umbi, ngesanti esweni. Kwiingxelo zakho malunga nokuziphatha komntwana, unina uthi ngokumomotheka okwenkqisayo ukuba uvelisa umntwana wakhe ngendlela entsha, apho kuvunyelwe ukuba avumele abantwana bakhe ukuba baneminyaka emihlanu ubudala.
Kwaye kwenzeka ngokuchasene noko, umntwana wakho ovela kwintsimi enhle uyaguquka, uqala ukuphefumula zonke iintsana ezimbayo kwi-sandbox efanayo, kwaye uphoqeleka ukuba ugijime kwiimvumbo zabamama abathukutheleyo, uthembisa ukulungiselela ikhaya lomntwana wakho.
Kufuneka ube njani, ukuze yonke imihla ukuhamba kungabi uvavanyo lweempawu?
Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukudlala nabanye abantwana
Musa ukunyanzelisa. Umntwana ngamnye unesigqi sakhe sokungena kumntu omtsha - umntu ngokukhawuleza uba ngumlawuli, kwaye omnye umntu kufuneka aqale ukujonga ngokude ukusuka kude, zama ukwenza abahlobo ngokucophelela, kwaye emva koko bangadlala kunye. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana wakho ekudonsa kwiqela lezingane, landela. Xa ixesha lifika, yena ngokwakhe uya kuthathwa kwinkampani jikelele yabantwana, kwaye unokufunda incwadi ebhentshini.
Ukuze umdlalo kwiqela, zama ukumfundisa ngokucophelela, umfundise ngomzekelo wakho. Umzekelo, uye emntwaneni womnye umntwana uze uthi kuye, mbuze ukuba ngubani igama lakhe, xelela lo mntwana igama lakho lomntwana kwaye ucele imvume yokudlala kunye naye, kwaye ukuba umntwana uqala ukumelana - awudingi ukugxininisa kumdlalo odibeneyo. Uya kubeka umzekelo kumntwana wakho, ngokuhlonela umdla omnye umntwana. Ukumnceda ukuba uyazi ukuba iimfuno zakhe ziya kuqwalaselwa, nazo. Ekuqaleni, zama ukudlala nabanye abantwana, ukuze umntwana wakho angafiki ubuso obutsha, ukuba kunzima ukujoyina iqela.
Umgaqo-siseko- ungagxininisi, ngokukhawuleza, landela umlingana wakho womntwana.
Umntwana wakho unqabile kukikiki okanye uthathe amathoyizi akhe
Into ephambili ukuzola. Jonga ukuba umntwana wakho uyayiphendula njani kwimeko yokuqala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, into esiyibona njengobulungisa ayibonakali kumntwana. Mhlawumbi ngeli xesha angathanda ukwabelana ngamathoyizi ngokwakhe. Ewe, ukuba le meko iphinda iphindiselele rhoqo kwaye umntwana wakho usebenza njengomxhasi kwididi yonke, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka. Ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukujamelana nale meko yedwa kwaye iinyembezi sele zizalise amehlo akho, zithathe le nto ezandleni zakho. Hlangana naye, sondela kummangaleli, ngokuzithoba nangokuzithoba ucele ukuba abuyisele okanye atshintshe ithoyilo, zama endaweni yakhe ukuba athathe enye. Nika enye into yokudlala xa umntwana wakho efuna oko. Ukuba ayinakunceda, mema unina ukuba ancede, kodwa ngelo xesha, gwema ukuhlambalaza, ukuze ungangcolisi uhambo lwakho okanye umntwana wakho.
Umntwana wakho udlala nabanye abantwana, kodwa akafuni ukwabelana nantoni na
Yaye makangabelani. Okanye unokuba neentloni ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuthathwa njengomdla? Kodwa le nto kuphela imbono yakho. Umntwana omncinci ukuzingca. Amathoyizi omntwana ubuncwane bakhe. Ngaba nawe ubelana ngesambatho sakho somphefumlo ngobuncwane obuncedo okanye ubunxibe bedayimane? Futhi ungakhethi, nangayiphi na imeko, kwaye unganikeli amathoyizi omntwana ukuba adlale abanye abantwana, nokuba ngaba bancinci kuneyakho. Kule meko, kumntwana wakho, uba ngumrhwebi. Kuvela ukuba unecala lomnye umtshabalali womnye umntu. Kunoko, cacisa komnye umntwana ukuba le nto iyidlala yakho eyintandokazi kumntwana wakho, kwaye umcele ukuba angathathi le nto yokudlala. Mnike enye ithoyizi ngokubuyisela. Ukuba umntwana wakho unike omnye umntwana ukuba adlale ngeemidlalo zawo, qi niseka ukuba uyidumise. Ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda "inzuzo" yezinto ezingabelana ngazo.
Umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi kunye nomqhubi
Emva kokuba uvele, abanye abantwana baqokelela amathoyizi baze bafune indawo eyahlukileyo ukuhamba? Ungazami ukuhamba nomntwana kwindawo ezodwa. Mhlawumbi usemncinci kwaye akazi ukuba ungayicinga njani iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yabanye, kwaye yingakho kukho iingxabano kunye nabantwana. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze kwiqela. Yonke ixesha ubeke izimvo kwaye uchaze kuye malunga nento eyenzekayo. Ukukhusela ingxabano phakathi kwabantwana, ngoko ngokukhawuleza xa ubona ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna ukulungiselela ukulwa okanye uthathe umdlalo womnye umntu, kha wuleke kwaye uchaze isizathu sokuba kungenakwenziwa. Mfundise ukuba atshintshe, kwaye angakhethi. Cela uxolo kwaye ufundise umntwana wakho ukuba axolise ukuba ngokukhawuleza waphukisa omnye umntu. Ukuba ukunyaniseka akuncedi, tshintsha umntana wakho komnye umsebenzi, dlala nayo kwenye umdlalo. Chaza, ngenxa yento oyenzayo. Chaza ukuba ukuba uyaqhubeka nokuziphatha ngale ndlela, uya kufuneka uhambe ekhaya. Kodwa musa ukumsongela, kodwa uchaze. Mngene umdlalo othakazelisayo kunye nezilwanyana ezincinane, amadoda amancinane, iimoto kwi-sandbox efanayo, ukuze emva kwakhe adlale nabanye abantwana kunye nemidlalo, kodwa wayexakekile ngomsebenzi wakhe. Abantwana, ngenxa yobudala babo bokuqala, abanakuqonda ukuba bayahlukunyezwa. Ngako oko, kubakho imfuneko ukuchazela oku.