1 icebo leengcebiso. Yeka ukunika iingcebiso . Yiyo imeko xa enye yeentombi zithi, zicinga ukuba zihlala ziziqhenya okanye zichaneke, zihlala zinika iingcebiso, zifundisa enye. Ngokukodwa, ixhala malunga nokuba yintoni na indlela yokwenza ngayo kule nto okanye loo meko, into enokuyenza isigqibo malunga nento ethile, ukuthenga okanye kungekho into ethile, njl njl. Ngokomthetho, okwesibini kwiintombi ziza kuziva zikhuselekile kwaye ziya kupheliswa , njengoko kuya kubonakala ngathi ngaphandle komncedi womhlobo wakhe, akakwazi ukugqiba isigqibo. Nanku kukho ukuxhomekeka kolunye umntu, olungenako ukunyamezela kuwo wonke umgaqo. Nangona kukho enye imeko apho intombi iyakucasulwa nayiphi na ingcebiso evela kwenye, kuba iya kukwazi ukusombulula le nto okanye ingxaki ngokwayo. Ekugqibeleni, kukho nawuphi na umzekelo, kukho imbono yokususa loo ntombi, ephikisana nomgomo wokuba ngabahlobo abakhulu.
2 iingcebiso. Zibonise kuwe onke macala . Kwimeko xa unamaninzi amaninzi phakathi kwamantombazana, nokuba ngaba ngabahlobo ukusuka kwixesha elixakekileyo okanye elitsha, ungabuthela ezi nkampani kwindawo enye. Ezi ntla nganiso zinokukunceda ukuba uzibonakalise ngaphesheya kwabo bobabini. Emva koko, uya kuba neengcinga ezahlukeneyo malunga ngamnye. Ekubeni unomhlobo omdala unomuva othembekileyo, oko ungatshoyo malunga nabasandul 'ukufumana, ngubani na onokuba ngumhlobo nomsebenzi. Ukuze ube ngabahlobo abakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha iintlanganiso ezinqamlekileyo, iintshukumo, iimpawu ezintsha kunye neemvakalelo ezifunekayo.
3 iingcebiso. Zama ukunyaniseka. Intombi, eqinisweni, siyidinga ngexesha elimatima: khala, uhlalise, uye kwiingqondo zakho. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Kufuneka ukuba uzame ukuhlala uphulaphule, uncede kwaye uncede, okumele kufike ngokubuyisela. Musa ukutyhola, nokuba ufuna ngokwenene ukukwenza. Emva koko, sonke singabantu kwaye sinobuqhetseba ukwenza okungaqhelekanga kuluntu, izenzo ezingalunganga. Kungcono ukumnika icebiso, indlela onokulungisa ngayo yonke into kwaye uyilungiselele. Ukuba ziintombi zamantombazana, zifanelekile kwaye zikwazi ukunandipha impumelelo yomhlobo wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomona kangakanani. Kwaye, ngokubanzi, ukuze ube ngabahlobo abakhulu, kufuneka ngokuqhelekileyo ungabandakanyi umgangatho ombi. Zama ukuzifundisa ukuba ujabule naluphi na uvuyo kunye nempumelelo yintombi yakho.
4 iingcebiso. Nika ingqalelo yakho intombi . Nangona uxakeke kakhulu, awunawo umzuzu wenkululeko kunye nosapho. Umntu onobuqili, owanelisayo, onokunyanisekileyo, onobubele, onobubele, onokuzimeleyo unokuhlala ehlela ixesha lakhe ngendlela engafanelekanga ukuba angayinaki intombi okanye intsapho. Emva kwakho konke, ukuze uqaphele umhlobo wakho omhle, awudingi ukumnika izipho ezibiza kakhulu. Unokwenza nje umangaliso ongalindelekanga, yenza umhlobo into angenakuyenza ixesha elide, umzekelo, umsebenzi othile olula kunye nezinto. Nokuba i-sms-ka elula kumnandi inokumangalisa umhlobo wakho omhle.
5 iingcebiso. Yiba njengesikolo . Kwizo zihlandlo ezikufutshane okanye ezide, ezikolweni okanye kwiikholeji, wambonana rhoqo, udibene, uthetha, wabuya, wakhala, uhleka. Awudingi ukuwela ezi zihlandlo xa usondelelene komnye nomnye. Kufuneka ukuba uzame ukulungiselela iintsuku ezidibeneyo, nokuba ngaba kanye kuphela emva kweenyanga ezintandathu. Emva kwakho konke, kucacile ukuba yonke imihla awukwazi ukubonana nje, ngamnye unentsapho yakhe, ubomi kunye nobomi. Yaye ukuba uthe waziwayo kungekudala, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuthatha intlanganiso enjalo nganiso, iintlanganiso kunye nentlalo. Olu hlobo luyakomeleza ubungqina obuyaqala kwaye luya kukuvumela ukuba ube ngabahlobo ixesha elide.
6 iingcebiso. Fumana umdla oqhelekileyo . Amantombazana kunye namava amaninzi akufanele abe neengxaki malunga neemfuno eziqhelekileyo, sele sele esele zide kunye nabo zichazwe. Emva koko, akunqabile ukuhlangabezana nabahlobo abanjalo, abangenayo inomdla. Ukuze ufumane abahlobo abatsha phakathi kwamantombazana, kufuneka ukhangele ngeenxa zonke, sele uqikelelwe ekuqaleni kokukhetha kwakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo uthanda into echaphazelekayo, unokuzonwabisa, ukubhukuda okanye enye into, akunandaba. Kuyo nayiphi na indawo unokufumana umngane onomdla, ozayo emva kokuba abe ngumhlobo ongcono. Akumangalisi ukuba nentombi intsebenziswano, kufuneka nje uthathe amanyathelo kwaye umemele endaweni ethile kwindawo enomdla kubini. Kuba oomama abaselula nabo akufanele babe nobunzima ekufumaneni abaqhelana nabo, kwisitrato unako ukudibana nomfazi onemeko efanayo. Ewe, kwaye uya kuhlala unemixholo enomdla kwintetho kunye nengxoxo. Ngenxa yokuba ubomi bethu bungahlali bemi, yonke into ishintsha rhoqo. Abantu abazungezile bayashintsha, kwaye phakathi kwabo unokuhlangana nomhlobo wakho omtsha, onokuqala naye ubuhlobo obude nobuqilima.
7 iingcebiso. Yazisa intombi . Nangona sele sele unomhlobo omdala kunye othembekileyo, ungazami ukufumana indawo esikhundleni sakhe. Awunakwenzeka ukufumana ngcono. Kwaye nangona akakuhambisani nawe ngesizathu esithile, wayehlala ehlala kufuphi, wancedwa kwaye axhaswa. Funda ukuqonda oko unakho ngoku. Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuba ziintombi zeentombi, kufuneka ufunde indlela yokunyanga ngayo, njengakho. Ukuvavanya nayiphi na imeko eye yavela kwimeko yokujonga intombi yakho, ezama ukuqonda nokuqonda indlela onokuziphatha ngayo kule nto okanye kuloo meko. Kuphela ke unako ukucaca malunga neenjongo zakhe nezenzo zakhe. Zama ukumphatha njengodade, othandekayo kunye nomntu osondelene nawe. Emva koko, mhlawumbi, uya kufumana umhlobo wenene.
Naliphi na intombazana enokuzifumana ngumhlobo ongcono, kufuneka nje ukhangelele ukusuka kwicala kwaye ubone abanye abakungeze okufanayo, kufana naziphi na iimpawu zentombazana yomlingani.