Olunye uqeqesho olugqithiseleyo luxinzelelo olunzulu kakhulu kumntwana. Kule meko, umntwana uvaliwe phantse yonke into. Oku kuvela kwisimo sakhe sokuvalela, ukuthozama okukhulu nokunyanzela ubuhlungu.
Indlela yokufumana "igolide yokuthetha" ekukhuliseni umntwana?
Uthando oluqhelekileyo kumntwana luboniswa ngabagogo kunye noomkhulu ocela iiyunithi kunye neesekese. Ingane iyazi ukuba iyakwazi ukufezekisa yonke into esuka kuyo kunye neengqungquthela zayo, kwaye imeko yelo mfuno iba yindawo yakhe evamile.
Ukuba umntwana unqatshelwe into ethile, uqala ukuhlambalaza abazali bakhe ngokungamthandi, unokukhala, akrakra. Kwimeko enjalo, kuyimfuneko ukuchazela umntwana, ngokulula nangangoko kunokwenzeka, isizathu sokwenqaba, kungamthobeli kwaye angenzi izaba. Ukuba intsana ayizange iphendule kumlawuli wecawa, kuyimfuneko ukuyicacisa ukuba ilizwi labazali ngumthetho, ukuphikisana nabo kwaye akulungile. Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa igunya labazali ngokukhawuleza, ukwenzela ukuba umntwana kamva aphathe ngokubambisana nabazali bobabini, ukuze uluvo lwakho lufaneleke kuye.
Akuyimfuneko ukuphazamisa ubudlelwane kunye nosana. Abantwana abaninzi bayaqonda abantu abadala ukuba bachaza ngokucacileyo ukuba ukuziphatha kwabo kubi. Khuthaza izenzo ezintle zomntwana, uziqhelisele ububele, inceba, ukupha. Iimpawu ezinjalo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, zichaphazela kakhulu umlingana womntu omncinci. Ukuba umntwana uqala ukufunda ukwabelana neentanga zeetyekese kunye namathoyizi, uya kumsindisa kwiingxaki ezininzi ekunxibelelaneni nasekuhambeni komva.
Musa ukwenza olunye uqeqesho olugqithiseleyo. Abanye abazali bagcina abantwana ngokungeniswa ngokupheleleyo kwaye bavumele ukuthetha nabo ngamagama athi: "Vukani!", "Musa ukunyuka!", "Hamba!", "Phuma!". Oku akunakwenziwa okanye, ngenxa yokuba unxibelelwano olunjalo lulimaza ingqondo yengane. Uqala ukwesaba abantu, uhlala wedwa, ufumana ubunzima bezinto ezinzima. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abakhuliswayo kwiimeko ezinjalo baqala ukubaphatha kakubi kubazali babo, ukuba boyike. Simele siqonde ukuba umntwana ngumntu omncinci. Ayikho yonke imfuno yakhe engenanto kunye nokuzingca.
Ukuze kuphephe ukugqithiswa kwezi zimbini ezingaphezulu kwezemfundo, zihambelane nale miqathango yokuziphatha nabantwana.
- Lumkela zonke iimfuno zomntwana. Ukwahlula iimfuno zakhe zangempela kunye neenkwenkwezi. Ungaphuthelwa iindlebe zesicelo somntwana.
- Yima ngokuqinileyo ngokwakho, wenqaba ukuzalisa i-caprice yomntwana. Emva kokubona ukuba akakwazi ukuphikisana nomzali, umntwana uya kuzincama aze aqaphele ukuba ukuba umama okanye utata wathi "hayi", oko kuthetha ukuba "hayi." Ukuba ubona impumelelo ekuphatheni komntwana, qiniseka ukumxelela oku, mbulela kuye.
- Thetha nomntwana wakho rhoqo. Mxelele oko kuthetha ukuthini "ukuziphatha kakuhle" kwaye "kukuziphatha kakubi". Mbonise imizekelo yokuziphatha okuhlukile kwabanye abantwana kwisitrato, kwintengiso, kwi-kindergarten. Ngokuqhelekileyo imimangaliso "yokuphila" yokuziphatha kakubi inomphumo omkhulu wokufundisa.
- Yakha ubudlelwane obuhle nomntwana. Yiba ngumhlobo kumntwana wakho kwasekuqaleni, kuba kuya kukunika ubuhlobo obuhle kunye nokuqonda ebusheni bakhe, obaluleke kakhulu. Abantwana abayithandi ootitshala abaqinileyo, kodwa baphulaphula onke amagama abahlobo babo abadala.
Ngubani oza kuba ngumntwana wakho kuwe.