Ugijima malunga nesiqingatha somhla nge-rag, ujika, ujikeleze, kodwa akaphendulanga kwaye uyaqhubeka nokufunda enye iphephandaba, kwaye ukuba uyabukela iTV, uyakhala kwakhona, ukuze i-TV ingavali. Oku kulandelwa ziqhwaba, iinyembezi kunye nezigqibo eziyingozi kakhulu ... kwaye yintoni umlingo ukumxelela ukuba ubuncinane enze ngathi ufuna, kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, izizathu ezibalulekileyo azikwazi. Ukunyanzela - kuthetha ukukwenza ukuze umntu enze into ethile.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda ahlukileyo kwaye abe neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokusebenza malunga nendlu. Ngoko ke, ukugqiba umbuzo wendlela yokuphoqa indoda ukuba yenze imisebenzi yasekhaya kufuneka ibe yedwa. Kukho amadoda okwenza umsebenzi wendlu aqhelekileyo kwaye "uya kuzingela". Ngokuqhelekileyo lawa madoda asebenze ixesha elide "kwi-bachelors" (ngokomgaqo: "ukuba andiyena, ke ngubani na?"). Ininzi yamadoda iyavuma ukwenza imisebenzi yasemakhaya, ukuba ibuze ngamandla, okanye yenza into enhle okanye iyimnandi. Amadoda athile ayalibala imisebenzi yawo kwaye "rhoqo" isidlo sakusasa sabo sithandwa. Ewe, amanye amadoda ayenzi ngokusemthethweni ukwenza imisebenzi yendlu, okanye acinge ukuba ngumthwalo wemfanelo wabesifazane. Kukho abo bangenawo ixesha lokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya, musa ukubeka ityala ngenxa yaloo nto, kuba loo mntu wayeyindoda yokutya kwaye kufuneka ayibonise imihla ngemihla.
Kukho izinto ezininzi abantu abazenzayo. Enye yale mkhwekazi nayo yonke into edibene nayo. Amadoda, mhlawumbi, evakalelwa ukhuphiswano ebusweni bomama-mkhwekazi, alungele ukwenza nantoni na, nje ukuba angayidliyo kunye nokuphepha iingxoxo ezingathandekiyo ekhitshini. Ewe, isicelo sokwenza okuthile malunga nendlu, ekupheleni "ngomama wosasa ozayo" okanye into enje, loo ndoda iya kwenza ngokukhawuleza, kwaye akayi kucinga ukwenza umsebenzi ayenakuze enze.
Elinye igama, apho yonke into isebenze kumntu isondo. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba xa ubeka imimiselo yokuba, ukuba awuyizalisekisi, ungamthinteli umntu wesini, ngoko usebenza ngokukhawuleza ukwenza imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo. Ewe, kukho amadoda anjalo, kodwa, khumbula, abafazi, ukuba akubona bonke abafana nabo. Ukusebenzisa le ndlela, unokukhokelela umntu kwindlela engafanelekanga, okuyiyona ndlela yokungcatsha, okucacileyo kungcono kunokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya ngokwakho. Kwaye ngeli xesha lethu leyona ndlela iyona ndlela iphumelelayo kwaye ithandwa kakhulu kumantombazana, ngoko kusebenza!
Ibinzana eliyaziwayo "indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini" iyasebenza kule meko. Xa usondle ngokufanelekileyo "into", ukuba uyifumene kunye nezinye izitha zokutya, ungathembela ngokunyanisekileyo kwintando kunye nokunyamekela komntu opheleleyo kunye onelisayo. Ngexesha elizayo, kwanokuba ukunikezelwa kwamanqaku kunokulandela, njengokuthi: "Ukudada, ngenxa yamapayi akho amnandi ndikulungele ukuhlamba izitya kunye nokukhupha udoti!".
Enye yeendlela eziphambili kakhulu kukuzilibazisa. Kubonakala kulula ukuba indoda ithwale umntwana kunomntwana. Ukuba uthengela insimbi yanamhlanje kunye nemisebenzi emininzi kunye nezinto ezahlukeneyo, qiniseka, loo mntu uya kukubuza ngokungafaniyo: "Yintoni endiyifanele ukuyifumana, ndithande?". Ungakwazi ukuthwala izinto ezininzi ezahlukileyo, kubaluleke kakhulu, ukumxelela ukuba oku kuyithakazelisayo, kuba, ngokuqhelekileyo, imisebenzi yasekhaya ayiyona into ebalulekileyo kakhulu, kwaye iyakwazi ukuthakazelisa kakhulu, kufuneka nje ukuyibonisa ngokufanelekileyo. Amadoda atywala kwaye xa umntu enza okuthile. Kuphela kufuneka uqale ukwenza izinto ngokwakho, ngoxa ungamnquli umntu omncinci, kwaye umnqweno womntu akayi kumshiya engenamdla, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyaphaya yonke into eyimthintele kwaye iya kukunceda, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uqala ukwenza umsebenzi ohlukile.
Indlela echanekileyo isekelwe kwimemori eqhelekileyo yokukhumbula. Ukuba lonke ixesha liphoqele indoda ukuba yenze imisebenzi yasekhaya, emva kwexesha uya kuthi, nangona iyakhathazeka, kodwa khumbula ngeli nqanaba elingaphantsi, kwaye ngaphandle komkhwa umntu uza kwenza umsebenzi othile.
Indoda, nangona "isinyithi", kodwa kunjalo, ayigodli iinyembezi zeentombazana. Oku kuya kumbamba ngokungabonakaliyo, kwaye uya kubeka ingqalelo. Ukuguqula umphefumlo wakhe, uya kuqonda, mhlawumbi kwithuba elithile, kodwa uya kuqonda, ukuze angakukhombezi, kufuneka enze izinto ezithile.
Amadoda, njengabasetyhini, njengoko athethayo, awanakho uvila. Qiniseka ukuba loo mntu ulele e-leotard ebhedeni, umcele ukuba ahambe kwindawo ethile, umzekelo, kwisitoreji, emva koko umntu uya kuthi: "Mhlawumbi kungcono ukwenza into ekhaya?" Ewe, ukuba umdlali wakho okhethiweyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza uphumelele esitolo, yena, njengomthetho, usebenza kwaye ekhaya.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho "ama-cadres" angenathemba, okuthi, akukho nto ingenziwa ukwenza nantoni na. Kodwa, njengoko besithi, "ukuba bebandezeleka ixesha elide-into iya kuvela." Ewe, umonde kuwe kunye nobuchule. Yaye ukhumbule: ukukhutshwa kwaye loo mntu ngokwakhe uya kuthwala!
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba unento yonke kakuhle nomntu wakho akudingeki ukuba ube ngumama wakhe wesibini. Nangona amadoda ekhetha iqabane lomzobo kamama, kodwa abayidingi umama wesibili. Amadoda ayithandi xa eyalwe kwaye awanakali malunga neengcebiso ezahlukeneyo kunye nokuhlambalaza. Indoda kufuneka iziva ekhaya kunye nasekhaya njengenkokeli. Kuyafaneleka ukukhumbuza indoda ukuba eyona nto iphambili kwimpumelelo jikelele kufuneka isebenze kwaye incede "abaphantsi". Emva koko, wonke umntu ufuna ukuba nezinto ezintle kwintsapho yakhe, kodwa wonke umntu kufuneka azi ukuba ngenxa yoko, wonke umntu kufuneka anike konke okulungileyo kwaye akufuneki kubekho namalungelo kwiintsapho. Kwakhona, ukwabelana ngemisebenzi kunokunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki ezinjalo. Masithi, ukuba unayo "yokucoca" kwigumbi lokuhlala, kufuneka ube nguwe, kungekhona omnye umntu owufuna ngakumbi.
Bonke abantu baqonda kangcono xa kuchazwa kwimodi yokuzola, ngoko musa ukuluphazamisa umoya ngaphakathi kwintsapho, kuba kusekelwe ekuqondeni. Zama kwaye ube nesineke, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukwazi ukusombulula zonke iingxaki ebomini nakubomi, kuquka le.