Ubomi, ikhaya, umsebenzi, abantwana, iingxaki, izifo ... Konke oku kukuthintela ukuba ufumane ukuzonwabisa ngokugcwele kuyo, yintoni injongo, ngokwenene, izibini zenziwa. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuba sisikhubekiso, zeziphi iintsapho ezinonwabe kunye nezivumelwano ezinamandla eziphukileyo. "Indlela yokuphakamisa indlela yokulala ngesondo nomyeni wakhe?" - zibuze abafazi. "Ngaba uyayifuna le nto?" - abo abahlukumeza ngokwesondo bahlushwa ... Ingxaki yesini kwintsapho
Uhlobo luhlelwe ukuba siphumelele ukukhanga omnye komnye kwithuba elithile. Njengoko izazinzulu zibonisa, ukuphuhliswa kwezinto ezifanelekileyo ezibangelwa utywala kunye nokuxhatshazwa komnye nomnye, ezinye ziyeka ezintathu kwiinyanga emva kokuba zidibene, ezinye emva kweminyaka emithathu kuphela. Kodwa kungekudala kamva lo mzuzu ufika. Kwaye ke abafazi, ngokuqhelekileyo baxhomekeke kuncinci ngesondo, baqale ukuzibuza: indlela yokuzibeka ngokwesini kunye nomyeni wakho, unokufumana njani indlela yokuzonwabisa?
Wethu umzimbaNgokuqhelekileyo, kuxhomekeka kakhulu kummandla womzimba. Emva kwakho konke, ngesondo elibi okanye nokuba yintetho ezitalatweni (kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ngesihloko seempendulo ezininzi), intloko yesifo kunzima ukuziva into ngaphandle kweentlungu. Akunjalo loo mtsalane-imvakalelo iyinto efihlakeleyo kunye ne-ephemeral, kodwa awuyi kuziva iphunga elithile lezitshixo zokutshiswa! Ngoko ke, ukuba umzimba usele usebenza "ngaphandle kwamandla okugqibela," ngoko luhlobo luni lwesini (esiyintsimi yokuvelisa) esinokuthetha ngayo? Umzimba uzama ukuphunyuka, kwaye ufumane ubunzima obungadingekanga kuye nantoni na!
Ngoko ke, zama ukungazidibanisi, uzame ukuphakamisa indlela yokulala ngesondo kunye nomyeni wakhe-kodwa kuya kuba yintloni, njengomfazi okhukhulayo. Umfazi onomdla ngenxa yokuba unomdla - unento yokubonisa, unako "ukubonisa" ekukhanukeni kwakhe phambi kwendoda yakhe ethandekayo.
Ngoko, phambi kwexesha lokukhulula, onokuthanda ukuzinikezela kumyeni wakho kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ngokwakho, ukulala ngesondo:
- Akukho ngaphaya kweyure ngaphambi, kodwa ungazilambeli (ngokusemngciphekweni wokunikezela ngokuthula phakathi kwama-oohs kwaye udla "umkhonto wesisu esilambayo");
- Musa ukusela i-diuretics (kubo, ngokulandeleleneyo, kwaye iyakuthandwa yi-tea ehlaza eluhlaza), thintela ukungcola (okwenzisayo ukuphazamiseka kumzuzu wothando ohambweni lwendlu yangasese);
- Qinisekisa (ziphulaphule, kuba oogqirha ekliniki ngokungqinileyo "bhinqa") oziva ulungile.
"Susa abantwana kwiskrini!"
Olandelayo, kungekhona umzuzu osisigxina-wengqondo. Hayi, i-psyche yethu ilungiselelwe ukuba iintlobano zesini kwisango okanye umngcipheko wokubanjwa ngumama esizenzayo ngexesha. Kwamanye, ewe, kwaye emva kokuba ufuna ukuvuyisiswa, kodwa nakubani na, abantwana bethu abanecala lokukhungatheka kwethu. Ngoko ke, ukuba kukho umngcipheko wokuba umntwana uza kubuya esikolweni kungekudala, kungcono ukuhlehlisa isondo kuze kube ngoMgqibelo, xa (ngokulandela isithethe kwangaphambili) uthumela abantwana ukuba batyelele ugogo wakho. Emva koko, kwiimeko ezinjalo, xa ibhinqa lingaziva lizolile kwaye likhuselekile, kunzima ukuzama ukutshintsha indlela ethile yokuziphatha ngesondo nomyeni wakhe.
Imida yexesha
"Yintoni esinayo ngexesha? Ukwabelana ngesondo? "
Ingaba ibinzana elikhulu ukusuka kum melodrama malunga nomfazi ongenamdla okanye i-prelude yefilimu yolu hlobo "I-X X". Kodwa ebomini bokwenene ukuzilungelelana ngokwesini nomyeni wakhe, xa kuye kukho imizuzu elineshumi elinesibini, akukho ngqiqo. Ibhinqa ivakalelwa okanye isetyenziswe ngandlela-thile xa i-brazen and unceremoniously "ikram" kwixesha elifanelekileyo. Njengokuba wayeyi-chef kwi-yokutyela kwaye kwafuneka azalise umyalelo womntu.
Incwadi kufuneka iyalwe ngumfazi-nangona bethetha ukuba ingongoma ephambili ngokwesini kuxhomekeke kumadoda. Kakade ke, ekuhambeni kwexesha, i-libido yomyeni wayo inika inkxaso (ngokukodwa kuthelekiswa namaxesha omncinci wolutsha). Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele ukhangele amehlo kwaye "ubambe" abo baxabisekileyo kwiminyaka emi-2-5 xa wayefuna.
"Imizuzu elishumi, ukuhamba ngokuqhelekileyo!"
Ibhinqa ngokubanzi kunzima kwisini. Ukuba umnqweno womntu uyanyamalala, ininzi yesini, njengomthetho, iyayeka. Kwaye unokufuna ngandlela-thile, kwaye emva kwemizuzu embalwa i-caresses iyinto enyanyekayo. Kwaye ngoku uguqula ulawulo lwengcamango, kwaye kwakhona kulungile ... Ungazibeka njani ukulala ngesondo kunye nomyeni wakho xa uhlala uthanda into ethile, ungayithandi nto leyo?
Kufuneka uthethe. Kufuneka uchaze kwaye ukhuthaze. Ubuncinane bokuqala, xa uqaphela ukuba nguwe - ingonyama, i-tigress, isilwanyana. Ufumana eyakho, kunye neyure-milinganiselo (ngokufanelekileyo, ndiza kumela wena, mzalwana, ngokuba mhlawumbi ungilungisa) - ayifanelekanga. Ukukhutshwa yinto engunaphakade, oku kuyanelisa (abaxhamli balambile). Yaye yintoni uhlobo lokulamba okokuqala, ukuba udla "ukunyamezela", ucinga ukuba lixesha lokupenda idilesi?
Isiqubulo esikhulu senkosikazi ebhediniKwiindawo ezininzi, umfazi unelungelo lokuhlala elungileyo, elinobubele, elinobuchule kunye novelwano. Ngokomnye umbhali, unako "uthele ubisi." Kodwa ngesondo - le yintsimi apho ixesha lokugqoka i-bra eyisixhobo, ukukhula kwamazinyo kunye nezihlunu. Kwaye kukwabelana ngesondo, isiqubulo somfazi kukuba ukhethe igama elifutshane elithi "Thatha!"
Ulwimi lwesiRashiya, ngokuqinisekileyo, lulahla ukuphazamiseka. "Nika", "unike", kwaye mhlawumbi kakhulu - "davalka." Kodwa oku akunjalo! Amadoda ayakuthanda kakhulu oko batyala khona. Ngoko, ixesha lokuthabatha. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufunde oko "kukuthi", kwaye kufuneka nje uze uze uthathe isondo - uya kuba luvuyo. Ngaphandle kokucwangciswa. Kungaqhelekanga. Mhlawumbi kungalunganga okanye kakubi. Kwaye akuyi kulungiswa. Kuya kuba yithuba lokuba ufumane oko nangoko ungathanda namhlanje ...