Ngoko uyitsho njani intombazana malunga nesondo ngaphandle kokumlimaza nokumnika ingcamango efanelekileyo malunga nale ngxaki?
Awukwazi
Awukwazi ukubiza umntwana ngokuthe ngqo kwingxoxo enjalo enzima, uzimisele ukuba ixesha lifikile. Incoko enjalo kufuneka ivele ngokukhawuleza, okanye ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe uyabuza malunga nayo.
Musa ukushiya isihloko, sithetha into enje, "Khula, funda" .... Emva koko, ukuba umntwana unomdla, kubalulekile ukuba uchaze, ngaphandle koko ulwazi luya kukhangela kwenye indawo kwaye kungekhona ukuba le ngcaciso iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo.
Awukwazi ukwenza inkolo ngaphandle kwesondo, esi simo sengqondo sibeka ulwazi kumntwana, sibangela umdla, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo sibuhlungu, sinengxaki.
Ubudala
Abazali kaninzi abaqondi ukuba yiyiphi iminyaka ekumele bayitshele ngomntwana kumntwana, balinde umbuzo kumntwana. Kodwa, kuya kuba kulungile ukuba imfundo yesondo yomntwana iza kuvela kumntwana, oko kukuthi, ingcamango yokuqala yesondo kufuneka ibe xa umntwana ebuza ukuba livelaphi. Ewe, apha ibali kufuneka libe lincinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Musa ukuthetha ngeklabishi, ivenkile kunye nesorkork. Kungcono ukuxelela ukuba ubaba watyalisa imbewu kwisisu somama kunye nendodana okanye intombi yazalwa.
Intsha yentsha
Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba ixesha lilahlekile, kwaye umntwana omdala, malunga neminyaka eyi-10-13 ubudala, wabuza abazali ngesondo. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokuthetha ngesondo kumntwana osemtsha? Emva koko, umntwana uyabuza, kuba uqala ukuba nomdla kulwalamano lwesini. Amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe athonyana, baqala ukuba ngabahlobo, ukuthetha.
Ukuba uthetha nomntwana wakho ngesondo ngokuthe ngqo, ngaphandle kokugwema izinto ezininzi "ezixhasayo" kwintetho, oko kukuthi, ungayichazela njani ngesondo somlomo, ngezifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, ngoko uya kuziphepha ezininzi izinto ezingathandekiyo.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ubulili abubi, kodwa buhle kakhulu. Kwimeko apho uthe ulwabelana ngesondo akulungile, umntwana uyayeka ukuqonda amagama akho, akunyanzele.
Intombazana, ukuthetha ngesondo, kulula ngakumbi kunenkwenkwe. Kwabamantombazana, ukuqala ukuthetha ngethuba lokuqala kokuya esikhathini. Ngenkwenkwe, kunzima ukuthetha ngesondo. Mhlawumbi kufanele kwenziwe yipapa, okanye uhlobo oluthile lomntu osondeleyo.
Yithi isondo kufuneka siqale ngokubanga kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe sibheke kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoncedo lo kuphuza, kukho ixesha lokuyeka. Sitshele ukuba isondo kufuneka sigcwaliswe ngothando.
Intombazana kufuneka ifundiswe ukuba ithi "cha" ngokuqinile. Emva koko, ukuthula okuthobekileyo, okubonwa ngabafana, njengombala obomvu kwaye baqala ukwenza. Amakhwenkwe ngokwabo, maqiniseke ukuba intombazana ifuna ukulala ngesondo. Kwaye abafana kufuneka bafundise oku. Kudinga ukuthetha ngomthwalo wokudlwengula kunye nokuhlukunyezwa ngokwesini.
Ngoku, abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ukusebenzisa isondo ngomlomo akunakufumana izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, kodwa akunjalo. Ngoko ke, umsebenzi wakho ukuchaza oku kwindodana okanye intombi yakho.
Ndixelele ukuba akufanele ulale ngesondo ngenxa yokuba "yonke into isele ikhona, kodwa andiyikho." Kubalulekile ukumthanda umlingane, kwaye ngoko isondo kuya kuba mnandi. Sitshele ngento yokuba ubulili bubophelela kakhulu abantu kwaye ke kunzima ukuba bahlukane kwaye abantu bayazisola ngezinto abazenzayo. Sitshele ukuba kwi-zesini kukho ukukhulelwa kwaye akusoloko kuthanda.
Bobabini abazali kufuneka bathathe inxaxheba kwingxoxo. Umama uya kuthetha ngecala lomfazi lo mbambano, utata ukhangele ngecala lomntu.
Unokusebenzisa uncwadi olufanelekileyo, ukuze uchaze into ethile kwintombazana yakho.