Ukungavumelani phakathi kwabaqeqeshi
Kodwa yintoni omele uyenze xa ifika ngokubonakala kamsinya komntwana? Ngaba kufuneka ndibone umyeni wam ukuba uya kukhanya njani? Abaninzi bezocansi bathi emva kweso siganeko, isibini siqala ukuba neengxaki. Ngomzuzu xa unina unexesha elincinane lokulungelelanisa nokuphulukana nezikhefu, lo mntu uyaxhatshazwa. Kodwa i-sutures izayo okanye kamva iya kususwa, kwaye i-psyche eyonakalisiweyo ingaba nemiphumo engapheliyo. Kulo mbandela, izazi zengqondo ziyavumelani: ezinye zivuma ukuba ukuzalwa kwesibini kuya kunceda isibini sitshatile, kwaye abanye bathi, ngokuchaseneyo, oku kukuxinzeleleka kwengqondo ukuba abafazi banokuphila ngokubandakanya ukuthambekela koomama, okungakhanyanga kubameli bezesondo ezinamandla.
Ukwazisa "amaxhoba"
Enyanisweni, kukho amaxesha amaninzi apho umntu oswele ubuncinane. Kodwa ukuba unethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukubona inkqubo kuyo yonke imibala yayo, ngoko-mpendulo mayingenakuqikelela. Ngamanye amaxesha abameli bendlu yamadoda, abaye baphila ngale mizuzu, bayavuma ukuba emva kohlobo olunjalo zonke izizathu zomzimba zeqabane lakho zanyamalala. Ngexesha elifanayo, isibini sitshatile ngomnye nomnye, kuba sincedisa kwintsapho yabo, kodwa abanako ukubandakanya ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. U-Akak uyaziwa kakuhle, imitshato emininzi iyaphula ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuthambekela okubuthathaka, utshintsho luya kwelinye iqabane kunye nolunye: oluhle ngakumbi, olunomdla kunye nolwabelana ngesondo. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukuhlawula intsapho ngenxa yokuzonwabisa?
Izwi leSizathu
Ukuba ukhangele imeko yephupha elinjalo elibuhlungu, ke ubuninzi obuya kunika umntu, kuba iqabane lifuna ukuzala kunye, kukubamba umfazi ngesandla. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba umyeni abone oko kuhloswe kubagqithisi. Elinye iphuzu elibalulekileyo linokugxininiswa kwindlela abafazi besenza ngayo. Umfazi akayena nje umama wengane yakhe yesikhathi esizayo, kodwa umyeni wakhe naye. Ngethuba lokubeletha, ubukho bomyeni bunokubangela ukuxhalabisa kunye nokuxinezeleka, kuba umfazi akayi kuva nje intlungu kwaye akhathazeke ngumntwana, kodwa nangenxa yendoda kunye nemeko yakhe. Ngoko ke umntu kufuneka acinge kabini ngaphambi kokuba enze isigqibo sokugqibela.
Inxalenye ethile yembali
Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, kuye kwaziswa kwabasetyhini ekudibeneyo. Akuzange kubekho amadoda athathe le nxalenye, ngaphandle kwendima yogqirha. Kodwa okwangoku iifashthi zentambo zithatha iingqondo zabantu kwaye zizisa zona, azihlali ziqhamo, iziqhamo. Ukuba uhlobo lubavuza abafazi abanesi sipho, ke i-destiny yabenza ukuba bafeze le mihla yamandulo kwisigramente.
Kwiingxabano ngokubonakalisa ukuziva, sinokuthi indoda iya kumthanda umntwana wayo. Ukuba ufuna ukukhawulezisa inkqubo yokuhlala, ke vumela umntu wakho ukuba alinde ngaphandle komnyango, kwaye xa umntwana ebonakala ehlabathini mayeke ababelethisi banike uyise ukuba abambe iikhebhu zomntwana. Oku mhlawumbi kuyona ndlela ikhethekileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuzigcina uxinzelelo olungadingekile, uhlale unomdla, njengowesifazane kumlingane wakho, unike uyihlo uxhumano nomntwana kwaye uqiniseke ngokuqinisekileyo ngesiphumo esihle somcimbi.