Amadoda amaninzi asoloko asivuza ngokuzimela ngegama elithi "ikati": i- pussycat, i-kitten, i-kisyunya, i-kisulya kunye nabanye. Oku kuthetha ukuba intanda yakho ithandana kakhulu kwaye ipholile. Ngomntu onjalo awusoze wakhathazeka. Ulungele ukudla nawe kwelinye ilizwe, ulungiselele intlanganiso yothando phezu kophahla, ubhale amagama othando kwi-asphalt uze wenze isondlo kwivenkile yokudlela, emi ngedolo elinye. Olu hlobo "lwamadoda" ngexesha lethu alikho rhoqo. Kwizandla zobulumko zowesifazane, kungumntu ongu-godsend!
Ukuba indoda yakho ikubiza nje "intanda" - oko kuthetha ukuba usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo emsebenzini. Ngoko ke, kumlingani wabo bafuna into ebizwa ngokuthi "ichweba elithulekileyo". Lowo ungakhathala ukhathele ukuba usebenze ngokuhlwa, uthetha kwaye ulale ndawonye. La madoda kufuneka alandelwe ngokunyamekela nokunyamekela. Bahlalisane ngothando kunye nokunyamekela, ngoko iqabane elinjalo liya kuba yinkxaso yakho ethembekileyo kwintsapho.
Ukuba usetyenziswe ukuva "intlanzi yam" kwidilesi yakho, kufuneka uqaphele naloo qabane. Amadoda alolu hlobo ahlale engafuni ukuhlala ixesha elide kunye nokuthile okuza kubuhlobo, ukugcina uhambo olufutshane kungekhona umsebenzi wabasetyhini abangenamandla. Ukuba usafuna "ukuhlawula" kwaye ugcine indoda enjalo, kuya kufuneka uyenzele kuye isiko kunye nesithandwa kwintliziyo yakhe yokuphumla - umnike uxolo noxolo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, unako ukudibana namadoda abiza abo abathandekayo "abakhethiweyo," "igolide yam," kunye nayo yonke into edibene negolide. Iingcali zengqondo zithi a maqabane anjalo yimali nobutyebi kwindawo yokuqala. Nangona kunjalo, kubonakala ngathi i-epithets enjalo kufuneka ichasene nexabiso leqabane. Ngokuqhelekileyo, la magama anokuvakala kubantu abafuna ukufumana imali okanye ukulungiswa kwimisebenzi yabo ngoncedo lwakho.
Isiteketiso esithandekayo "ilanga", "ilanga" libeka uxanduva lweVsosredelennuyu. Indoda yakho ikujonga "ikariti yokutyelela", oko kukuthi, kufuneka ukhanyise yonke indawo naphi na. Okokuthi, umfazi osondele kwindoda enobuqili kufuneka ahlale ephazamisekile kwaye abe phezulu, ukuze angawa phambi kwabanye aze angazitholi emehlweni akhe. Ukuba loo nto ibhinqa liphumelele, ngoko akufuneki ukuba yenze into ethile ngokukodwa kule nto - ibini elihle kakhulu. Ukuba akunjalo, ngoko uya kufuneka uzame kanzima ukuba ube yinto efanelekileyo kubantu kunye nomgangatho.
Ukuba umntu ekubiza ngokuba "bun," "umncedisi," okanye amagama amabizo afanayo, kuthetha ukuba oku akufunayo ukukubona - "ikhaya." Kufuneka ube ngumhlekazi onguhle kuye. Amadoda anjalo ayawuthanda kakhulu indlela yokuphila eyomeleleyo kangangokuba indlu ihlala ihlambulukile kwaye ihlambulukile, kwaye kufuneka ihlale idla isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye ilungele ukufika kwayo ... Kwakhona kufuneka ube ngumama ococekileyo kubantwana. Ukuba engathethi oku, akuthethi ukuba engacingi ngabantwana, sele ecebise yonke into. Kulo qabane, kufuneka ulungele ukuqedela iikhosi ukuze ummangalise ngendalo yakho. Mfundisi ubugcisa bowesifazane, umgcini wendlu, umfazi wesininzi kunye nezinye izinto "zasekhaya" ezizodwa. Ulungele oku? Ukuba kunjalo, uya kuphumelela. Intsapho yakho iya kuba yomelele kwaye inokwethenjelwa, kodwa ubomi buya kuba buqhelekileyo. Ngenxa yokuba "abaphathikazi" kufuneka bahlale ekhaya, babukele abantwana, bapheke kwaye akudingeki bathathe nantoni na. Kwakhona, umele ulibale iintlanganiso rhoqo kunye neentombi zakho, kuba ezi zinto ziyakunciphisa ubomi bakho.
Indlela yokuqonda umntu obiza ngokuthi "umntwana" okanye "umntwana" ? Abaqabane abanjalo abayithandanga ukuzithemba, benze izicwangciso zexesha elizayo kunye nobude obude obuya kukhula baba yinto engakumbi, oku akunakutsholwa. Kodwa umntu onjalo ungumthandi ofanelekileyo. Kuye uya kuziva ukhethekileyo, ukumkanikazi. Kwakhona unokuba ngabahlobo abakhulu abaza kuchitha ixesha kunye kunye. Mkhulu kunelo, awuyi kulinda. Olu khetho luyilungelelaniso kwiintlanganiso ezingapheliyo. Ukuba unokwabelana ngemigaqo efanayo neqabane lakho, olu lwalamano luhle kuwe. Kodwa uya kuvuma, kungekudala okanye kamva uza kufuna into ebalulekileyo kunye nokudlala ixesha elide.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likubiza ngokuthi "lilamnandi," ngoko ufumene ukhetho oluhle lokuhlala kunye. Kuphela ukuba umntu akayinto engquzulwano kwaye ayikho into ehlaziyileyo. Nangona umntu onjalo uya kuba nzima kakhulu ukuxabana nento ethile, kuba uhlala ezama ukuphuma kwimpikiswano kuzo zonke iindlela. Ngamanye amazwi, loo mlingani uxolo kakhulu kwaye uzinzile. Musa ukumenza amahlazo, uhlaziyo, ungaxubushe nabanye abantu emva kwakho, kwaye uya kuthandwa, ujabule kwaye uphile kwimpumelelo, uya kukuphatha ngezandla.