Ukuvakalelwa ngothando kunokuthelekiswa nokunyanyiswa. Umxhwele utshaya yonke into endleleni yayo. Ezi zihlandlo ebomini naziphi na izibini ezingenakulibaleka.
Uthando luni iminyaka? Izazinzulu kunye neengqondo zeengqondo, ngenxa yemvavanyo kunye nodliwano-ndlebe oluqhutyelwe, kuboniswe ukuba uthando oluqinileyo lunomphefumlo-esilinganisweni kwiminyaka emine.
Kuthiwani ngokukhangela ngesondo? Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwenzeka ukuba abantu bahlume ngokukhathala komnye nomnye ngokwemigqaliselo yesondo - ukukhanga kwinqanaba lomzimba liyalala. Kwaye, isondo senzeke ngaphantsi nangaphantsi, kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, isondo sichitha ngokupheleleyo kwibudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.
Ubude obungakanani na ubuhlobo ngaphandle kwesondo?
Ngokudakisayo, kodwa ngexesha lethu, ukungabi nesondo kwi-intsebenziswano akusayi kuphanga. EJapan, umzekelo, inani elikhulu lamabhangqa ephakamileyo livuma ukuba akukho isondo kwezobudlelwane babo. Oku akuhlaziyiyo ukuthetha kuwo onke amaphephandaba. Ukungabikho kwesondo eJapan kumntu kusemgangathweni, kodwa kukho abo bahluphekileyo kule ngxaki.
Enyanisweni, ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwesondo buhlala ixesha elide. Kukho izibini ezingabandezeli nakubonqongophala ngokwesini, qhubeka uhlala kunye, ukudala iintsapho ezinqabileyo nezonwabileyo. Nayi imizekelo embalwa yeebini zibini.
Amaqabane asebenza kakuhle. Ubundlobongela ngabo akubonakaliswa yothando okanye isibambiso sokuphila kwentsapho yolonwabo . Ubuhlobo babo sele buvisisana. Bayazi indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo ngenye indlela: i-caresses, inhlonipho yeqabane. Kuba iibinibini ezinjalo ziyanelisa kakhulu ukuhamba ngepaki yekwindla ngaphaya komnye, zichithe ngokuhlwa emva kwentetho ephuma entliziyweni okanye, uhleli phambi kweTV, udibanise izandla uze uhlale ucebile.
Kwaye, ungamangalisi, izibini ezinjalo azifani nemithetho. Ukuba umntu akayi kufana nokufanelana ngesondo - uthando kunye nolonwabo, ngoko kuya kuba nzima ukwenza ubudlelwane obude kunye obuhlala ngaphandle kobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Enye inguqu yobudlelwane, apho kungekho isondo. Amaqabane amelana nomntu osondeleyo kwi-airplane. Ngokuqhelekileyo banabantwana, ubomi obuhle. Yintoni enomdla kakhulu, ngabahlobo abahle kunye nabalingani, kodwa akukho isondo kwezobudlelwane babo. Phakathi kwabo kukho isivumelwano-ngokwesini kuvunyelwe, kodwa "kwicala", oko kukuthi, nabanye abantu.
Emva koko, ubudlelwane obude buhlala ngaphandle kwesondo, ukuba zonke iinkalo ziyanelisa bobabini - indoda kunye nowesifazane. Ngemvume kuphela, "Utsapho-nosapho, kunye nesondo ngasecaleni" uya kuzisa ulonwabo kunye nomqondo wokuvisisana kwezi nxu lumano.
Ngelishwa, imodeli enjalo yentsapho ayinalo ikamva elizweni lethu, kuba bonke baqhele ukukholelwa ukuba amadoda ethu avunyelwe yonke into, kunye nesiphumo sowesifazane - ukusebenza, ikhaya, abantwana.
Ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwesondo banelungelo lokuba khona, ukuba ngaba bobabini abalingani baziva bekhululekile kwiimeko ezinjalo. Kodwa, yintoni enokuyenza xa kungekho bulili phakathi kobudlelwane bakho ixesha elide, kodwa awuyithandi neze.
Ngokwezibalo, ngenxa yokungabikho kwesondo, abafazi bahlupheka kakhulu. Oku kuyachaphazela kokubili kwengqondo kunye nempilo.
Ziziphi iziphumo zolu meko ngokuqhelekileyo zifunyanwa ngumfazi? Uqala ukubheka nawuphi na uhlobo lomsebenzi, okwazi ukuphazamisa iingcamango ezibuhlungu. Kungaba nayiphi na into: umsebenzi, ezemidlalo, uthando. Ingcamango enye - musa ukushiya umzuzu omnye ukucinga malunga nokungabikho kwesondo.
Kodwa, ukuba awufuni ukuhlukana nobudlelwane obungasondelanga ixesha elide, ukuba umntu wakho useyabiza, ke enye injongo kukuzama ukuyicombulula le ngxaki kwaye ubuyisele ubulili obude ulinde ubuhlobo.