Ngenxa yoko, ukuze uqonde ukuba kutheni umfana engathandi umama, kufuneka uqonde izizathu zakhe. Kuphela ukwazi izizathu zokungazithandi, unokugqiba isigqibo kwaye uyenze, ukuba umntu ulungele zonke izinto, kufuneka ulwe ukuze unqume unina. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukwenza nto kwaye uyamnqanda umama, kodwa oku kuya kunzima kuphela imeko. Khumbula ukuba nawuphi na umama obaluleke kakhulu ulonwabo lomntwana wakhe. Mhlawumbi loo mntu akayithandi isizathu sokuba engamboni njengendoda ethembekileyo. Isizukulwana esikhulileyo asithandi abantu abaselula banamhlanje, kuba bakholelwa ukuba abantu abaselula abakwazi ukufikelela nantoni na ukudala intsapho eqhelekileyo.
Kakade, oku akusiyo kuphela isizathu. Ngako oko, ukuze uqonde ukuba yintoni enokuyenza xa abafana bengathandi umama wakho, qalisa ukuhlala phantsi kwaye uxoxe naye ngolu hlobo. Khumbula ukuba lo mntu udala kwaye unengqiqo kunawe. Ngoko, mhlawumbi ulungile. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa sithandayo, sizama ukucamisela into enqwenelayo, kwaye asiyikubona ezininzi iimpazamo zayo. Xa umntu emjonga ngaphandle, ubona ngakumbi kwaye uzama ukusixwayisa kwiiphene kunye nezigqibo ezingalunganga. Ngoko ke, ukuba umfana akayithandi kuphela umama wakho, kodwa nabanye abantu abasondeleyo, basacinga ngamagama akhe. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, kuba yena akathethiwa ngumona wesisu, kodwa ngokuqonda, okwanelanga kuwe ngoku. Ngoko zama ukucinga ngokucacileyo kwaye uzame ukuqonda isizathu sokuba umama athethe ngale ndlela. Mhlawumbi uza kuvuma kunye naye uphinde ucinge ngobuhlobo kunye nesoka lakho.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umama usengalunganga, zama ukumkholisa. Musa nje ukuyicombulula iingxaki ngoncedo lokumemeza kunye neentlanzi. Khumbula ukuba kumama usengumntwana. Yaye xa, ngaphandle kokuveza iingxabano, intombi iqala ukuhlambalaza, unina kwakhona uyaqiniseka ukuba akakhulelanga, ngoko ke akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo. Isiphumo ngumnqweno womama wokugqiba isigqibo kuwe konke, kuba uzilumko kunye nomdala.
Ngoko, endaweni yokuphindaphinda njengengqungquthela ukuba inkwenkwe yakho iyona nto ibhetele, kwaye engayiqondi into, thola ukuba yintoni engafani nanjengomama wakho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba umntu osemncinci akafuni ukuthanda iinjongo kwaye akanakukwazi ukufezekisa into, umqinisekise ukuba le ngcamango iphosakeleyo. Ukuze wenze oku, xelela unyoko ngempumelelo yomntu wakho kwizifundo nasemsebenzini, malunga nezicwangciso zakhe, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuphunyezwa kwazo. Makuqonde ukuba yintoni umfana oyifunayo kwaye unokuhlala ebomini ngumntu, kwaye awusoze walahleka naye.
Ukuba umama akayithandi ukubonakala komntu (umzekelo, nguye ummeli weso naluphi na uhlobo oluthile), umchazele ngokucacileyo ukuba intetho yomntu kwiingubo ayikuchaphazeli konke uphuhliso lwengqondo kunye nentlalo. Ukuba umama uyayiqonda loo nto, nangona iitoni zentsimbi inikwe umfana wakho, usebenza emisebenzini emibini kwaye ufumana amanqaku aphezulu kakhulu eyunivesithi, isimo sakhe sengqondo siya kutshintsha kakhulu.
Ukongezelela, umfana kufuneka ukuba akwazi ukukholisa abazali bakhe. Kakade, musa ukumnyanzela umntu ukuba ahambe ngomtya kwaye aziphathe ngendlela echanekileyo. Kodwa ke, xa esesangqa sentsapho yakho, makabe ehlala kwisiseko senkcubeko. Ukuba indoda encinci ihamba kunye neentyantyambo zeentyantyambo kumama wayo kunye nebhotile ye-cognac kayise, ngokukhawuleza abazali baya kuqonda iimpawu zakhe zokunakwa.
Kwakhona, umama kufuneka abone ukuba le ndoda ihlonipha kwaye ikukhusela. Ngoko makazame ukuziphatha kwisangqa sentsapho yakho njengomntu oyinyaniso. Ngendlela, kulungile, ukuba kuye kuyindlela eqhelekileyo yokuziphatha, kuba kwimeko yomdlalo kubazali, usacinga ukucinga ukuba unina ungeyonto engalunganga njengoko ucinga.
Ukongeza, akufanele kulungiswe kunye nabazali ukucacisa ubuhlobo. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba, kwindawo yokuqala, igama elibi lithethiweyo kwisikhokelo sakho, umama ubona njengento yokuhlambalaza. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngakwesinye icala, uyaqonda ukuba kuzo zonke ubudlelwane, izinto azihlali zihamba kakuhle. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokuyinhloko ungumama ongeke avumele umfokazi ukuba akhubekise ungokoqobo kunye noluthandwayo - wena. Ngoko zama ukuzinikezela kangangoko kunokwenzeka kunyoko kumama wakho kwimpikiswano kunye nentsha. Khumbula ukuba nawuphi na igama elibi elibhekiselwe kwicala lakhe, kwamehlo akhe awela emininzi elungileyo. Xa utshilo ngakumbi ukuba umfana wakho umbi kangakanani, umama uya kuqiniseka ukuba unelungelo.
Musa ukulibala ukuba xa sikhubekile, sithatha ukutyekela ngokubanzi-ukuhlaziya yonke into. Ngako oko, into oyitshoyo kumama wakho, inokubheka ngokwenene kumazwi akho kakhulu kunokuba kunjalo.
Akufanele uthabathe ilinen ecocekileyo ngaphandle kwendlu yakho kwaye usasabalalise kubahlobo kunye nosapho. Ewe, xa uziva uhlungu, ufuna ukwabelana ngeentlungu zakho. Kodwa ngethuba elifutshane uzonqabisa uze ubalekele oko kwenzeka, kodwa abazali bakho bakhumbula konke kwaye baqale ukuphatha inkwenkwe yakho ngokukrokra okukhulu. Kwaye oku akusikho iphoso labo njengelenu. Ngoko soloko uzama ukuzibamba, khuluma ngomntu ontle, kodwa ungaguquli intonga. A. Okubaluleke kakhulu, khumbula ukuba nangona unina akalungile, usengumama owenza konke ngenxa yokuba uyakuthanda ngaphezu kobomi.