Kwiminyaka yethu yanamhlanje kwaye iphela ngokukhululekileyo, intombazana enhle yincinci iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo isele iqhelekile.
Nangona kunjalo, izizathu zolu hlobo ziyaqhubeka zinomdla kwaye zixutyushwa ngokubanzi, kuba azibonakali ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye kukho, kubonakala ngathi, ukubonakala kubaluleke kakhulu kubasetyhini, kwaye ukubonakala okubonakalayo kukukhatywayo yokuphumelela ebomini obonwabileyo obufanayo. Nangona kunjalo, ngokweengxelo, ubuninzi bobuhle banqabile ulonwabo, ngenxa yokuba umntu akanako ukuonwaba yedwa.
Okanye akukhona malunga nokubonakala? Emva kwakho konke, unako ukubona amantombazana aqhelekileyo, aqhelekileyo, abizwa ngokuthi "amagundane egciniweyo", ajikelezwe inani elikhulu lamadoda ngaphezu kwamantombazana abo angaphandle. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Makhe sibone ukuba kutheni amantombazana amahle ehlala esedwa? Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto.
Kwilizwe lethu, ubuhle besifazana yintengiso. Le ngcamango ukususela ebuntwaneni kuya kuthi kwintloko yeendaba eziphathekayo, intengiso kunye noluntu olugqithisileyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba sinokuthetha kangakanani ngobuhle bomphefumlo, malunga nehlabathi elingaphakathi kunye neyona nto ephambili ngokomoya kwihlabathi elibonakalayo, amantombazana, kwaye emva koko amantombazana afuna ukuba mhle kunabo bonke, ngoko ke ahlakaniphile, anomusa, onobubele. Kungenxa yokuba iphepha lamaphephancwadi amafashini - ubuhle, kuba iimboniso zethelevishini - ubuhle, ngenxa yeentombi kunye nabafazi bezombusazwe, abadlali, abadlali be-pop - ubuhle. Ubuhle ngumqondiso osebenzayo, imeko ebalulekileyo kwimpilo ephumelelayo. Ukuba unethamsanqa ukuzalelwa ngokuhle, ngoko umsebenzi wakho kukugcina, ukwandisa kwaye uthengise ubuhle bakho ekugqibeleni ngokugqithiseleyo. Kodwa akukho ntengiso, akukho ntshukumo ecacileyo efundisa amantombazana ukuba ubuhle buyinto ezayo, yesikhashana, engathembekiyo, leyo, ngolimi lwemiqathango yezoqoqosho, ayikwazi ukuba yinkunzi ethembekileyo.
Ukongezelela, ubuhle "obunqunu" obusetyhini bungenamandla. Ngamaxesha amaninzi sibheka amantombazana athandwayo angenanto-iidonki, amantombazana enundu, ngaphandle kwekhangelo labo langaphandle, abananto nto yabo kwiimpahla zabo: akukho mfundo, akukho mnqweno wokwenza into ebomini, akukho zifiso, akukho zicwangciso ezicacileyo zobomi, ngaphandle kweyodwa - fumana umxhasi ocebileyo. Yaye la maqhuba aya kwi-golden light of wealth and burns in it, asele emva kweeveli zineziphumo ezingenakuphumelela.
Kodwa kwenzeka enye indlela - ngokuqhelekileyo abahlakaniphile abanengqondo abanezemfundo ebalulekileyo kunye nomsebenzi bahlala bodwa. Kwaye kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo.
Okokuqala, intombazana enjalo iyazi ukuba iyayixabisa. Kwaye, njengomthetho, eli xabiso liphezulu ukuya ekungenakwenzeka. Njengoko bethetha, "kungekhona kuwe, abaqhelekileyo, umama wandiphakamisile. Ngako oko kuzalwa umfazi omnquba, ongenakulinganiswa. Kwaye nguye oba ngumqobo wokuqhelana nomlingane onokuthi angene. Inkokheli yendoda iya kukhwankqiswa ngumfanekiso "wendoda yesinyithi", kwaye amadoda abuthathaka asetyenziswa ukuyalelwa aya kuba nesibindi sokuya kumfazi onjalo oqhayisa.
Ngaloo ndlela kulandela "okwesibini" - amantombazana amahle ahlala ebeleka engqondweni yabantu malunga neengcamango ezinjalo: "zintle, zininzi abalandeli; kuthetha, ngokuqinisekileyo yedwa; oko kuthetha ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kutshabalalisa, kwaye ngenxa yoko-akufanele kulungiswe. " Okwangoku, le ntombazana inokuziqhayisa okanye ihlazileyo ukuba ibe ngowokuqala ukwazi umfana oyithandayo. Okanye mhlawumbi ugogo owamkhulisayo, oye waqhubeka eqhubeka naye kumzukulwana wakhe, ukuba "amantombazana ahloniphekileyo akayena owokuqala ukuba aqhelane naye" kukusola. "
Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzithemba ngokwaneleyo nokuzikhukhumeza kunye nokuziphatha okunempilo kufuneka kube nantoni na, kodwa (!) Yanele kwaye iphilile. Awudingi ukuba yi-bitch epheleleyo, kuba kunye neyona ndlela ebalaseleyo, ebonakalayo ekhangelekayo, ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana ahlala elololiwe ngenxa yokukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba, benobuhle kangaka, banokuze bafune ukubonisa rhoqo abakhohlisi. Ngoko ukuba indoda ingakwazi ukuyazi, yidayimani ebiza, efuna unyango olukhethekileyo, kwaye yonke into evunyelwe yona, kwaye uyakwazi ukuthobeka ngokuzithoba ezi zivunguvungu zemiqobo kwaye athandazele ukuxolelwa, ukukhohlisa unkulunkulu wakhe ngezipho kunye nezipho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba utyana luya kuluhlungu, le ntlobo yesintu eqhelekileyo iyahlukana nobudlelwane, ibonisa kubo into ebaluleke kakhulu, idlala indima yohlobo lwe "peppercorn". Kodwa, njengokuba uyazi, ininzi yepilisi inokuphanga isitya esona sidle. Kungenxa yoko kwenzeka njalo xa amadoda ephosa amantombazana awo amnandi ngesalathisi esingenakulinganisela, aze ahambe angenanto encinci, kodwa ezolile, ezithambileyo nezovuyo, apho zikhululekile, 'azifunanga umbingelelo' ngobuhle bazo, ngubani onokuphulaphula, buhlungu, okanye ubeke ihlombe lakho kumzuzu onzima. Kwaye ke akunandaba nonke, ukuba ngaphandle bangowona oqhelekileyo, oqhelekileyo.
Kwaye esinye isizathu sokuba amantombazana amnandi ahlale elololiwe ngumthetho wexesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo intombazana ithi ngokwayo: "Ndiya kuhlala ndifumana ixesha lokutshata kunye nombonakalo onjalo, kodwa ngoku kubaluleke kakhulu ukufunda, ukwenza umsebenzi." Yaye yonke inzondelelo, uyayilwela injongo. Kwaye, xa ekugqibeleni, kufinyelela kuyo, kubonakala ukuba bonke abantu abanomdla sele sele betshatile okanye bexakekile, kwaye abo bashiywe bayakuthandi, kwaye ukhetho aluyiyo isisityebi. Ngoko kuvela ukuba kukuhle, kwaye kubonakala ngathi ubomi buye buphuhliswa, kodwa bubuhlungu.
Ngoko, ukuqokelela, sitsho ukuba ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwintombazana enhle yedwa kufuneka bazigwebe. Ubuhle akusona isiqinisekiso sovuyo lwabantu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba kunjalo. Ubuhle akuyiyo inkunzi, enokuthi ikwazi ukufaka ukusabalalisa kwaye izuze kuyo. Ubuhle bowesifazana isipho esixabisekileyo esimele sivuyise umnikazi wayo kunye nabanye. Yaye unako ukuvuyisa kungekuphela kwintombazana, kodwa umntu oya kuhamba naye, kufuneka nje ufune kwaye uzame kancane. Emva koko, intombazana enhle ngokwenene ayenziwe nje kuphela ngumntu onobumba kunye nempawu ezifanelekileyo, kodwa ukukwazi ukumomotheka ngokwenene, ukuvuleka nabantu, ububele novelwano. Zama ukuba njalo kwaye uza kuphumelela. Kwaye akukho zikhephelelo apha.
