Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu bazama ukunqoba zabo iingxaki ngokwabo, endaweni yokutyelela i-psychotherapist. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kudibaniswa nokungabikho kolwazi ngesihloko saloo kuthiwa "nguthambo lweengqondo" kunokusinceda. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, singazi, silahlekelwa ithuba lokuba sibuyele kwiimeko zethu ezingokomoya. Ngako oko kuthethwa njani ukuba kuyimfuneko ukujongana ne-psychotherapist? Masizame ukuqaphela oku.
Okokuqala, udinga ukujongana nomgqirha kwiimeko ezinjalo, xa unesifiso esinamandla sokuphucula nokuphuhlisa ubuchule bakho (umsebenzi, umsebenzi kunye nokunye), ufuna ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo okanye isimo sengqondo kwizinto, izenzo okanye abantu abakungeenxa. Kwakhona, umgqirha uya kunceda kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukuba wena kunye nezenzo zakho zihlanganiswe kukungathembeki okukhulu kuwe, isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sisoloko sihlala sihamba naye, uhlala unqotshwa ngumnqweno wokuvala ekhaya kwaye, ngenxa yesizathu, ukukhala, ukuthetha lwakho nosapho kunye nabo osebenza nabo umsebenzi wawunzima kwaye unentloni. Ngaphandle koko, umgqirha uyakwazi ukukunceda kwimiba, ukuba ungenakukhathazeka ngokupheleleyo ekusebenzeni, ubomi bakho, iimpawu zentsapho ziyeke ukukholisa wena, unenkathazo nomyeni wakho, abantwana, okanye ufumana iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zinkathalo malunga nawe. Ukuba uwedwa kwaye awukwazi ukulungelelanisa ubomi bakho bomntu ngenxa yokuba amadoda "abaleke" kuwe ngenxa yesizathu esithile, ngoko kufuneka udibane nogqirha we-psychoanalyst.
Inomdla kwaye, mhlawumbi, iyamangalisa ngenyani ukuba ukwamkelwa kwiprogram akuhambi nje kuphela kwoluhlu lweengxaki ezingentla, kodwa nakwiimeko xa ngenxa yamava ahlala unamava unyukile. Emva koko ubuza, kodwa akufanele uhambe kumntu wesondlo? Impendulo yethu iya kuba yomelele kwaye iyanisekisa, into engekho. Oku kubangelwe kukuba ininzi, abantu abaninzi baqala ukuhlupheka ngenxa yengxaki ehambelana nomzimba ongeyonto emzimbeni kwaye bafumana iikhilogram ezibonakalayo. Njengomthetho, oku kubangelwa ngamava anamandla. Into enjalo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba ikhona, icaciswa ngokucacileyo kukuba xa umntu ephazamisekile, udla kakhulu kwaye ufuna ukutya. Ngako oko, udinga i-psychotherapist ngokuchanekileyo ukwenzela ukuba akwazi ukubona ingxaki ekukukhathazayo kwaye ikugcine ukhathazekile okwangoku. Kuphela ke ugqirha uya kuba nako ukuthatha unyango lwe-metabolism yakho. Kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba iingxaki zokuphazamiseka kokugaya zingabangeli nje ukwanda kwisisindo somzimba, kodwa ziphinde zikhawuleze inkqubo yokuguga. Ngoko unganqikazi ukuya kwintliziyo yengqondo.
Ukuze unyango lweengxaki zokuxilisa umzimba, lo ugqirha uneendlela kunye nezindlela zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, kunokusetyenziswa kwe-hypnosis, indlela yokucetyiswa kwengqondo kunye nezinye iindlela ezininzi zengqondo, esekelwe kwisigulane, ngoncedo lwamandla akhe, kunokunyanga.
Ngendlela, xa ufika kwi-aphoyintimenti kunye nodokotela ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye ngenxa yoko, emva kokuba udlule ikhosi ekhethekileyo yonyango ngokwendlela yakhe, unokukrazula izifo ezinjenge-nervos, i-headache rhoqo, kunye nesifo soxhamlo. I-psychotherapist, esebenzisana ngqo nengqondo yakho engqondweni, iya kukunceda ukuxazulula ezininzi zeengxaki zempilo.
Ukongeza kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, kufuneka uqhagamshelane nengqondo ye-psychoanalyst xa uthe wagqiba ekubeni utshintshe umfanekiso wakho wengqondo kunye nomlingiswa. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka kwiimeko apho umntu ethintela khona ukuba aphile ngokuqhelekileyo ezinjalo iimpawu ezinjengentloni, ukungaqiniseki kunye nokungaqiniseki kwamakhono abo kunye namakhono abo. Ukukrazula ezi zibi zendalo uzakukwazi ukunceda uqeqesho olukhethekileyo lwengqondo, oluya kuqhutywa nawe "ugqirha wengqondo".
Ngokubhekiselele kutshintsho kwisimo sakho sengqondo, kufuneka usebenze kumgqirha, ukuze akuncede ufunde indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle, ukuthetha, ukulawula ukulinganisa ubuso kunye nempawu. Uphela ugqirha uya kukunika ithuba kunye nezakhono zendlela ofuneka ngayo ukujonga imeko yakho yengqondo kwimeko ethile. Emva kokuba unyango olunjalo, umntu uya kukwazi ukucombulula iingxaki zakhe eziye zavela emsebenzini, ebomini bakhe kunye nezinye iinkalo zalo.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni kodwa kungabi ncinane, ngenxa yoko kukhuthazwa ukuba usebenzise uncedo lwe-psychotherapist ukuze uncede, luyakwazi ukulungisa iingxaki zengxabano ngokukhawuleza nangokukhawuleza. Kwakhona, ngu-psychologist oza kukunceda ufunde indlela elula ekunxibelelaneni njengempembelelo yengqondo kunye nechanekileyo kumntu onxibelelana naye. Siyabulela oku, uya kukwazi ukuqhuba ngempumelelo intetho yakho okanye udliwano-ndlebe, kwaye ngokubanzi, ukuthetha nabantu abakuzungezile.
Ngoko sihlolisise izizathu eziphambili, ekufuneka zikuncede ukuba uphenduke kwi-specialist efanelekileyo ukuze ulahlekelwe ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye, njengesiphetho, ndifuna ukongeza ukuba i-psychoanalyst ayifanele inganyanzelwanga. Emva kokuba uzive ezo okanye ezinye iingxaki okanye ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nantoni na, ukusuka apha ngasentla sinakho kweli nqaku, kufuneka wenze ngokukhawuleza ukuqeshwa nomgqirha. Kuphela ngoncedo lwakho unokufumana uxolo noxolo lwengqondo. Kulamkeleko enjalo ugqirha ukuba ukhululeke, ugxininise, uhlakulele intuition yakho, imemori kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukulahla konke okukukhuphayo, kukukhathaza, okanye nje akuvumeli ukuba uphile. Khumbula ukuba impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nempilo ixhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Inhlanhla!