Ndifuna ukuba nomntwana, kodwa andinakukwazi ukuhlala? Ukuphelelwa lithemba akufanelekanga, kuba unokuthwala unina wengane.
Umama okhungulukileyo: impilo yomntwana
Iinyanga ezilithoba zokulinda, iingxaki ezivuyisayo ezinxulumene noyilo lwegumbi labantwana kunye nokuthenga konke okufunekayo kwintsana, ukukhala kokuqala komntwana osanda kuzalwa ... Kuba uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo, ukuzalwa komntwana kuyinto evamile yobomi, isiganeko esilungelelwe yendalo. Nangona kunjalo, akuyena wonk 'ubani onenhlanhla ukufumana ulonwabo loba ngumama kunye nobazali kunye nesizathu sokuba oku kungabikho.
Ngenxa yephupha ukuchukumisa ukufudumala, ubisi obunobumba kunye nobunuka obuqhekezayo kwibele, izibini ezingenabantwana zilungele nantoni na. Kwaye xa iminyaka yokunyango, unyango lwezonyango, amaqhinga kunye neenyanga ezinde kwii-sanatoriythi azisebenzi, kukho ithemba lokugqibela-unina lokuzala.
Ukukhetha umama onqamlekileyo
Masishiye ingcamango malunga nomgaqo wokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha kombuzo wokuba ngumama, kwaye siya kuzinyathela kwinkqubo ngokwayo, oku: oko kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo xa ukhetha umama onqamlekileyo, kuba olu khetho luya kugqiba impilo yengane ezayo-umntwana wakho.
Into yokuqala omele uyibeke ingqalelo yile minyaka yobubele. Njengomthetho, umfazi, onomzimba onomntwana wenkwenkwezi engenabantwana kufuneka akhule, akufanele abe mdala kuneminyaka engama-35-37. Ewe, kukho ukungafani (sithetha ngokuzala abantwana ngeentsapho), kodwa ke, akudingekile ukuba kudlulele umda wexesha eliphakanyisiweyo ngabagqirha.
Okwesibini - umama onguhlobo kufuneka ahlaziye uviwo lwezempilo. Impilo kuphela engabonakaliyo (kubandakanywa nempilo yengqondo) ingaba isiqinisekiso sempilo yengane ezayo.
Okwesithathu, ibhinqa elinika iinkonzo zokuthwala umntwana kufuneka libe neyodwa yabantwana bayo abanobomi abakhulelwe ngendlela engokwemvelo. Ayivakala ingqungquthela, kodwa umntwana wakho onobuqili kwaye onempilo ngumhlobo weepotifoliyo yomama onguzala.
Kulungile, ekugqibeleni, umama wokugqibela, umama kufuneka abe ngumntu okwaneleyo, ukuze agweme ukuvela kweemeko ezingalindelekanga, zombini ngexesha lokukhulelwa kunye nexesha lokubonakala komntwana.
Imiqathango yokuzala umntwana ngumama onqamlekileyo
Xa kwenzeka ukuchumisa ngempumelelo, kuyimfuneko ukudala zonke iimeko eziyimfuneko (zixubushe kwangaphambili) ukuze unomntwana onobubele. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwiimeko xa kuvela ekuzaleni amawele okanye nokuba ngamathathu, okusoloko kwenzeka kwiimeko zokuchithwa kwempahla.
Ibhinqa elithwele umntwana ongatshatanga umntwana kufuneka lihlale kwindawo epholileyo, qiniseka ukuqhuba indlela yokuphila enempilo, landela zonke iziphakamiso zogqirha, tyelela ukubonisana kwabasetyhini ngexesha elifanelekileyo, nidle ngokufanelekileyo, nenza okuzenzekelayo (ukuzivocavoca kwabasetyhini abakhulelweyo).
Abazali bexesha elizayo bahlala bebonisa umnqweno wokugcina inkqubo yokukhulelwa, bephulaphule intliziyo yokuqala yomntwana wabo, bazive bexhamla esibelethweni. Kubalulekile ukuba iintlanganiso zabazali bezofuzo zenzeke kwindawo enobungane, ingqalelo ukukhathazeka kwimeko. Omnye akanakukungaziboni into yokuba, nangona umama onqamlekileyo engayiboni umntanakhe kwaye uzama ukungayinamatheli kuyo, nje kuphela xa ewugqoka phantsi kwentliziyo yabo. Ukuxhalabisa ngokweqile kunye neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo kunokuba nemiphumo engalindelekanga, ngoko ke, ukuba iintlanganiso ezinokuchaphazela imeko yengqondo yomama onyanzelekileyo, kucetyiswa ukunciphisa inani labo ngenxa yempilo yengane engakazalwa.
Ukubeka iliso imeko yomama ozayo, abazali bomfuzo bangasebenzisa iinkonzo, umzekelo, umongikazi ovakatyelayo okanye ugqirha oya kumtyelela umfazi okhulelweyo, ubeke iliso lomhla wakhe kunye nokukhulelwa, ukunakekelwa nokunyamekela.
Ngokuphathelele ukondla kunye nokunakekelwa kwezonyango, kwiimeko ezininzi kunonophelo lwabazali besikhathi esizayo sabantwana. Ukutya okunempilo okupheleleyo, izithelo kunye nemifuno eninzi ngokwaneleyo, iivithamini kunye nezinye - zonke ezi zinto zifanele ukuba unomdla wokuba unako ngokwaneleyo, kuba unobungozi kubaluleke kakhulu into enokuba yinto - impilo yomntwana.
Ukubonakala komntwana ekukhanyeni kuyisiphephelo esinengqiqo
Ukubeletha kuyona ganeko elilindelwe ixesha elide, kokubili kumama onguzala kunye nabazali bomfuzo. Ngaloo mini, kuyafaneleka ukuqala ukulungiselela kwangaphambili, kuquka ukuthetha malunga nokulungiswa kwengqondo kwabazali bezemvelo kunye nomama onguzala. Ukuba ngaba isibini esingenamntwana sokuzalwa komntwana, nangona uxinzelelo, ulonwabo, ngokokuba umama onqamlekileyo kunye nomntwana udla kunye nokuziphatha okungonelanelekanga.
Kubalulekile ukuba, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukuzalwa kwenzeka ngendlela yendalo kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwabazali bexesha elizayo. Okokuqala, kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba izandla zokuqala eziza kuvela emva kokuba ugqirha ethatha ukuhanjiswa yizandla zomama wakhe wokuzalwa okanye uyise. Umda wokuthintana nonina owenziwe ngumntwana osanda kuvela emva kokuzalwa uya kunceda ukunqoba umqobo wengqondo phakathi komzali wengane kunye nomama wakhe.
Xa usenza isigqibo malunga nobunina bobubele, khumbula ukuba oku akusiyo intengiso, kodwa ubomi kunye nempilo yesidalwa esincinane. Oku kusebenza kokubini esingenabantwana, kunye nomama onqabileyo, onokunyamezela umntwana womnye ngokunyamekela impilo yakhe yekamva, kunye neyakhe.
Ndifuna ukubeletha umntwana, kodwa andinako, kodwa ndiya kuba ngumama - sisisigxina sabasetyhini abangaxhatshazwayo.