Kodwa ke, makhe sijonge imeko kwaye sigqibe ukuba ngaba ufuna ukuba nomona kwintombi yakho kwintombi. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni ebangela ukuba lo mkhwele ube nomona. Kwenzeka ukuba unomhlaba onamandla okwaneleyo. Umzekelo, umfana udla ngokuthetha ngaye. Ukuba kunjalo, phendula impendulo. Ukuba uyayikhumbula ngomsindo nenzondo, ngoko, ngokuqinisekileyo, akusona isizathu sokuba nomona. Ukuthanda nje kwangaphambili kwakumcaphukisa loo mfana, kwaye akakwazi ukuyeka inzondo, ukuxolela nokulibala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akuyona into ekhethekileyo, kuba iyaziwa ukuba kuthandana inzondo inqanaba elinye, kunye nakwezinye izinto.
Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kulo mzekelo, isizathu sokuba nomona unako. Kodwa kwimeko xa lo mntu ehlala e-nostalgic, ukhumbula apho beye khona, indlela abahlala ngayo, indlela abaphumla ngayo, bezama ukukuqhubela phambili "kwiindawo zobuqaqawuli bemikhosi", nanko sele unomona onobubele. Kufanelekile ukucinga, kodwa uyakuthanda nonke?
Ukuba entlokweni yakhe nasentliziyweni kukho iinkumbulo ezininzi zezo zangaphambili, ngoko akayithethi kuye ngokwemvakalelo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukwenza njalo esikhathini esizayo. Kule meko, mhlawumbi kufuneka unqume ulwalamano. Emva kwakho konke, uya kuvuma, kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu, ukuba olunye usuku aluyilo olugqibekileyo imini, umntu wakho ngokukhawuleza uthi uya kubuyela kuye. Ngelo xesha uzalisekisa ngokupheleleyo, uya kwenza izicwangciso zekamva kunye nothando, ezi ndaba ziya kutshitshisa ukudakumba kwaye zikhokelela ekuphazamiseni kwemizwa. Ngako oko, kukufanelekile ukuxoxa naye ngale meko ngoku kwaye ukuba loo ndoda ayifanelekanga, vele udibanise ubudlelwane. Ewe, uya kuphazamiseka kwaye ubuhlungu, kodwa le yindlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuphuma kwimeko.
Kuphi enye into esinomona ngabantu abaninzi? Mhlawumbi, kwimeko apho intombi yakhe yangaphambili ibonakala khona ebomini bakhe. Inketho yokuqala - bahlala behlobo. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abavela kwinkampani efanayo badibane, ngoko ke bahluke, kodwa baqhubeke bexhulumana, kuba abaxhunyiwe kuphela kunye nolwalamano, kodwa kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi. Kule meko, ungaqali ngokukhawuleza uqhube umsindo kunye nomona. Kungcono uthathe ukhangele ngokukhawuleza kwintombi yakhe yangaphambili.
Jonga indlela abaziphatha ngayo kunye, indlela ekhangele ngayo, indlela ekuthetha ngayo. Abesifazane basoloko beva ukuba kukho ukhuphiswano oluvela kwelinye ibhinqa, ngoko themba intuition yakho. Ukuba intombazana ibeka phantsi nje ngokuba ngumhlobo kwaye oku kuboniswa ngumsebenzi wayo, ke ungalonakalisi olo dlelwane. Mhlawumbi kungekudala uza kuba ngumhlobo osondeleyo kuwe. Ewe, kwenzeka ukuba iimvakalelo phakathi kwabantu ziyaba, kodwa umhlobo wobuhlobo uhlala ngonaphakade. Ngoko yibani nenjongo ekuhloleni imeko. Kodwa ukuba le ntombi ibonisa ngokugqithiseleyo intombi yakho ngaphezu kokuba yenzayo kumhlobo, uzama, njengokuba kunjalo, ukungahlambulukanga emehlweni akhe kunye neeflethi. Kwimeko apho, zama ukuthetha nomfana kwaye uvule amehlo akhe kwimeko.
Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abayiqapheli into esiyibonayo. Ngoko zama ukuzithethelela ngokuzenzekelayo ukuba akukuvuyisi ukubona ukuba omnye umfazi uxhomeke entanyeni entanyeni. Ukuba indoda yakho ingumntu oqiqayo, uya kuqonda yonke into, uthetha kunye naye ngaphambili, uchaze isikhundla sakhe kuye kwaye ukuba akayi kumshiya, uya kuphepheka ukunxibelelana. Ukuba loo nto ayiboni nantoni na engafuni ukuyibona, zama ukunciphisa uxhulumaniso lwabo. Kwimeko apho indoda iqala ukuyixhathisa ngamandla, cinga ngento yokuba, mhlawumbi, iimvakalelo zakhe azikadluli, nokuba ngaba ufuna ubuhlobo obunjalo.
Kukho enye inketho, xa intombazana yangaphambili ihlala ihlala ebomini bakho. Kule meko, loo mfana akanalo ityala, kuba le ntokazi iyamlandela. Kukho ubuhlobo obunjalo bobuchule obungenakuvumela abantu ukuba bahambe. Abafazi abanjalo baqhubeka bebiza, bangene phantsi kwendlu, bhala kwi-ICQ kwaye banxibelelane kwaye bawuthobeli ngokupheleleyo ubukho bakho ebomini balo mntu. Bathembele ngokupheleleyo ukuba uyingendawo embi, ukuba umfana uzimisele ukuba acinge kwaye abuyisele. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, musa ukuba nomona. Uncedo olungcono kulutsha lwakho. Ewe, ukuba ubona ukuba oku akunakuchukumisa ngokwenene kwaye sele esele akhathele ngabahlaziyi bamandulo. Ngaloo mantombazana kunzima kakhulu ukuhlangabezana nayo, kuba abayiqondi amagama, kodwa amadoda aqhelekileyo awasebenzisi amandla. Kungenxa yoko, umele uzinyamezele umntu obambeleleyo kwaye ulindele ukuba azinciphe.
Ukuba oku kukucaphukisa kakhulu, unako ukufumana amantombazana, njengoko athi, "musa ukubeka umunwe emlonyeni wakho, uze ulume isandla sakho" kwaye uye kule ntombazana "kwingxoxo yokukhusela". Kodwa akusiyo into yokuba le nto iya kunceda, kuba abafazi abanjalo banokuthi babe neengqondo ezingaqhelekanga ezingqondweni kwaye ngenxa yoko abanakuze banomdla kunoma yini ngaphandle komgomo ohanjisiweyo, okwimeko enje umntu oyithandayo. Ngoko ke, kukulungele ukufumana amandla okunyaniseka ukuziphatha kwakhe kwaye ungayithobeli ingqalelo. Ukuhlambalaza, amadoda akaze abuyele, ngoko ke unasisizathu sokukhathazeka. Ewe, ukuba iqabane lakho lingazikhumbuli zangaphambili, akathethi ngaye, kwaye akabonakali ebomini bakho, ngoko ke ungenzi nto nantloni uze ukhohlwe ngomona. Yinto yakho nje. Ngako oko, thintela ukuphazamisa iingxaki zakho kwaye ujabule ulonwabo nothando obunokukunika lona, kuba lixesha lakhe elidlulileyo kwaye wena lizayo.