Ndahlala ndifuna ukuba ngumfazi wendlu kwaye ndifundise abantwana. Ndacinga ukuba ndiza kuba nabantwana ababini. Kodwa, maye ...
Ndacacisela unyana wam ukuba andinako umntwana, ekubeni ndingatshati. Kwaye okokuqala le ngcaciso yayanele. Kodwa ke, xa umyeni owayengumyeni wakhe kwintsapho yakhe eqala "ukukhula" umntwana, ngokukhawuleza unyana wam wakhathazeka. Kwakubonakala kum ukuba waqala ukukhathazeka ngam, indlela endingayenza ngayo ukuba upapa uza kuba nomnye umntwana, kwaye andinayo. Kwaye wayethetha rhoqo phantsi kweengqungquthela ezahlukahlukeneyo malunga nokuba kwakukuhle kangakanani ukuba sinomzalwana, kwaye wayeya kumthanda njani, kwaye wayeya kumnceda njani, kwaye wabelane ngamathoyizi. Andizange ndiphule le ngxoxo - kwacaca ukuba kubalulekile kwonyana wam. Kwiinyanga eziliqela sathetha ngokubanzi malunga nokuba sinokuba nomzalwana okanye udade. Utshintsho lwayo umntwana owamkelweyo lwaxoxwa ngaso. Abanye abahlobo bethu banabantwana abasandulisayo, ngoko oku kwenzeka ukuba kuqwalaselwe njengokwemvelo. Ndazama ukuchazela unyana wam zonke ubunzima kunye nobunzima balo mzila (nangona yena ngokwakhe wayemmelela kuphela). Ndaqala ukufunda zonke iintlobo zeencwadi kunye neifom ezifanelekileyo kwi-intanethi. Kwaye kwafika umhla apho ndaya kubaphathi bamagada, kwaye yonke into yajika.
Ngaba le nkwenkwe iya
Kulo "mgcini" ngokukhawuleza kwafuneka ukuba wehla evela ezulwini ukuya emhlabeni kwaye ucinge: "Yintoni endiyifunayo nento endiyenzayo?". Okokuqala, bekufuneka ukuba sinqume ukuba ngaba ndifuna ukumkela, kuba ngumzali okanye umzali okhulayo. Ukongezelela, ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi idala umntwana ndiya kukhangela. Inyaniso yokuba iya kuba yinkwenkwana, mna kunye nonyana wam sele senze isigqibo: omdala uya kuba mnandi, kwaye kulula kum, kuba sele ndifumana ithuba lokukhulisa inkwenkwana, kwaye mna ndihlala ndikhula phakathi kwamakhwenkwe. Ukongezelela, abazali abaninzi abavayo bafuna amantombazana. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ndagqiba ekubeni ndiza kukhetha inkwenkwe engaphantsi kwe-1.5 kwaye ingadluli iminyaka engama-3. Andikwazanga ukuthatha i-crumb - ngenxa yakhe ndimele ndiyeke umsebenzi wam. Kwaye mna, njengomntu oyedwa wondliwa kwintsapho, akanakukwazi ukukwenza oku. Nangaphezulu kwabantu abadala, kuninzi ezinye iingxaki ezithile eziphakamileyo: xa umntwana engasekho esikhungweni samabantwana, iingxaki azifumanayo, kwaye i-gap yophuhliso ayikho nzima kunabo bonke.
Xa ndiqwalasele iindlela ezahlukeneyo, ndagqiba ekubeni ndibe ngumgcini. (Unokuba ngumzali owamkela kuphela emva kokugqiba iiklasi ezizodwa apho ndingenalo ixesha).
Ngokukhawuleza ndiyamkela, andizange ndilumke . Kodwa, njengomgcini, ndiyakwenza ngokukhawuleza. Kwagqitywa isigqibo: Ndiza kugcinwa kwinkwenkwe yeminyaka emibili. Emva kweenyanga eziyi-3-4, xa elula okanye engaqhelekanga kwintsapho, unako ukuthathwa kwi-nursergart, kwaye oku kuya kundinika ithuba lokusebenza.
Kwi-arhente yokugcina, ndanikwa ukuhanjiswa kwengxelo yonyango. Oogqirha bekufuneka baqinisekise ukuba ndingaba ngumgcini. Ukongezelela, kwakudingekile ukugqithisa inani leemeko, ngamnye kunye neemfuno zalo kunye nemigomo yalo yokukhutshwa kwempahla. Ngenxa yokuba ndidibanise ukuqokelela amaxwebhu ngomsebenzi, kuthatha inyanga yonke ukulungiselela yonke iphakheji.
Impendulo yamagqirha kunye namagosa athile endimele ndijongane nawo xa kuqokelelwa onke amaphepha afanelekileyo. Abanye babo, emva kokufunda isizathu sokufumana isatifikethi, bathetha amagama anomusa, bafuna ukuphumelela, bakhuthaza. Abanye - bathule, banikezela amaxwebhu afanelekileyo. Iyesithathu yaxhathisa amahlombe abo ekuphazamiseni. Kwesinye isihlandlo, bandibuza ngoku ngqo: "Kutheni ufuna le nto, akunalo okwaneleyo kumntwana wakho?" Kwindoda eneminyaka ephakathi ubudala eyabuza le mbuzo, kwabonakala ngokukhawuleza ukuba wayengenabantwana-engeyakhe, nokuba ngumzali wakhe ... Ekugqibeleni, ndinike imvume yokuba ndingaba ngumgcini. Ngalolu phepha, ndaya kwi-bhanki yedatha yeSebe leMfundo, apho bekufuneka ukuba ukhethe kwiifoto kwaye ndizibonele (!) Umntwana-kungakhathaliseki ukuba kulungile kangakanani. Okukhethiweyo kwavela ukuba, ngelishwa, inkulu ... Abaninzi abanezifo ezigulayo ezinzima ... kodwa kunzima ukhethe "ezimpilweni". Ifoto ayanele, uthi. Ewe, kunye nento yokujonga ngayo - bonke abantwana banomdla kwaye abanelisekile ... Ngenxa yoko, ndakhetha abantwana abaninzi kwiiKhaya zaBantwana abasondeleyo. Ngokwemigaqo, kufuneka uqale ukutyelela enye, ukuba kungenjalo, ngokulandelayo, njalo njalo.
Asikhethi, kodwa thina
Iyokuqala yayinguRodion. Waba nguyedwa kuphela kuthi. KwiNdlu yoMntwana, ndandiboniswa kuqala umntwana, kwaye ndafunda ingxelo yakhe yonyango. Xa ndijoyina iqela, amadolo ayika. Kukho abantwana abali-10 phakathi kweminyaka engama-ezimbini. Phantse bonke abafana. Amantombazana athatyathwa. URoonon, ehleli, watshintsha iimpahla zakhe emva kokuhamba. Ugqirha, esiza kuye, wabiza, waza wabuya waya kuye. Ezingalo zakhe, waqala ukuhlolisisa ngenyameko. Emva kokufunda, welula izandla zakhe kum ... Kubonakala ngathi ngaloo mzuzwana yonke into yagqitywa. Ndamthabatha zam. Kwaye waba ngumntwana wethu.
Uloyiso jikelele
Emva kwalo mhlangano, ndaya kwikhaya labantwana ngezinye iinyanga ezimbini. Kubalulekile ukutyelela umntwana ade adibanise kakuhle naye. Ukususela ekubeni ndasebenza, kwavela ukutyelela kabini okanye kathathu ngeveki, kungekho ngaphezulu. Ukuqhagamshelana nosana nathi sasungulwa ngokukhawuleza. Yintoni engenakutshoyo ngobudlelwane nabasebenzi beKhaya lwaBantwana ... Kodwa le mqobo inokutshatyalaliswa. Ndinexwebhu esandleni sam esiqinisekisa ukuba ndingumgcini kaRodion. Ndiyifumene ngokucacileyo ngomhla kaJuni. Kwabonakala ngathi ukuba nabadlula-bavuya kunye nathi. Enyanisweni, ngaphambi kokuba sishiye ekhaya, sasichitha malunga nesiqingatha seyure kwiamasango avaliweyo - silinde umlindi, owayephelile kwindawo ethile. Ubuso bomntwana babonisa ukuba wayengenakukwazi ukulinda esangweni, wayekhathazekile kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, umlindi wabonakala waza wavula isango. Ndibeka ibhungu emhlabathini. Yena-okokuqala ngqa ebomini bakhe-wathatha inyathelo ngaphaya komda wokukhusela. Xa waphuma, waphenduka, wabheka abantu abambonayo bamhleka. Kwaye kuye kwakunzima. Kwaye kum nam.