Mhlawumbi, ngaphambi kokuba kukho nawuphi na umfazi kukho umbuzo onomdla kakhulu, ngubani oza kuba ngcono okanye ochanekileyo ukubiza ukubeletha? Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ufuna ukubiza umnqweno wakho othandekayo kunye nomntu othandekayo, ngakwelinye icala, ufuna ukuba lo mntu ungabonakali lula, kodwa ngandlela-thile wakwazi ukunceda kulo mzuzu onzima ukukunceda isigqibo esifanelekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba uncedo olufunekayo luvela kuye. Kwaye ke, sinokukhetha njani ukuba ungabiza?
Sithetha ngomntu oncedisayo ongeke nje abe khona kunye nokuncoma ngamazwi, nangona oku akuyona into encinci, kufuneka abe "nguYe" ngokumalunga nabasebenzi bezonyango. Kubalulekile ukuba angakwazi ukukhumbula ngokuqhubekayo ngentlungu enzima, iliso kwimeko yempilo yowesifazane ongekho kwindawo yokujonga ngugqirha, kodwa njengomntu osondeleyo nononophelo, umntu onjalo unokujonga ukuba utshintsho oluncinane kwimeko. Umntu onjalo uya kukwazi ukudlala indima yentsebenziswano, uya kulandela ukulwa nokuphefumula, acetyise ukuba ukuphefumlela kunye nendlela yokuphefumula ngokuchanekileyo, oku kuya kuba yiphakathi phakathi kwababeleki nawe. Kufuneka kuthathelwe ukuba ukukhawuleza ngexesha kunye nemiyalelo nangokuphefumula kakuhle kunokunceda kakhulu ukubeletha nokunciphisa ubuhlungu bezabasebenzi. Umncedi angakwazi ukuhlawula umqolo ongaphantsi, welula izicubu ze-muscle, ngokukhawuleza umise i-cramp. Ekuzalweni okunzima ngokukodwa, umfazi unesifutshane kakhulu nenkxaso kunye nesiluleko esifanelekileyo, nokuba kwimeko enjalo, nokuba kulungile ukuthatha i-anesthetic okanye ayikho. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imibuzo eninzi kunye neemeko zokuzalwa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda ayesaba ukuya kwiimeko ezifihlakeleyo, efihla emva kokuba abanako ukuba bancedise, kwaye bafuna uncedo ngokwabo. Kodwa lokoyiko lubangelwa ukungaqondi kwaye ungayazi into umntu ayifunayo kwaye unokunceda nantoni na. Kwaye kunokumnceda ngokucokisekileyo, umzekelo, unokubona ubude bezinto, kunye nangona kungekho nanye, umyeni uya kukwazi ukuhambisa isicelo sakhe koogqirha okanye ukukhupha umfazi wakhe ngexesha lokuphefumula. Ukongezelela, unokwenza into ephezulu ye-truthchitsya, kodwa kwanokuba nje ufumane i-napkin ebusweni bomnxeba, olu luncedo kunye nokuthintela luya kunika amandla. Kwakhona kukho ithuba lokuthintana nezihlobo kunye nokunika ingxelo malunga nokuzalwa komntwana. Okubaluleke kakhulu umzuzu ngaphambi kokubeleka, ekulindeni ixesha elide lokulwa kunye nokuqala komsebenzi, xa imeko yowesifazane ibonwabile kakhulu, ngoko ukuthetha nomntu obathandayo kubaluleke ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye.
Kodwa ezi zizo zonke iziphakamiso zokukholisa, kodwa ngokwenene zifanele umnqweno womlingane, kuba inkolelo eninzi inokuthenjwa ngabani na, kodwa ke loo mntu akayi kukwazi ukunceda nakwiimfuno ezisisiseko. Ngoko ke, ukuba isiqingatha sesibini, emva kokuqwalasela isiphakamiso, sinqabe, kungcono ukuba ungaqhubeki kwaye ungagxininisi. Kumele ukuba kuqondwe ukuba lo ngumntu, kwaye ubukho bokuzalwa akuyona into ebalulekileyo kuye, ngaphandle koko, akuyena wonke umyeni onokunyamezela ukubandezeleka okunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kunokuba kakubi ngenxa yokuvavanya kwakhe, xa eqonda ukuba njengendoda engenakunceda nantoni na, nangona wayekho.
Musa ukulahleka kwaye ungakhathazeki, kuba namhlanje kukho ingcali kwizinto ezinjalo, yidenki. Unokujika kwi-ingcali elolo hlobo, xa ufuna ukuba khona komntu, kodwa akukho mntu. U-Dole akayena umbelethisi, ungumntu oncedisayo wokubeletha, unceda abantu kunye nengqondo. Kubalulekile ukusho ukuba eYurophu, kwaye ngokwenene ehlabathini, le nto isele isetyenziswa ngokuqhelekileyo xa umama ozayo uza kuzaliswa i-doula.
Yiyiphi ingongoma, kuba lo akusiyo umntu osondeleyo, unokunceda njani, ngaba kuyenziwa eRashiya?
Kufuneka kuthathelwe ukuba idoli ayilona elitsha, kodwa mhlawumbi umsebenzi wasendulo, abo bancedisi baye bavela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Nanamhlanje iiveki yonke ibhiyozelwa ngo-Matshi 22-29, kwaye ngulo Usuku lwaMazwe ngamazwe, nangona luseminyaka eyi-3 kuphela kumaxesha anamhlanje. Kwimihla endala, i-dole ngumfazi omdala onamava. Uncedo lwabasetyhini abanamava kumabhinqa abasebenzayo luye lwahlala lukho kwimveli yenkcubeko, kodwa kuluntu lwangoku iimboqo ezinjalo zilibalekile. Kuphela e-US ngasekupheleni kweminyaka yama-70 yekhulu leminyaka elidlulileyo yaqala ukuvuselelwa kwezi zithethe zamandulo. Ngomhla wama-22 Matshi, intwasahlobo kukuqala kwayo yonke into ezayo ebomini emva kokubusika, oku kukuzalwa kohlobo olutsha kunye nobomi obutsha, ngoko ke umhla ufanelana nekhalenda yendalo.
Ngubani na indlela yokuyifumana kuthi?
Njengoko sele kuthethwe ngaye, idolsi incedisayo yokubeleka, nangona kunjalo, akusiyo yonke intokazi esele ibelethe, okuthi uncedisa ootitshala kunye nomlingane wezonyango, akayena umgqirha. Umsebenzi oyintloko we-dole kukunika umfazi ukuzola, ukuxhaswa kwengqondo kunye nokwandisa ukulandelelana kwenduduzo yangokwenyama. UDole uxhasa umfazi ngeemeko ngexesha lokuzalwa ngokwawo, ukusukela ekhaya, kunceda ukuba ufuna ukudibana kunye ne-malady, kwaye unikezela ngenkqubo yemvumelwano kunye nekhaya lokubeletha.Kuye kwabonakaliswa ukuba ibhinqa ibele ngokuqhelekileyo, kuyimfuneko nje ukuyeka zonke iingcamango, ukhululeke ngokomoya, ulandele yonke ingqalelo kwinkqubo yokubeleka nokuzala. Kungenxa yoxinzelelo oluqinileyo, ukwethuka, ukuxhatshazwa kunye noloyiko oluza kuzaliswa kwaye luzalwe buhlungu. Ngethuba leeyure zokulungiselela, xa ixesha lidlula ngokulindela kwaye lilindeleke, i-dole kufuneka inakekele lo mfazi kuyo yonke imiba. Oku kubandakanya ukutya, ukunxibelelana, inkxaso yokuziphatha okubi, ukuxilisa ngokufanelekileyo, ukuqiniswa kwesimo sengqondo kunye nokukhuthaza. Kodwa konke oku kufanele kube njengendalo kwaye kuphila ngokusemandleni.
Udinga ukulibala ngaye kwaye unakekele lo mfazi. Oogqirha bathatha ukuzalwa, njengoko kulindelwe, oogqirha, kodwa idoli inokunika isiluleko esihle kwiindawo ezizame ukuzama ukuzala, uya kukuxelela ngokucokisekileyo ngombuzo wokuphefumula, ukulawula ixesha eliphambeneyo.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba zonke iinkonzo zokunxibelelana kunye neengcali zizibiza ngokwazo igama, kuba umfazi unxibelelwano olunjalo luba yintlungu kakhulu. Kodwa ke, akakwazi ukutshintsha imithetho yokuzalwa, iimeko ezikhoyo esibhedlele, makungabikho kuphela ukulawula ukuzalwa kwabo kunye nokuphazamisa kwinkqubo. ezama ukutshintsha oogqirha.
Ehlabathini nakwi-USA, amakhaya amaninzi aqeqeshelwa ukubeletha sele anikezelwe ama-douches ezobugcisa, kwaye anikezelwa ngeenkonzo zabo njengoko zifunekayo, kwaye zikhululekile. Kwaye kwaphawulwa ukuba xa umncedisi okanye umhlobo ekhoyo kunye nomfazi, yena, njengomthetho, akayidingi i-anesthesia. Kwakhona, iimeko zecandelo le-quarantine liyancitshiswa kakhulu, nto leyo ibaluleke kakhulu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwindlela yokubeletha yaseRussia, abancedisi bezobuchwepheshe abanjalo abaqhelekanga. Asinayo imfundo enjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo sisebenza kunye noogqirha, abafundisa izifundo kubafazi abakhulelweyo, ngamanye amaxesha i-psychologists, kunye noomama abanamava amaninzi okuzalwa kunye nemfundo yezokwelapha. Elizweni lethu babizwa ngokuba "ngabancedisi bokomoya", nangona kunjalo, abafazi basemakhaya abazalelwe ekhaya babizwa ngokuba, ngenxa yoko kukho ukudideka okuncinci.
Ewe, ngokubanzi, ngokusekelwe kwimisebenzi eyenziwa yi-doula, olunjalo uncedo lunokunikezelwa yimuphi umntu othembela kuye, phakathi kwabantu abatsha okanye abasondeleyo, kubalulekile ukuva inkxaso evela kuye. Ingaba ngumama wakho, udade, intombi, kufuneka uqikelele ukuba umntu osebenzayo okokuqala, uya kuba nolonwabo kwaye akhathazeke. Le yintsebenziswano enkulu ye-douala, akaze alahlekelwe, uyazi kakuhle imeko, uye wanceda ngokuphindaphindiweyo iingqondo kwiimeko ezinzima. Ngoko ke, lo mfazi, ephethe izandla ezithembekileyo, uzive ezolile kwaye ekhuselekile.
Ukuba unqume ukunceda i-dole, ngoko ufumane ibhinqa elisekho phambi kwayo lenze uhlaziye kwaye lithembele, lwenzeka kwinqanaba leemvakalelo kunye ne-intuition. Xoxa naye ngamathuba ambalwa xa udibana naye, uzive ukuba ufanelekile okanye cha, kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokuchanekileyo ulwazi olunikezwa ngumbutho okanye iingcali kwiikhosi. Ngamanye amaxesha unokuva iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nokubeletha emanzini okanye ekhaya, unikezele ngokuzalwa komdlali othile, okanye ucebise ukufumana imifuno, i-decoctions okanye amayeza, kufuneka uqaphele ekwenzeni izigqibo, kuba ngumntwana wakho.