Ubomi bemihlali buhlala bubhekwa njengentengo kwifashoni. Kodwa ngaba le nxalenye emnandi yobomi ihlale inezimpawu ezintle kwaye ingabikho mijelo? Ukunyaniseka, oku kunokwenzeka ukuba ngumdlalo apho kuphela obeka imithetho yayo ngokubala kwilungelo lokuba ngumqhubi ozukileyo.
Ubomi obanjelwe ngabantu
Kulo mbuzo: "Ngaba sinokuhlangana ngokuhlwa?", Indoda ihlala iphendula impendulo engapheliyo, ngokubhekiselele kwingqesho eqhubekayo: ukunikezwa kwefowuni entsha, ukuvula ivenkile entsha, njl njl. Nantsi ke-ubomi obuhle kuyo yonke inkazimulo. Ngoko, makhe sizame ukufumana ukuba i-nasamom yintoni "ubomi belizwe".
Ngomntu owaziwayo, umntu ongowomhlaba uyinto engathandabuzekiyo "yeqela leqela" ohlala imini nobusuku kuzo zonke iintlobo zokufumana. Enyanisweni, "ubuzwe" kukuba, okokuqala, imeko yezenhlalakahle, enqunywe ngumntu ofanelekileyo. Isimo sesibini sisidlangalaleni: umntu osendongeni sakhe kufuneka abe ngumntu owaziwayo kwaye owaziwayo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, kufuneka ahlale elungele ukuba ahlolisiswe. Njengoko ilizwi lisithi: "Imeko ibophezela oku!".
Ubomi bezinto eziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi beenkwenkwezi zokubonisa ishishini kunye nezopolitiko. Kwaye abaninzi abantu abashishini, ukutyelela kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zentetho kuyafana nokusebenza kwansuku zonke.
Kodwa kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba imveliso ayiyiyo yonke imimiselo yimfuno yokuvelisa. Ngaloo ndlela, ubomi bezenhlalakahle buyakwazi ukuqhuba ngokwaneleyo ngaphezu kokuchitha ixesha!
Sifuduka siye ekukhanyeni
Ukwandisa umgca. Ewe, ubomi bentlalo abukho kuphela ebusuku: ngaphandle kokutyelela zonke iintlobo "zamaqela", imbono yobomi belizwe kuquka ukuhamba, iikonsathi, imiboniso yefashoni, njl. Awukwazi nje ukuqhelana nabantu abakhethiweyo, kodwa ufumane nezinto ezininzi ezintsha. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungekhona wonke umntu oza kukwazi ukujoyina iinqanaba le-club ye-yacht (apha yonke into ixhomekeka kwiimali zezolimo). Kodwa wonke umntu unokuba ilungu, umzekelo, weKlabhu yamaZwe wamazwe ngamazwe. Into ephambili kukuthetha ngesiNgesi.
Ukusekwa kwemibutho yezoshishino . Ngokutsho kukaFilipi de Carrier, umzekelo weklasi ye-French wire diplomacy: "Impumelelo yobomi ixhomekeke ekunxibelelaneni nabantu abaneempembelelo ngama-85% okanye kwi-15% yezinga lakho lobugcisa." Iyokuqala ayifaki kwisibini! Kungenxa yesi sizathu, umntu uqokelela izitampu, umntu ovini kunye nomntu onobuncedo. Umcimbi wezeNtlalontlalontle ithuba elihle lokunxibelelana kwiindawo ezintle kunye nalabo, ngokusemthethweni, kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba bavumelane kwiintlanganiso.
"Ukukhanyisa" kuluntu. Ukuba umsebenzi wakho uchaza "uluntu", emva koko kubonakala ekukhanyeni, unokuba ngumntu obonakalayo. Kodwa kuphela oku kuyimfuneko ukuhlanganisa ukubonakala kwayo kumaphepha ayo mpu melelo.
Ukuqinisa umfanekiso . Umfanekiselo wethu unokuthintela ngokuthabatha inxaxheba yethu yokungabikho komnye kwisiganeko esibalulekileyo. Unako ukuhlala ukhankanya ukuba uye kwindibano yentlalo kunye nodumo. Naliphi na ukuchazwa ngokwakho kumxholo we "iinkwenkwezi" kubonisa imibala yokukhanya kuwe.
Ukuphumla okuhle ! Akukho mntu uyayinqabela entliziyweni ukuba ahlekise kwiqela lesidlo okanye iqela elitshisayo.
Izithunzi zokukhanya
Uvavanyo olulolo hlobo lukhanya ngaphezu kwamandla onke. Kwaye ukuba i-Hangouts ixhamle kwi-hangouts, i-introverts isoloko iguqulela "ukulula". Yaye oku akukhankanyi ngabo bantu abaye bahlala kuyo iindidi ezahlukeneyo ...
"I-Camomile buttercups." Abantu abanokuzithemba phantsi bahlale bengakhululeki phakathi kweso sidima. Kwaye ukuba ungayichitha iyure ngosuku ngemantra "Ndiyena mhle!", Musa ukukhawuleza ukuya kwi-modunyusku. Ukusuka kwiibini zegama kunye neyesundu ezivuthayo, uzama ukwenza, njengalezi ntyatyambo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ? Zizibonele oko unokuzifumana ngokuya kwesi siganeko. Ukuphumla, ukuphazamisa nokufunda into entsha? Yiya phambili! Yaye kunye nenkxaso yengqondo, bamba umhlobo nawe.
"Into ethile kwimigodi yokugeza ..." . Umona uphila ngokupheleleyo kuthi sonke. Nangona kunjalo, kulula kakhulu ukulwa naloo mvakalelo kuneemeko ezimbi (intlonelo enhle, ephathekayo njengamantombazana amancinci kunye neentloko kunye nokukhathalela ngokubanzi kubantu babo), nanko i-"alpad "ibhalwa.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ? I-Pokavashi imbeko ayikuvumeli ukuba uthathwe kwinani labantu abathiwa "i-caste yegolide", zama ukujonga yonke into ngokungathi uvela kwifilimu.
"Isifo esihle kakhulu somfundi." Wena ungumfundi obalaseleyo esikolweni, esikhungweni, nasemsebenzini awuyikuyeka ubomi bakho. Usebenzise nje yonke indawo kwaye kuyo yonke into ukuba ube ngowokuqala wenze konke okubekwa kuqala. Kodwa awunamdla wokhilimu woluntu, kwaye kubonakala kuwe ukuba uphakathi kwabo, kuba oku kuluphawu lwempumelelo yakho ebomini.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ? Vula nje, kuba ukuphuma akunikezeli ingxelo ebalulekileyo. Ndifuna ukuphumla - yenzani, awufuni ukuyibeka-ingxowa indlu ngengubo kwaye ufunde le ncwadi.
"Ukugijimela kwedwa." Ngenxa yokunyanzelisa umhloli werhafu, intombazana enesizungu ihamba kunye nomnyeliso: "Naphi na ndiya khona, kunye nawe endleleni!".
Yintoni endiyenzayo ? Phakathi kwabantu abangaqhelekanga kwimibuthano enomsindo, unokuziva uzikhulule ngokwengeziwe.Ukulandela isiluleko seengqondo zengqondo, kuyimfuneko ukuba "ukhethe ngebhedi" isangqa sakho sabahlobo kwaye "uxoxise" abantu abasondeleyo kunye nabasondeleyo kwimimoya yokuqonda.
Yongeza u kuphila!
Kuze kube namhlanje, ukufumana uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi wezenzo akulukhuni. Kodwa ngenjongo yokufumana inzuzo yakho, kuya kulungele ukucinga, kumgangatho wegama lakho umenywa kwibhola: ukudansa i-mazurka okanye ukugcina ingubo yoboya. Ngamanye amazwi, kwindima "yomntu obalulekileyo" okanye nje ngomlingiswa wezobunzima.
Ukulandela indlela yobomi, zonke iziganeko ziququzelelwe ngenjongo yokutsala nokuhlekisa abantu bexabiso eliphezulu - njengoko bathi, bavunyelwe apha. Nokuba ungabambelela njani kuwe, ukuba akukho nto eyaziwayo ngobomi bakho ebantwini bonke, kodwa ukuchitha ixesha elihle kwaye uzuze ixesha elithile ufuna?
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukubonisa yonke ingqwalasela kunye nobutyebi. Okwesibini, ungalindelanga ukuba uya kuhanjelwa-ukuzisa amanqaku okuqala ngokwaso kwisithethe senkcubeko yomcimbi. Okwesithathu, nangona into ephakamileyo kakhulu ingqalelo, ziphathe ngokungazimeliyo kwaye zingasebenzi kakuhle.
Khumbula ukuba abantu behlabathi baye babona kwaye banamava amaninzi, ngoko kunzima kakhulu ukumangalisa nantoni na. Kodwa baxabisa okokuqala, ukuzithemba kuyo yonke into, ukuzithemba, ukunyamekela kunye nokukwazi ukuzigcina unyawo olulinganayo nabantu abaneempembelelo. Masikhumbule u-Oscar Wilde, owathi ukuze ufumane uluntu jikelele jikelele, umntu kufuneka aphelise, okanye athabathe, okanye ashathise abantu! Nanku kuwe umgaqo wegolide wendlela yokufumana impumelelo kuluntu jikelele!