Kodwa kuthekani ukuba indoda ayikunikezi izipho? Masizame ukuqonda izizathu zezi. Esinye sezizathu ezenza umntu anganikeli izipho kukuhaha. Ngelishwa, kukho amadoda amaninzi. Ukukrakra kunokuba ngumntu ocebileyo nobutyebi. Ubukrakra nokukhwabanisa ziimpawu zengqondo ezingaxhomekeke kwi-solvency yomntu. Ziye okanye zikhona okanye azikho. Ukuba umntu unomusa kwaye uyathandana, ngoko unako ukuthenga umfazi othandekayo isipho okanye iintyatyambo ngomgangatho womvuzo wakhe kwaye angasindisi kumvuzo wakhe olandelayo, kodwa uthanda ukukholisa intanda yakhe, ngaphandle kokuba uyavuya ukubona amehlo akhe atyandayo, kumangaliswa ukummangalisa.
Ukuba umntu uyakratshi, akalokothi anike izipho ezingenanto. Eyona nto ibhetele, umfazi uya kumlinda ukuba athathe ingqalelo kwiholide ethile, umzekelo wokuzalwa kwakhe, xa kungenakulungele ukunika nantoni na. Ukunika izipho umntu onobukrakra luvavanyo olunzima lokuziphatha. Ewe, kunjalo. Emva koko, uyaxatyushwa gqitha xa echitha imali kuwe. Zonke iingcamango zakhe zijolise ekubeni kunzima kangakanani ukufumana imali, indlela enzima ngayo ukusebenza okanye ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba asebenze ishishini lakhe kwaye enze imali, kwaye apha uhlala kwimeko xa ephoqeleka ukukuthenga isipho.
Kuninzi kakhulu ukuba ndicebise abafazi ukuba bacinge kakuhle, befumene iimpawu zoburhado lomntu, enye yileyo loo mntu ayikunike nantoni kwi-nyavnosti kuyo yomsebenzi rhoqo kunye neengeniso zemali. Amadoda abanobukrakra, njengomthetho, ayitshintshi. Ngako oko, kufuneka ucinge ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokudibanisa ubomi bakho nomntu onjalo. Ukuba ngumfazi wakhe, umfazi, awuyikulibala kuphela ngezipho kunye neentlobo zothando, kunye neendleko zexabiso elibizayo, iimpahla kunye ngokubanzi malunga neengxaki zakhe.
Uya kukuvumela ukuba uthenge kuphela izinto eziyimfuneko ebomini, uya kubuza ukuba ungakanani imali kunye nalapho uchithe khona. Kwezinye iimeko zesifo, amadoda amakhwele afuna abafazi babo ukuba bahlole ukuthengwa kunye nokuziphatha ngokubanzi malunga neengxelo zengeniso kunye neendleko. Ngoko cinga uphinde ucinge kwakhona, ngaba ufuna umntu onobukrakra. Ukuba umntu uyakratshi, kholwani mna, oku kungonakali, kwaye unokubandezeleka ngokunyanisekileyo kwakhe ubomi bonke. Uya kuqikelela ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ukuhaha kwakhe kuqoqosho kwaye kuphazamise.
Esinye isizathu sokuba umntu anganiki izipho kungabikho kokuthandana naye, ngokubanzi, ukungabi nalwazi ngothando. Unokuba ngumnene, onobubele, kodwa engacingi ukuba kubalulekile kuwe, akacingi ukuba izipho kufuneka zinikezwe xa enika unomdla kunye nokufudumala. Kukho olu hlobo lwamadoda. Zizinto nje ezipakethe kunye ne-umnichki, eduze kwazo kakuhle kwaye zikhululekile, ziyakwazi ukuxhasa incoko, ncedisa kumzuzu onzima. Kodwa ucinga ukuba kukho into ekhoyo.
Ngenxa yokuba iholide ifika, ihlala ikhona, kodwa iza ngaphandle, ingenasipho. Akazange akwenze ube neengxaki zothando, kwaye ulwalamano lwakho luzolile, luzolile, lubushelele, lungabikho ngxabano, kodwa kakhulu, lukhulu kakhulu! Ukuba umntu ulungile kakhulu, njengomntu, uyamthanda, unempawu zobomi obuhle kakhulu, kodwa engenalo ngcamango malunga nokuthandana, inokumiselwa. Ubuncinane, ungazama ukukulungisa, ukuyiqwalasela into ongayinayo kulwalamano. Ungaqala ukusuka kude. Umzekelo, ukuqala ukumnika iholide yonke kwaye ngaphandle kwesizathu, ngosuku oluqhelekileyo, izipho ezincinci. Ngokukhawuleza akayi kulungeleka ukuba umnike, kwaye akakuniki nantoni na, kwaye uya kuqala ukukuphendula ngezipho ezilungeleyo. Ungazama ukuthetha naye kuphela.
Kodwa nawuphi na umcimbi musa ukujika le ngxoxo ibe ngxabano! Musa ukwethuka, memeza. Ngokuhlwa, mkhanyeni ukukhanya, menze itiye, hlalani kuye, nququze. Mxelele ngokuqala malunga nendlela enhle ngayo, ulungile kangakanani ekusebenzelaneni naye, mxelele ngezinto zakhe ezintle. Bese uthi unobungcali obuhle kakhulu, kodwa unqwenela ukuba ungalokothi unqande kwizinto eziye zaphunyezwa kwaye zenza ubuhlobo bube bhetele. Mxelele ukuba uya kuthanda ukuzisa izinto zokuthandana nobudlelwane bakho, ukuba kuya kuba mnandi ukuba ufumane izipho ezivela kumntu othandekayo. Khawutsho ukuba awukhathaleli ngokwenene ngesipho sesipho, kodwa yona kanye into yokuba uphawu lokubaluleka kuye kubalulekile. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kumangaliswa kwaye athi akazange acinge ngezipho njengenxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwalamano.
Zama ukumchazela ukuba oku kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, ngenxa yokuba unobumnene kwaye unothando, kwaye ufuna ukuba umhlobo wakho ayanandipha ngeeholide nakwiintsuku eziqhelekileyo, ngaphandle kwesizathu. Inokwenzeka ukuba, emva kwengxoxo enesiyimfihlo kunye nenqweno yakho indoda iya kulungiswa. Ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyamthanda, uya kukunika. Into ephambili - ungathuli, ungadli, uze uxoxe ngeengxaki uze uchaze ukuba le nto ingxaki kuwe. Ngenxa yokuba ngamadoda, kholwa kum, akusoze kube yinkinga. Sekunjalo, bahluke kakhulu kuthi kuthi bafazi, kwaye ababonanga mfuneko yezipho kunye neentlungu. Kodwa kuwe, umntu othanda wena unako ukuphucula! Ukuba emva kwesi ncoko emva kwesikhashana umntu wakho engakunikeli izipho, unokumkhumbuza ingxoxo yakho, kodwa kunye nobumnene kunye nokucebisa. Ukuba oku akunakunceda, ngoko ndikucebisa ukuba ucinge ngako.
Umntu wakho okanye akanakuvakalelwa kakhulu, ngenxa yoko akayi kubona isidingo sokukukholisa kwaye uyayithanda iminqweno yakho, okanye akayiqondi yonke le "izinto zothando zowesifazane" kwaye uzijonga njengeziyatha. Ndikucebisa ukuba ucinge ukuba unako ukuhlala naye ubomi bakho bonke ngaphandle kokuthandana, ngaphandle kwezipho, ngaphandle kwemimangaliso. Ukulinganisa zonke izinto ezixhamlayo kunye neengxaki. Ukuba uyintanda kakhulu kuwe kwaye unamanye amancedo, ke ungabandakanyeli nendoda kuba akayithandani ngothando. Izipho - oku akuyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano!