Namhlanje ebaleni ekukhulisweni kukubonakaliswa kweempawu kunye neetalente zomntu, ukukwazi ukusebenza kwinqela, kodwa kungekhona ukuzinqanda iminqweno yabo ngenxa yezifiso zabanye. Iimpawu zexesha elidlulileyo azizange zibi - zivele zenzeke. Kwaye, ukufundisa abantwana banamhlanje, oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo. Ngokomzekelo, ukubafundisa ukuba bathe baxoxise iimvakalelo zecala ngenxa yokwenqaba - wonk 'ubani unelungelo lokuzibona kwakhe. Ngubani owakwazi ukuwufumana kwisikhokelo senkqubo enkulu ebumbeneyo?
Ngenxa yokungazi izandi ezintsha okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukushaya i-maelstrom yabo, abazali benza iimpazamo ekukhuliseni umntwana kwintsapho epheleleyo. Zeziphi na?
Ukuzalela wena
Ngethuba lethu, ukulingana ngokwesini kuye kwasungulwa - abafazi banenkululeko epheleleyo yokuthatha isenzo. Kwaye kunye nethuba lokuhlalisana noluntu lokukhulisa nokufundisa abantwana ngokwabo. Ukukhulisa umntwana kwintsapho epheleleyo kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali, kodwa nangomntwana. Kodwa unina akakwazi ukutshintsha ngokupheleleyo uyise - akanalo iimpawu, ukutyekela, nokuba ukuvumba kwesondo esomeleleyo, ngaphandle kokuba umntwana angayi kuba namava namadoda. Abantwana abakhulela ngaphandle kokukhuliswa kukababa banomdla wokuba baphucule ubomi babo abadala: kuqhelekile ukuba baphephe uxanduva, batshintshe iingxaki zabo kwabanye, kwaye bangabi nethonya elihle. Amantombazana oomama abangatshatanga bavame ukuguqula umyeni wabo kwikamva, kwaye oonyana banelungelo lokuzithemba - le nkwenkwana ayiyikuyilalisa uyise, ngokuba naye uyindoda. Ngendlela, igama elithi "ukuzalela" alikho nje into yokuqhatha: ngoko ke, umfazi uzama ukusombulula ezinye iingxaki. Ngokomzekelo, umbuzo wokulondeka, ukufezekiswa kwamabhinqa okanye, kunye nesimo sezinto zanamhlanje, ukuphila kakuhle.
Ndikhangele ubaba kumntwana wam
Ukuba ulwalamano nobazali be-baby of the baby aluzange luphuhlise, akusilona ithuba lokumfuna ukukhuliswa nokuphuhliswa kobawo omtsha. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhangela indoda ethandekayo nothando. Umlingani othembekileyo uya kwamkela umntwana womnye umntu aze azenzele yena, ngenxa yokuba le nxalenye iyingxenye yowesifazane owamkela. Ngaphandle koko, kugxininise "kwintsapho", unokulahlekelwa yimpawu - kunye neengxabano kwintsapho esandul 'intsha ayiyi kukugcina ulinde. Ngokuqinisekileyo awaziwa into ebhetele: ukuhlala ngaphandle kobawo okanye ongekho phakathi kwindlu ukusuka kumgaqo "owawunjalo." Ingxabano yomzali ngamnye yabonwa ngumntwana njengentlekele encinci. Ukuxhalabisa, ukwesaba nokubandakanyeka kwimfazwe ebonakalayo (kwaye ngokukhawuleza umgwebi weengxoxo-? Ngoko ke, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana akhuliswe kwintsapho epheleleyo. Ngendlela, ukuze abantwana bangazange babe neengxaki zecala, xa bethetha, bahlala bejonge emehlweni: bahlale phantsi kwinqanaba lomntwana, okanye bathabathe ezandleni zenu. Amehlo kwiso - isikhundla sokulingana.
Khetha - Andifuni!
Ukukwazi ukwenza ukhetho kukuthatha uxanduva. Ukuqwashiswa kwexabiso leendlela ezikhethiweyo kuza nexesha, kodwa kufuneka ukhethe ukufundisa umntwana ukuya kwiminyaka eli-7 - ade ahambe kwimeko engumzali. Ngaphandle koko, i-crumb izakukhawuleza ihlulwe kuzo zonke iintlobo zobukhohlisi kunye neentlanga, ngokuqhelekileyo-ezinobungozi. Kulula ukuba afake iqhinga elenziwe ngokulungelelanisiweyo, kunokuzihlakulela okanye ukuveza ukukhusela. Ingcambu yesenzo senceku inokufunyanwa kwisidlo seentsapho: ngaphandle kokubuza umntwana oko akufunayo isidlo sakusihlwa okanye yintoni umbala osizithandayo, unina unikezela isisombululo esilungile. Uya kumkhangela esemdala.
Xa ulungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa, soloko ukhetha ukukhetha izitya ezimbini. Ukufunda ukhetho lungcono ukusuka kwizinto ezimbini ezihlukeneyo-phakathi kobuninzi bomntwana ozinikezelweyo ulahlekile.
Musa ukudibanisa lo mzuzu ngokunyaniseka kwindlalifa yeendlalifa. Emva koko, ngasinye sigqibo siya kuba nemiphumo kunye nento yokumfundisa, ukubonakalisa iimpawu zakhe kunye nokukwazi ukukhusela iimfuno zakhe.
Ngaphandle kwengcaciso
Zonke izithintelo kufuneka zichaneke: akukho nto ixelela umntwana, ngaphandle kokungena kwiinkcukacha zesigqibo eso, kufana nokunika ukukhanya okuluhlaza. I-Chad idinga ukucaciswa, njengombongo odumileyo, into enhle neyona nto embi, kutheni kwenzeka okanye akunakwenzeka. Emva koko, engenayo imilinganiselo yokuziphatha, unyana okanye intombi ethandekayo uya kukhetha isiqhamo esinqatshelwe - engaziwayo ihlala ikhangayo. Oomama banamhlanje badla ngokukhetha indawo yokukhuliselwa "khula-uyihlume" okanye "ubomi buya kubonisa." Kodwa ekhanda lomntwana, uyamkela yonke into entsha, ulwazi luya kungena ngokulandelelanayo: ngeTV, kwisitalato, kwi-intanethi. Oko, ukuyibeka ngenyameko, ayisoloko ihambelana nenyaniso kunye nemimiselo eyamkelekileyo kuluntu.
Ugogo kunomntwana
Abantwana kufuneka bakhuliswe ngabazali babo okanye, ngenxa yengqesho yabo, i-professional nannies. Ezi zilandelayo ziyazi iimfuno ezenziwa kuluntu luluntu, kwaye zenze ukuba izakhono zokusinda kuyo. Akukho nto namhlanje kwiluhlu lweemfuno zabahamba ngemfundo ephakamileyo, ulwazi lweelwimi zasemzini kunye nezindlela zengqondo (umzekelo, ukukhawuleza ukukhawuleza, utshintshe ingqalelo yomntwana). Kodwa ngokugqibeleleyo ukushiya imfundo ukuya kubantu abaqashiweyo akuyimfuneko: ukunqongophala koqhagamshelwano lwabazali kunokubangela ukuba umntwana abe nomuvo wokuthi uyashiywe. Ungakwazi ukuguquka ngokukhawuleza ukuya kwiingubo ze-slob-throwing, amathoyizi kunye nekiki ngenjongo enye-ukutsala ingqalelo. Okanye ukuqala ukulimaza: ukushisa komzimba ophakanyisiweyo, ukunyaniseka kunye nokunganakwa kwamanye kuya kukwenzela umama kunye nobaba ukuphazamisa ngexesha elivela emsebenzini.
Ugogo nomkhulu kumsebenzi wenyameko wokunyamekela ngeveki okanye iholide. Ngeengcamango nemithetho ebekwe ngabo, umntwana akanakuyisebenzisa inxaxheba kweli hlabathi lanamhlanje. Emva kwakho konke, njengomthetho, oomkhulu noomkhulu bafuna ukuhlaziya ngexesha elidlulileyo.
Andikuthandi
Ngubani ovutha ngumsindo okanye ukuphelelwa yithemba akazange alahle umntwana kumagama athi: "Andikuthandi kwakhona" okanye "Andiyi kukuthanda"? Lawa magama, kungekhona ukubethelwa kwipapa, - inzondo enkulu yengqondo yomntwana. I-cyanide potassium ebuchosheni ilungu lentsapho elincinci, kuba abantwana bavame ukuqonda yonke into. Ngako oko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu okhohlakeleyo unobungozi kangakanani, loo mabinzana kufuneka akhankanywe ekusebenzisaneni ngokuthe tye kwaye atshintshe ngamagama athetha ngeemvakalelo zakho. Umzekelo: "Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu, kodwa ndandithukuthele ngenxa yesenzo sakho" okanye "Uhlakaniphile, unomusa kwaye ndibuhlungu xa uthetha njalo." Dlulisa amava akho ngamava, kungekhona ngamagama awonakalisayo.
Papa - ukuya kumanxele, umama ukuya kwesokudla
Kunzima ukuphakamisa i-crumb ukuba ngabazali baneembono ezahlukeneyo kwimfundo. Ngamnye wabo wakhulela kwintsapho yakhe, kunye nezithethe, inkcubeko, isizwe, inkolo kunye nezinye izinto ezixabisekileyo. Kodwa ngaphandle kwendlela enye yokuziphatha kwimfundo yezindlalifa ayikwazi ukwenza, ngaphandle koko ungonakalisa ubudlelwane kunye nesiqingatha sesibini kunye nabantwana ngokwabo. Yilula: intombi okanye unyana uyinxalenye yentsapho, abathwali beenkcukacha zentsapho. Amantombazana ahlale ekhutshwe ngokomzwelo, ephathekayo ngokwemvelo kwaye enamandla ngokumalunga nomama kayise, kunye namakhwenkwe - kunye noyise kamama. Yingakho ubudlelwane obubi kunye noninazala (ukufunda - kungekhona ukwamkelwa kweempawu zentsapho yakhe) kubeka ingxabano phakathi komama nentombi, umkhwe womkhwezala uphakamisa ubudlelwane obukhulu phakathi koyise kunye nendodana.
Ukongezelela, abantwana banengqiqo ngokwaneleyo kwaye, ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokubazali, abazali babo baya kuba nesimo esiluncedo kubo okwangoku, ukugijima ukusuka kwinkampu ukuya kwinkampu. Kungenzeka ukuba umntwana uza kuba ngumphathi wendlu - uya kuzama ukufumana oko akufunayo nangayiphi na indlela. Ngoko intsapho ifuna ukungqinelana kunye nokwamkela imigaqo yabantu.