Unyaka wonke, inani labamama abangatshatanga linyuka kwaye liloyikisa ngamanani abo. Uloyiko kunye namanani omtshato, kuba ngamanye amaxesha aphindwe kabini, okanye aphindwe kathathu ngaphezu kwenani lemitshato ngonyaka. Kodwa into eyona nto iyingozi kakhulu kwiimeko zombini yinto enye kuphela: umntwana ukhuliswe ngaphandle kobawo. Kwaye ungakholelwa, kwakungekho nto kuye ukuba uyise wayenjalo okanye ushiywe kutshanje, inyaniso, njengoko bayithethayo, ihlala iyinyaniso. Akunjalo nje kuphela abantu abaye bahlaselwa, kodwa kunye neenjongo zabantwana, esingaziboniyo ngezinye iinkcukacha, ukusombulula iingxaki zabo abadala.
Emva koko, umfazi ohlala eengalo zakhe kunye noxinzelelo lwengxaki yomntwana kwaye uzive ukuba kuvela ubunzima beengxaki ezintsha-izinto, izindlu kunye nokuziphatha. Kodwa konke oku kunzima xa kuthelekiswa noko umntwana azizwayo kwaye uzive. Ukuba umntwana usemncinci, mhlawumbi akayi kuqonda ngokukhawuleza imeko enzima, kodwa umntwana omdala ufumana uxinzelelo lwangempela kwaye, ngokuthe rhoqo, uvakalelwa enetyala kule meko. Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo zezingane, umntwana okhulayo kwintsapho epheleleyo uvela kumava olwalamano lwabazali kunye nomzekelo wokwakha ngakumbi ubudlelwane babo kwiintsapho zakhe ezizayo. Loo mntwana kulula ukulungelelanisa kuluntu. Umntwana ongenayo uyise, ngumpawu wokuzihlukanisa, ukukhutshwa kunye nokulungelelaniswa kwezinto ezimbi kwiqela.
Ukukhulisa umntwana ngaphandle koba ngumsebenzi onzima kakhulu, ingakumbi kumama. Kodwa ukuba ufuna kunye nokufumaneka kolwazi oluthile kunye nezakhono, unokuyicombulula le ngxaki.
Iimpawu zemfundo yabantwana kwimindeni yabazali abangabodwa
Ukuba ukhulisa unyana, ke umsebenzi wakho uya kuba ukulungisa iindlela ezifanelekileyo zomntwana wakho. Ezi zinokuba ngamaqhawe e-movie, amaqhawe amabhuku, kunye nabameli abangempela bendoda phakathi kwezihlobo zakho eziseduze. Awudingi ukuqala ukusebenza "ukugqoka" umntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, mqhubekele kwiimeko zexhoba okanye owenziwe kakubi. Awudingi ukukhupha unyana wakho ngokungacingi, kodwa kunoko uzame ukumbamba kuye nayiphi na imisebenzi, ukususela kwisikhwama sokubhinqa ukucoca indlu, ukuhlamba izitya kunye nezinye iintlobo zomsebenzi. Ngokwenza njalo, ukumncoma umntwana kwaye uhlale ummisa ukuba uyindoda ebaluleke kakhulu kwintsapho yabo kwaye ngaphandle kokuncedisa uya kuba nzima. Ngokuziphatha kwayo, umama kufuneka, njengokuba kunjalo, umxube umntwana kwizenzo ezithile, kwaye ngokukodwa ukumnceda, nangona akafumani nto ngokufanelekileyo okokuqala. Oku kuya kufuna umonde omkhulu kunye nengqalelo kuwe. Xa unyana wakho omncinci uyazi ukuba uncedo lwakhe luyimfuneko kakhulu kwaye lunqweneleka kuwe, uya kuthatha inyathelo kwaye athabathe ulonwabo olukhulu kuyo. Emva koko, uya kuqala ukuziva ngathi ngumntu-ithemba kunye nenkxaso yonina kunye nentsapho yonke. Kwaye kamva ukuxilongwa kwakhula, "umntwana ongenayo uyise" ngokubanzi uya kulahleka ukubaluleka kwawo.
Ukuba ukhulisa intombi, ekuqalekeni kubonakala ngathi imeko ilula, kuba le ntombazana isoloko isondelene nonina. Kodwa zivela iingxaki zokuqala. Kwintombazana, intengo kayise inkulu kunokuba yinkwenkwe. Utata ngumntu odlala indima yotitshala obalulekileyo ebomini yentombi. Utata, lo luhlobo lomntu wokuqala oya kukhusela, onesihe kwaye anike iingcebiso eziyimfuneko kwaye uya kudala uxolo nokuzithemba. Kwaye ngoko, ukuhoxiswa okanye ukungabikho kobawo kungabangela ukungathandabuzeki kwintombazana okanye kubangele ukungathandi ngokupheleleyo kwindoda yesini yonke. Kungenxa yezi zinto ofuna ukukhusela intombi yakho. Okokuqala, kufuneka uxelele rhoqo intombi yakho ukuba bonke abantu bahlukileyo kwaye akubi nakubakho konke, kwaye kwenzeke ntoni kubo akuthethi ukuba le nto iphosakeleyo - bakhe kunye noomama, nje ubomi babantu bubunzima kwaye ngamanye amaxesha lukhula ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kungakhathaliseki iimeko.
Ukukhulisa umntwana kuyinkathazo engapheliyo, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba ingqalelo kunye nokuzinikezela ngokupheleleyo.