Ungamnceda njani umntu athethe isigqibo somtshato?

Wonke amabhinqa amaphupha okutshata nomntu othandekayo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha unikela ngezandla kunye neentliziyo kufuneka zilinde ixesha elide.

Yintoni enokuyenza ukuze ifikelele kwiziganeko ezilindele ixesha elide? Okanye omnye umbuzo: njani unokunceda umntu agqibe isigqibo somtshato? Unokwenza isiphakamiso ngokwayo, kungekhona ngetekisi ngqo ngqo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza uyasichazela. Ngokomzekelo, "Ukutshata, ucinga ukuba singatshata? ", Kubafazi besibindi, ukhetho" Mthande, ndifuna ukuba ube ngumyeni wam "kulungile. Kodwa iziphakamiso ezinjalo kufuneka zenziwe kuphela ukuba ngaba ubuhlobo sele bude bude kwaye buzinzile, ukwenzela ukuba ezi binzana zingamsabisi loo ndoda, kodwa ngokuchasene nenza ukuba acinge. Kubalulekile ukucinga malunga nendlela kunye nalapho uqala khona ingxoxo malunga nomtshato, ngokukhethekileyo ngexesha lokutya lomdla okanye ekhaya, apho kungekho mntu unokukuyeka. Into ephambili akuyiyoyiki ukuthetha ngayo, kuba ubudlelwane bexesha elide, ngokwabo, bubonakaliso bentembeko yabalingani. Ukuba umntu akazange anqabe, kodwa wanikela isizathu sokuba kutheni umtshato ungenakwenzeka, ngoku kungekho mfuneko yokucaphuka. Mamela kwaye usekelwe kwimpendulo yayo, uya kucacisa malunga nekhondo elithile. Ungacinezeli kuloo ndoda uze uyibeke zonke iintlobo zeemeko ezinjenge-"Okanye usenza isigqibo somtshato, okanye siyahlula! ", Ngokuchaseneyo, kubalulekile ukuba kunye naye njengomonde kwaye unomdla njengoko kunokwenzeka. Nika imizekelo yeentsapho ezonwabileyo, uphupha ngexesha lokuzonwabisa elihle kunye neentsana zabo ezizayo ,chitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo babo abaye bafumana iintsapho. Indoda ebona izitshatileyo ezitshatileyo ziya kuyika ukwesaba nokuphepha iintsapho, kwaye iyaqonda ukuba ukwakhiwa kobomi bakhe obonwabileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kwenzeka ukuba xa ebuzwa ngomtshato, umntu uqala ukuthetha malunga nokuba uya kufezekisa loo nto, ade ade athenge imoto, indlu, de kube yakha umsebenzi ophumelelayo, akayi kutshata. Kule meko, iinjongo zomntu kufuneka zixhaswe ngazo zonke iindlela. Unokuzama ukumqinisekisa ukuba umtshato awuyithintelo ekuphunyezweni kweenjongo zakhe, kodwa uya kuncedisa ngenkxaso kunye nokuncedisa ukufeza into oyenzile, enokukunceda ukuzisa umtshato.

Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhlukana okufutshane kunokuba luncedo. Ngokuqinisekileyo indoda enothando iya kuba yintlungu kwaye ikulungele ukuyeka ukunyaniseka kwakhe kwithuba elingaphezu kweyodwa imini, leyo inokunyanzela isigqibo sokutshata naye.

Njengomthetho, amadoda anezizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni bangatshati ukutshata. Kodwa basatshata, nangona bazinikela kwinkululeko kunye nokuzimela. Yaye ukuba uyazi izizathu eziphambili zokunceda umntu ukuba athethe isigqibo somtshato, ukunyanzela umthandana kunye nobudlelwane bomtshato obulinde ixesha elide kwaye athole uvuyo naye, akuyi kuba yinto enkulu.

Isizathu esona sizathu esisisiseko sokuba umntu ashade ngesondo. Ngokuxhomekeke kwindlela yokuphila kunye neminyaka yobudala, kusenokuba yimfuneko yokulala ngokwesondo, okanye ngokuphambene nanjalo, ukuphumula nokuphumula kwinqanaba lexesha elidlulileyo lezesondo. Amakhwenkwe amancinane angenamava, xa efika emtshatweni, akholelwa ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba intloko yokulala ngokwesondo ngumtshato, kwaye ngenxa yokungakwazi kwabo ukwenza iipazamo, kuba isondo asiyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu kwintsapho yolonwabo. Amanye amantombazana ayifumene ukuba ayamkelekanga ukuba abe nobuhlobo bezesondo ngaphambi komtshato, nto leyo eyenza indoda ishade. Isizathu esilandelayo, ukungena ngokuzithandela kwiimeko zomthetho kunye nomfazi othandekayo kukuba umntu ukhathala ngemisebenzi yasekhaya. Kweminye, indlela yokuphila yobomi be-bachelor iya kuba isihogo sangempela. Emva kokufumana umfazi, isidingo sokuhlamba, ukupheka kunye nokucoca kwindoda iyalala ngokwawo. Isizathu esilandelayo sisimo sokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi ozithandayo. Kule meko, njengomthetho, uthando ludlala indima ebalulekileyo. Esi sizathu sisona esona sininzi singena emtshatweni wothando. Nangona kukho iimeko apho iqabane liqala ukusebenzisa uthando oluqinileyo kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini kunye nayo yonke indlela enokuyenza ngayo. Umtshato "kwi-fly". Isizathu esidala nesaziwayo. Ngendlela, ucinga ngokufanelekileyo ngenye yemitshato eqinileyo, kuba indoda ethatha uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe, ukutshata nomama wengane yakhe engakazalwa, ibonakaliswe ngokwenza kwakhe ubunzulu beenjongo zakhe. Ufuna ukutshata. Ngenxa yoko kuyimfuneko "- isizathu esinxulumene namandla omkhwa kunye nezithethe zobomi bomntu ophakathi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba imfundo yeSoviet, okanye ingqondo, kodwa yinto enobunzima nangakumbi yokungafumani. Akunakunalo uthando olukhethekileyo lwakhe olukhethiweyo, unokuzinyamekela kwaye akayidingi umfazi, kodwa bonke abahlobo baye bafumana abafazi babo nabantwana babo ixesha elide kwaye ufuna. Okanye ngamanye amaxesha umntu udibana nomntu wakhe okhethiweyo iminyaka emininzi kwaye abazali babo bobabini babesele bashade nabo, indoda iyaqonda ukuba lixesha lokudlulisa ubudlelwane nothando kumgangatho omtsha, ngoko le ndoda ayinayo enye indlela - "lixesha lokutshata." Umtshato wokulula. Ewe, ewe, amadoda atshate ngokungaphantsi kowesifazane. Umtshato ngemali, uhambo, i-propiska okanye ubemi bexesha elide libe yinto evamile ebomini kwindoda yanamhlanje. Iminyano yemitshato enjalo ihlala isomelele kakhulu, ngenxa yokuba indoda ixhomekeka kumfazi kunye neemeko zemali ezizinzileyo okanye ukuqhubela phambili komsebenzi, uyakwazi ukutshata, nangona ukuthobela inkululeko. Ngamanye amaxesha amadoda atshada ngokuzinikela kwiindawo ezikhethiweyo zabo. Ukukhathala kwamagama angapheliyo athi, "Siza kutshata nini? "," Ndifuna ukuba sibe yindoda nomfazi, "uyakunqwenela umnqweno wakhe kunye naye amtshatile. Ewe, isizathu esivamekileyo kunye nesizathu sokunqabana siyinxalenye yothando. Umnqweno wokuba nabantwana kwintombazana ethandekayo, ukuba abe soloko esondele komnye wakhe kuphela, nguye owona mandla ekuqhubekeni komntu wesifiso sokumisa ngokusemthethweni ubudlelwane nomfazi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu kangakanani inyaniso yobomi, amanye amadoda athetha ukutshata, ukwenzela ukuba bakwazi ukuzola ekhohlo, bekholelwa ukuba isitampu epasipoti iya kugcina loo mfazi nxamnye neentengo zakhe kunye neentengiso kwaye umfazi akayi kuhamba naphi na. Ewe, ulwalamano olunjalo luya kuzisa ubunzima kuphela kwintombi, ngoko qaphela ukukhetha iqabane lomntu, kuba ukuthembela nokuqonda kwinqanaba lamabini amaqabane kukubalulekileyo kumtshato onempilo novuyo!