Iimeko zoBomi .
Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yokwethuka inzulu kakhulu phantsi kweemeko zobomi. Abanye bahlala becasulwa ngetoni ekhohlakeleyo yabaphathi babo, abanye bayakhathazeka malunga nemibuzo malunga nomntu othile, ngoxa abanye abakwazi ukunyamezela into engaziwayo. Ukungaphumeleli komntu, ukungathandi, ubuxoki, ukungathembeki, umona, ngokukhawuleza kukhokelela ekugqibeleni imeko. Abantu abanentlonelo bavame ukunyanzelwa ukukwazi ukuvavanya iimeko kwaye benze isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Oku kumvimbela ukuba aphile, ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kwihlabathi elikujikelezile. Kwaye isangqa sivale, sivale ithuba lokuphila nobomi obuqhelekileyo. Kodwa, njengoko izazi zengqondo zifumene, unokufumana indlela yokuphuma kwesi sihloko.
Iingcebiso zezengqondo zeengqondo
Ukuxelisa .
Yaziwa yindlela ephumelelayo neyaziwayo yokuphumeza oku. Ingundoqo yendlela ixelisa. Kule meko, umntu ngaphambili ulahlekelwa yimeko enzima kwaye utshintshe ukuziphatha kwakhe ngeli xesha. Ukulinganisa indlela esabela ngayo ekuphenduleni isenzo esibangela ukuba sibe neentloni, kukuvumela ukuba ufunde indlela yokuyisebenzisa ngayo imihla ngemihla. Xa ufuna ukusebenzisa le ndlela, kunokwenzeka ukuba ulahlekelwe ukwesaba. Umzekelo, ukuba emsebenzini lo mvakalelo ongathandekiyo kubangelwa ngumphathi wakho okanye umqeshwa kwindawo ephakamileyo, zicinge wena njengomntu obaluleke kakhulu kwaye usebenzise le nxaxheba kuwe, uyidlale, uyidlale. Emva koko bathethe nabo bevela kule ndawo. Mhlawumbi okokuqala ungayi kuphumelela. Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, uqeqesho luya kuthwala iziqhamo, into ephambili ayiyikubaphazamisa. Kufuneka uzame ukulahlekelwa phantsi kwazo zonke iimeko ezikukhathazayo nokukhathazeka. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukusetyenziswa komsebenzi omtsha kuya kuba ngumkhwa wakho, kwaye uyayeka ukukhathazeka ngeze.
Umntu okanye ulawulo?
Abaninzi bayabhala ukwesaba kobuqhetseba babo, bazikholisa kunye nabanye ukuba kunjalo. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka udideke - oku kukuthanda kwakho. Umntu unako ukukwazi ukuzilawula. Ukhathazeka kukuba yindlela yokubonisa ukunganeliseki okanye ukufihla iimpazamo, kunoko, nokuba ziinkathazo. Sifanele sikhuphe oku. Ngoko, uziva unomsindo kwaye uqale ukhathazeka. Ungalindelanga ukugqithiswa kwimeko. Ukuba le ngxoxo-phumani niye nedwa, nidabule yodwa, nikhulule amandla ambi. Akudingeki ukuba iqokelele ngokwayo, ngaphandle koko iyakudlula emva koko ifumane indlela yokuphuma. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, tyelela ukuzivocavoca kwaye ukhupha zonke izinto zakho ezimbi ngokubethelwa kwipare. Nayiphi na enye into eyenziwa ngumzimba. Ngaloo nto ungagqithisi nje iimvakalelo ezimbi, kodwa uphinde uphucule ifom yakho yomzimba.
Iingcebiso kubafazi .
Mhlawumbi kulula ukululahla ukwesaba kubafazi ababukeleyo. Iingcebiso zokwesaba zilandelayo. Kwanele ukujonga ngokwakho kwisibuko ngexesha lokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba. Kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, cela umntu osondeleyo ukuba asuse le nyathelo kwi-camcorder yakho engabonakaliyo. Indoda enesibindi ayibuhlungu kangangokuba xa ezibona ephuma ngaphandle, awuyi kukholwa ukuba nguwe. Olu tshintsho lwamehlo luvame ukuphelisa umnqweno wokuzihlaziya kunye nabanye ixesha elide. Ewe, ukuba imeko iphinda, hlaziya i-video yakho archive.
Ukuzimelela .
Uwasusa kakuhle ukukhathazeka kokuzimelela. Hlala yedwa kunye nawe, zama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho. Ukukhula ngokwakho izihluma zothando, ububele, ukunyamezela kwabanye. Abantu bafezekanga. Bona, njengawe, banamaphutha abo. Xolela. Xolela. Hlanganisa kumatshini omshukumisayo. Ukuba unomdla, ke kukho isizathu salo. Yiya kuye. Sitshintsha ubomi bakho, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ungavumeli iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo zilawula ubomi bakho.
Indlela endala .
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba iimbilini zakho ziphelile, zama ukuthabatha into ethile. Indlela endala endala kukubala ukuya ku-10. Abanye abantu banemizuzu emibini nje ukuba bayeke kwaye bathathe ulawulo lwemeko. Bhala ngokuzeleyo kwaye uphume ngokuthula, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka kwenziwe maxesha amaninzi. Iingcali zengqondo ziqaphele ukuba le ndlela inceda wonke umntu. Into ephambili kukuba nexesha lokuzikhusela nangomzuzwana.
Ngethuba elifanayo, umsebenzi owenziwa ngabadlali abaninzi kunye nabadlali abavela kwii-psychotherapists, uncedo olungileyo. Ngexesha le ngxoxo okanye ulinde, kufuneka uhlale esihlalweni ngqo, ubeke izandla zakho ngamadolo. Oku kunceda ukufumana amandla angakumbi, ukuzithemba. Ukuba uhamba, ukhulule zonke iinxalenye zomzimba kwaye uhambe ngokukhululekile, unokwenza u-gesticulate. Oku kuya kunciphisa ukuxhatshazwa emzimbeni nokukhulula amandla okufuneka ukulawula iimvakalelo.
Uloyiko .
Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yokweba ukwesaba. Ukuphazamisa ikhono lomntu ukuzilawula kunye neemvakalelo zakhe, ukhokelela ekuphazamiseni ukulinganisela, kusisusa kuye. "Akunzima kum, ndiyesaba, kodwa apha ..." - i-ellipsis inokuthi ithatyathelwe nayiphi na ibinzana. Phantse elowo wethu wafumana le nto ngathi. Uloyiko lwendalo lungaba, umzekelo, phambi kokuhlolwa, ngenxa yokwesaba ukungaphumeleli uvavanyo. Kule meko, imeko enempembelelo engalunganga iya kunceda ukuphucula nokunyanzelisa ngolu hlobo imeko. Umzekelo, ucinga ukuba uya kufumana uphawu olunganelisekiyo. Kunokuba isongela? Phinda uphinde uhlole. Ngokuncitshiswa. Cinga ngento oya kuyenza kwezi meko. Ngaba uya kuphinda ufunde isifundo kwakhona okanye ukhethe elinye iziko? Yidlale wena kwaye uyibale. Emva koko udibanise kwiimvakalelo ezintle ezikulindele xa kwenzeka impumelelo. Ekholisayo, efanelekileyo. Yeka kule mizwa, zisebenzise wena kwaye ukhulule. Kufuneka uhambe kuzo zombini iimeko ngokwengqondo uze uzibale ngabo. Ekugqibeleni, ngaba nexhala lokuba sele sele ikhona? Akunjalo. Iziganeko ezidlulileyo azibangeli iimvakalelo ezininzi, nokuba ngaba ziyinto eqhelekileyo.
Kukho ukwesaba okukhulu, kungekhona kwisiganeko esiyingozi. Le yimiba. Ngaloo ngxaki, kufuneka uqhagamshelane nodokotela-psychotherapist. Siyathemba ukuba iingcebiso zethu zeengqondo zeengqondo ziza kunceda.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu - qi niseka kuwe. Ungathandabuzeki, uya kunqoba yonke into, uya kuphumelela. Nangona ekuqaleni kwendlela yokukhathazeka kuya kukukhathaza ngezikhathi ezithile, akusikho isizathu sokuyeka ukuzincoma nokuzilahla izandla. Oku kufanele kube yinto ekhuthazayo eyongezelelweyo, kuba nguwe kuphela owaziyo okukulindeleyo ngenxa yolu mzabalazo - ukuzonwabisa okunokuthula wobomi. Kufanelekile ukuzama, akunjalo?