Iingxaki zabatshatileyo kwintsapho yanamhlanje

Njengawuphi na uhlobo oluyinkimbinkimbi, intsapho ibuye ihlangabezane namanqanaba athile ophuhliso, oko kukuthi, ukuphakama kwayo kunye nokuhla. Kodwa ukuba amaxesha amaninzi ajabulise amaqabane anamava amaninzi athatyathwa, kwaye ngexesha lobunzima beentlalontle zentsapho, zombini umyeni wakhe nomfazi kubonakala ngathi abayedwa kuphela abanenhlanhla. Enyanisweni, iingxaki zabatshatileyo kwiintsapho zanamhlanje zifana nazo zonke.

Abasebenzi kwintsimi yentsapho kunye nomtshato bahlala beqinisekile ukuba kukho iimeko ezisemthethweni ezingasongela umtshato. kwaye ukuba kunjalo - ungadikibali. kuba ukuba ukuxilongwa kuye kwaziwa, ngoko "ukubuyisela" yinto nje yexesha. kuya kuba nomnqweno wokunqoba le bhanti elimnyama ngamanyathelo amanyeneyo - oko kubalulekile. kuba ngaphandle kwalokhu, naluphi na, kwanamachiza amaninzi akwazi ukukunceda.

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Eyona nto, ukuqala ingxoxo malunga nolonwabo lwentsapho olushukunyiswayo, ukuba kungengenxa yokungcatsha kwamanye amaqabane! Yintoni ekuthethileyo yindoda ebuthakathaka, kwaye ukuba izilingo zihlangana nazo zonke iinyathelo, ngoko kunzima ukuchasa, kodwa oko kunomdla kukuba, nangona abasandul 'ukutshata banamava kakhulu nangokwenyama, ngokubethelela izandla kunye neengcango zokuqhawula umtshato, kodwa ngaphambi kokuba umtshato ufumane kaninzi kuninzi kwiintsapho ezinamava.

Iingcali zengqondo zichaza oku kungekuphela nje kukuba kwintsapho yabantu abaselula banamathuba athile okukhupha umphunga womlilo kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza. Kwakhona luhlobo luni lolwalamano oluphambi kwamaqabane kumanyano omtshato. Kwiintsapho ezisanda kudala, indima ephambili, njengomthetho, ikwabelana ngesondo, kwaye emva koko, isekelwe ngokubanzi kwimvakalelo, kungekhona engqondweni. Ngoko ke, ubusuku bothando, ngokuqhelekileyo akukho siphepho esingaphantsi kwesicaciso sobudlelwane obudlulileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo kukhokelela ekuxolelaneni, ngokukodwa ukuba i-"left" jerk ingozi.

Kodwa abatshatileyo, abahlala ndawonye iminyaka emininzi, baxhomekeke kubaluleke kakhulu ekuthembekeni kobudlelwane babo. Kwaye kwintlungu yabo, ayibuhlungu kakhulu kangangokuba iqabane lomntu "lalala" njengokungcatshiswa kumntu othandekayo. Yaye nomfanekiso womlingane oye wangcatsha oyingcwele - ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo kuye, ukususa kwingqondo kunzima. Apha awukwazi ukufumana imidlalo yokulala, kuba kufuneka usebenze engqondweni yakho.

Nangona iimvakalelo akufanele zilibaleke, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kukulwa neengxaki. Ngokomzekelo, indlela efanelekileyo yokulibala elidlulileyo, ukuba ukuthengwa kwenzeka kwintshonalanga yentsapho, kukuqokelela kwiibhedi zebhedi kunye nemithwalo kunye neengubo zokulala (abaxinzeleleli banokuzongeza apha kunye nombhede ngokwalo), usitshise kufuphi nedoti egcekeni, kwaye kunye kunye ukuya esitolo ukuthenga zonke ezintsha.

Kodwa oku akuyona into ephambili. Ngokutsho kweengqondo zeengqondo, kubaluleke kakhulu kumntu ofuna ukuxolelwa ukuba uthembeke kwaye uthembeke. Kwaye ngamazwi, ngokukhuni, kwaye mhlawumbi ingxoxo ede, ukuzama ukuqinisekisa isiqingatha sokuba oku kungeke kwenzeke kwakhona. Ewe, iqela elenzakele liyakuncebisa into enye: phulaphula ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukwazi ukuva nangaphandle kwe-unspoken. Emva kwakho konke, unesiqingatha sesinye!

Ekukhuselweni kwemida yabo

Xa behlala ixesha elide kunye nomnye, ngokuqhelekileyo baqala ukuxabana ngesiseko sendlela abachitha ngayo ixesha labo. Ngokutsho kweengqondo zeengqondo, le mbambano yabatshatileyo kwintsapho yanamhlanje inikwe isikhundla esiphambili. Esi sihloko sichaza ukungaboni ngaso lunye kwintsapho kunengxaki zesini okanye iingxaki zemali.

Njengobutsha, ukutyhutyana ngokubambisana kuthathwa njengeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo yokuzilibazisa, kwaye akukho nto yokuzonwabisa apha. Ngokomzekelo, okokuqala abatshatileyo beza kwi-zorke baya kudoba elisondeleyo lokubamba iintlanzi, kwaye ke, ukuya kusihlwa, uye kwi-disco okanye kwi-cafe. Ngokweminyaka yobudala (eyinto engokwemvelo), inzondelelo iyancipha, kwaye ngoku ke ngamnye umfazi ufuna ukwenza into yakhe. Kodwa apha kunokuba imeko xa umyeni okanye umfazi kuya kubonakala ukuhamba ngokubonisa ukuvela kwiingxaki zeentsapho jikelele.

Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi, uhlaselo lunikezelwa kumlingane. Oku kuqondakalayo: emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi uxakeke ngemisebenzi yasekhaya ngaphezu komyeni wakhe, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ufumana umdlalo kule ndawo. Kodwa yena ucinga njengento ehlangeneyo. Ngenxa yoko, ukushiya abathembekileyo kwisigxina semini kwigaraji okanye ibhola ibonwa njengenhlazo ekubalekeni ekhaya. Yaye inqwaba, inqwaba yomsindo.

Kule meko, kufuneka sizame ukuqonda ukuthembeka kwethu. Ewe, yintoni ongayenza - akukho namadoda adalwa ukuze azitshiye kwiindonga ezine, nokuba yindlunkulu enonophelo kakhulu! Bafuna ukuzivakalelwa njengeentaka ze-freestyle kwi-width exanses-kwaye kunjalo. Ngoko ke kunengqiqo ukunika umyeni ithuba elinjalo, ingakumbi ukuba akafumani umsebenzi. Makube ngcono ukuba azibonele ngokwakhe njengomenzi weejuba, kunokuba enze ukumbumba kwakhe kwaye akhule ngaphakathi kuye.

Inkathazo yobudala obuphakathi

Ngaloo nto ithetha iminyaka yobudala bodwa, kwaye kungekhona ubomi babo. Ngokutsho kweengxelo zengqondo, ngexesha lethu, inkathazo eyaziwayo yenzeke kwintsapho yanamhlanje ngaphaya kweeminyaka emininzi edlulileyo. Ngoku ufumana abantu abaselula abasandul 'ukugujwa kwabo emashumi mabini ezelwe, kungekhona abaneminyaka engamashumi amane ubudala, njengoko babecinga ngaphambili. Ukukhawuleza konke okwenzekayo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kubangela ukuba abantu baqala ukucinga ngendawo yabo ebomini kakhulu. Kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ngenxa yoko? Kwaye kukho ukutshatyalaliswa kwintsapho.

Inyaniso kukuba xa indoda eneminyaka engama-33 ukuya kwe-35 ubudala ibona indlela abalingane bakhe abancinci bamele baphakame ngayo kwinqanaba, uqala ukuqonda ukuba akakwazi ukuqhubeka nesantya sakhe. Uyazi ngokucacileyo ukuba akasayi kuze afinyelele naziphi na izakhiwo ezizodwa kulo msebenzi. Kwaye, oku, ubona, akongezeli kwithemba lomntu.

Kubasetyhini, konke kwenzeka ngokuhlukileyo. Emva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa ekhaya kunye nabantwana (okanye usebenze isigamu samandla ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo), umama wentsapho ekugqibeleni ufumana ithuba lokuzibonela kakuhle kwaye uthatha umoya wesibini. Kuya kuba ukuba nje umfazi wakhe eqala ukwenza umsebenzi okhuthazayo, umyeni ubamba iitalente zakhe ngokubanzi emhlabeni kwaye uzama nzima ukubeka umnqamlezo phezu kwalo. Lo mahluko kwizinto eziphambili, eziqhelekileyo kwiintsapho ezinamava, kwaye zingabangela ingxabano.

Ukuba le nto iye yafika ngoku, ingcali kuphela inokukunceda. Kodwa ukuba iindudumo zivela kubhakabhaka bentsapho ngezikhathi ezithile, zama ukungazicasuli umyeni wakho ngomfanekiso weshinqa elincinci lomfazi, nokuba ungowona. Ingxoxo encinci malunga nempumelelo yakho kunye neetalente. Ufuna ukwabelana ngolonwabo olumnandi - ukuqhayisa kangcono kwiingubo zanamhlanje ozithenge ngexesha! Yongeza ke ukuba unomyeni onjalo onjengaye, kufuneka uhlale ubheka "ikhulu leepesenti". Nasi isibini esihle kangaka kwaye sinqwenela ukuba uhlale ixesha elide kunokwenzeka.