Imizwa yokuba umama okhuselekileyo abone ngexesha lokukhulelwa lenziwa kwisimo sengqondo sakhe sokukhulelwa ngokubanzi, ngobudlelwane kunye noyise womntwana wakhe, ekucwangciseni ukukhulelwa ngokwawo, kwimpumelelo kunye nokungaphumeleli kwintsebenzo yezobugcisa kunye neemeko ezahlukeneyo ngaphandle kwezo zikhankanywe ngaphambili. Yaye yonke imvakalelo ilandelwa yi-neurohormones. Yaye ukuba ngaba umama ozayo uyaxhalaba, uxinzelelekileyo, okanye ukwesaba, amahomoni aphuhliswayo ngelixa igazi lingena kwi-placenta, kwaye lichaphazela impilo yomntwana wakhe. Imiba eyahlukileyo yeengcamango yimbangela yeso simo esicinezelekileyo, oko kuthetha ukuba ngenxa yama-hormone oxinzelelo, inkqubo ye-endocrine yomntwana ongakazalwa iyaqhubeka isasebenza, echaphazela ukuphuhliswa kwe-embryonic yengqondo. Kwaye umphumo wale mpe mbelelo kukuzalwa kwabantwana, abaza kubonakalisa iintlobo ezininzi zeengxaki ngokuziphatha. Ukongezelela, iintsana ezisoloko zivame ukuba ngumama zivame ukuzalwa ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke, zikhungatheke, zixhathise, zizikhalazo ze-colic.
Ukuba ngexesha lokukhulelwa umama okhuselekileyo unemvakalelo emihle, i-endophins kunye ne-encephalins eziveliswe kule nkqubo zenza igalelo ekuphuhliseni umntwana onempilo ngokulinganayo.
Kodwa oko kunzima kangakanani ukulawula isimo sakho sengqondo ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ukunyuka kwamahomoni, apho umzimba ungakaqhelanga khona, awuzange ulungelelanise, ubangele ukuxuma kunye nokuguquka kwemizwelo ngenxa yezizathu ezingaphaya kolawulo lwangaphandle. Yiloo nto kuphela ukuba owesifazane okhulelwe wayezolile, ulungelelanise, kwaye ngomzuzu kamva wayesele ekhala, kwaye akanakucacisa ngokucacileyo isizathu sezi ntlungu. Ngomxholo womama ozayo unokuchaphazela yonke into: ukusuka kwelinye igama elivakalayo ngengozi ebonakalayo. Enyanisweni, ngenkxaso efanelekileyo yabantu abakujikelezileyo, kunye nangomzamo othile, umama ozayo unokufunda ngokulula ukulawula oku kwahlukileyo kwimilo yakhe, eyona nto iphela, malunga nenxalenye yokuqala yokuqala. Kwi-trimester yesibini neyesithathu, kunye nokusebenza okuzinzileyo kwenkqubo ye-hormonal, akuyi kubakho ukuguquguquka okunjalo. Kwaye umama ozayo kufuneka axhase umxhelo wakhe.
Kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba wonke umama ozayo kufuneka enze yonke imizamo ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakhe wazalwa enempilo. Kuba kuyimfuneko ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho lwangokomzwelo nangokwenyama. Yintoni enokuyenza le nto? Okokuqala kwakho konke - zivuma wena ukuba ukhulelwe. Ngoko ungazami ukuzenza ekhaya nasemsebenzini njengoko wenza ngaphambili. Ungacingi ukuba ukhulelwe yinkathazo endleleni yokukhula kwakho kwezobugcisa kunye nokukhula komsebenzi, sebenzisa ngeli xesha uzuze ngokwakho, uthathe ixesha lokuphumla nokuphumula.
Ungaziboni ekubonakalisweni kwenjabulo, zinike ezi zihlandlo, ungazifakeli ixesha elizayo. Musa ukukhathazeka ukuba kukho into engalunganga njengoko uceba. Unokuziva utyhafile, isisonguluko, ubuqhetseba, kodwa ziya kudlula zonke. Zivume nje ukuba le yinto yesikhashana, kwaye akufanelekile ukuba ibe nexhala ngenxa yalo.
Yilungiselele nayiphi na emangalisa. Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba ukukhulelwa kwakho kuya kudlula. Ukuzalwa komntwana kunokuqalisa iiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kwexesha elimiselweyo logqirha, unokufuna ukuthobela ukuphumla kombhede, kwaye ukuba ulungele yonke into ngaphakathi, akuyi kubangela uxinzelelo.
Zama ukugcina uxhaphazo lwangaphakathi kunye nezihlobo zakho. Masibekele, bamele, bancede. Emva kwakho konke, akufanele ube yedwa ukuhlangabezana nayo yonke into. Yaye ukuba abantu abasondezayo banikela ngoncedo lwabo, baziva bekhululekile ukuwamkela, kwaye nivuyiswe kukuba ujikelezwe ngabantu abanothando nabanothando.
Kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ungavali kwilizwe lakho, kwihostela yakho. Emva koko, ukukhulelwa akusisifo. Ngoko akusiyo isizathu sokwenqaba ukuthetha nabahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Ukuba awuyithandi into ekuziphatheni kwayo, xelela nje ngabo, kwaye ungacasuli ngabo, musa ukucaphuka. Emva koko, oku kuya kubeka impilo yengane yakho.
Ngosuku lokuzalwa kweemvumba zakho, sondela ukuzola, uqinisekile kwisiphumo esivuyisayo sokukhulelwa nokubeletha, ngovuyo olusuka kwinto onokukubona kwaye uthathe kwiingalo zakho, kwaye kungekhona nje ukuba uzive phantsi kwentliziyo yendoda encinane kakhulu kuwe. Ngoku uyazi ukuba izitya, iinyembezi, ukudabuka kukuchaphazela njani umntwana ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Uthando, thandwa kwaye ujabule.