Uhlala into ethile, uphupha ngento ethile, kwaye usuku nosuku uhlala kunye neminqweno yakho kunye neemfuno zakho, ungacingi ngento. Kodwa ngolunye usuku kuza umhla oguqula ubomi bakho bonke - uyaqonda ukuba uza kuba ngumama kungekudala. Isimo sokukhulelwa sisimo esingenakuqhathaniswa esingenakuchazwa ngamagama, sinokuziva kuphela.
Oku akukhona kuphela utshintsho lomzimba emzimbeni, cha, okokuqala, ezi ziinguqu zengqondo. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphambi kokuba wenze yonke into ngokwakho, akufuneki ukuba unomdla malunga nabani na. Kwaye ke uyaqonda ukuba kungekudala izixhala ziya kukwanda, kodwa kufuneka uzibale ngokuzenzekelayo! Kwaye akunjalo! Kunzima kakhulu, nangona uvuyo, ukuqonda ukuba ebomini bakho utshintsho olunzulu luza.
Uninzi lokwesaba ukuhamba nokukhulelwa - ukwesaba ukubeletha, ukwesaba oko kuya kuba yimeko yomyeni kuwe emva kokuzalwa komntwana, ukwesaba impilo yemntwana. Kwaye oku akukapheli
uluhlu!
Ngoku ndiyakhumbula ngokukhawuleza ukuba ubusuku bonke ngaphambi kokulala, wayenokuthi kumyeni wakhe: "Ukuba ndifa ngexesha lokubeletha, ungamshiyi umntwana." Emva koko andisayi kuhleka. Ndandisoyika kakhulu. Umyeni wam wayemphulaphule ukucwina kwam imihla yonke! Andikholelwa ukuba wayenomonde kule nto.
Nangona ndikhulelwe, ndibuye ndifunde amanqaku amaninzi kwi-intanethi, iincwadi, amaphephancwadi ngokunyamekela umntwana, kubonakala ngathi ndiyazi yonke into! Kodwa ke ndingazange ndiyiqonde yonke imbopheleleko yokuba ngumama kwaye ndingenakucinga ukuba oko kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumama.
Kodwa ixesha lifikile, ndazalela. Kwaye ngoku, kubonakala ngathi, ndiyazi impendulo yalo mbuzo.
Ukuba ngumama kuwumsebenzi onzima, kodwa akungabi nambulelo. Uyiqonda le nto xa ihlumelo lakho elincinci, lakho kunye nokuqhubela phambili kunakho konke ukulala kwakho kulala kwaye ukhangeleka ngamehlo akho. Uyiyo yonke into kuye, awukwazi ukumkhaphela, kuba uthembele ngokungenammiselo kwaye kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe.
Ukuba ngumama ukukwazi ukunyathela emqaleni wakho kwiminqweno yakho yeminqweno yomnye, into engenakukhuseleka. Awukwazi ukushiya yonke into kwaye uhambe nomhlobo kwi-cafe okanye nomyeni wakho kwi-cinema. Ngenxa yokuba ngoku unembopheleleko yakho yemvumba.
Ukuba ngumama kukukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zakho kwaye unqobe umnqweno wokucaphukisa umntwana wakho xa engakwazi ukuzola. Kwaye, kunoko nje, cwakazela kwaye ugxininise.
Ukuba ngumama uhlala ekholelwa kumntwana wakho. Ukwazi ukuba uyingcali ekhethekileyo, ukuba nguyena mhle kunabo bonke kwaye akukho mntu kwihlabathi elingcono kunokuba yena akanakho!
Ukuba ngumama kukukulindela nokuqonda iminqweno yomntwana wakho. Namaxesha onke nizama ukuzalisekisa, nibingelele yonke into!
Ukuba ngumama kukuthandana nomyeni wakho kwakhona, kungekhona ngenxa yezinto ezithandanayo, kodwa ujonge indlela enhle ngayo kunye nendlela ekhangeleka ngayo kumgangatho omtsha.
Ukuba ngumama uhlala uhlungu intliziyo xa ukhangele iinkqubo malunga nobugebengu kunye nobugwenxa bomntwana. Kwaye iingcinga ezingunaphakade malunga nendlela 'yokusindisa' igazi lakho.
Ukuba ngumama ukukhala ngovuyo emehlweni omsebenzi ngamnye omncinci wakho omncinci kodwa ngelo xesha.
Ukuba ngumama kukuqonda, ekugqibeleni, abazali bakho uze ubaxolele zonke izikhalazo zakho zobuntwana. Qonda zonke izithintelo zazo kwaye uqaphele ukuba nomntwana wakho uya kwenza okufanayo.
Kuphela ngoku, emva kokuzalwa kwintombi yam, ndaqonda ukuba injani ngokwenene. Ulonwabo luba ngumama. Akukho mntu unokuyithatha kwaye iya kuhlala ihleli nawe. Unokungcatsha indoda kunye nexesha elizayo kunokusuka kuwe, kodwa umntwana wakho uya kuhlala ehleli nawe. Uya kuhlala ekhuthaza ukuba uphile, uphile, uphile-nangona kukho ubunzima kunye neemeko!
Ukuba ngumama ngumsebenzi imihla ngemihla, kodwa awusoze wakhathala kwaye ungazisoli!