Okokuqala, ibhinqa kufuneka ihlale ingqalelo kwiimbono zommeli wesini esahlukileyo. Ukuba amehlo omntu angakugxininisi, ke lo ngumqondiso obalulekileyo. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ukuba kudala ukuvakalelwa kukuba le ndoda iphinda iyanqikaza ukukukhangela kwaye ibone, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuqiqa. Inokwenzeka ukuba, unamahloni ngobudlelwane bezesondo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, unokuba ngumthandi obuthathaka, ongeyena.
Ngaba udlala nawe? Ngaba uvakalelwa kukuba ukujonga kwakhe ngokungenamkhawulo kukugqithiseleyo? Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, imbono yakhe inomdla kangangokuba uzimisele ukugwinxa kuwo. Nangona kunjalo, ezo ngcamango azibonakalanga ukuba ziphezulu zakhono. Inokwenzeka ukuba, lo mntu ungumlingani wesibini.
Musa ukukhathazeka ngokungahambi kakuhle komntu xa engenazo iiglasi. Emva koko, oku akusiyo inkcazo yobuthakathaka besini. Ngoku, ukuba umntu akazami ukujonga amehlo omfazi, ukuzithanda ngothando kunye nokudlala ngothando naye, kwaye engazami ukumazi umfazi ongcono, oku kungumqondiso oqinisekileyo ukuba uzama ukujikima inveli kunye naye, ukumbona ukulala.
Ukongeza kokukhangela, kufuneka uqaphele indlela yendoda yokumanga. Ukuba uyanqabana ngexesha lokumanga, ke umntu olala ngesondo uya kuziphatha. Ukuba umntu uthe wuchukumisa ngomlomo wakho, kuyacaca ukuba uya kukuncinciza kule migangatho elandelayo. Indoda enjalo idinga ibhinqa elijonga ukuba isondo siyimbopheleleko embi emtshatweni. Ukuba umntu ekumanga akugubha ngamatye, unako ukunika ikhulu leepesenti isiqinisekiso sokuthi ukuziphatha kakubi kuye.
Umthandi omhle xa embanga kuqala uya kusebenzisa ulwimi. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani ulwimi, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uya kuba nexhala kwaye angathandeki embhedeni.
Ukuba ibhinqa lihamba phezu komzimba kwinqanaba lomntu, ngoko umntu onjalo uya kubangela ukuphendula okungcono kwizigaba ezilandelayo. Kodwa ukuba umntu ungumatsalane wokuhlamba ingubo, bamba i-blouse, ngoko ungalindeli ukuba abe nesisa kwibala.
Eli nqaku lichaza kuphela ezinye zeempawu eziza kufundiswa ekuziphatheni komntu nokuba ungumthandi omhle. Ukuqaphela iqabane lezesondo, abafazi bafuna kuphela ukunyamekela. Olu hlobo lokuvavanya luncedo kubo bobabini ngokwesini. Ibhinqa liya kuzikhusela kwimvakalelo ecasulayo, kwaye indoda iya kugcina ingqonge.