Abaninzi bethu bajonge le meko xa abanye abesifazana kwindawo kawonkewonke befuna ukulahla iglavu, njengaloo mzuzu inani lamadoda elisebenzayo efuna ukuliphakamisa. Kodwa kukho amantombazana azama ukudukisa umntu abayithandayo, kodwa ngenxa yoko, abaphume kuyo. Yintoni ngokwenene imfihlo? Kwaye le nto kukuba akubona bonke abameli bezesondo abafanelekileyo abaqonda kakuhle ubugcisa bokukhohlisa. Sagqiba ekubeni sikunike izifundo ezisisiseko malunga nendlela yokudukisa umntu kwindawo kawonkewonke kwaye ngexesha elifanayo lo mdlalo, njengomdaniso omhle!
Inzala
Ngoko ke, njani ukukhohlisa umntu kwindawo eziqhelekileyo ukuze umqhube? Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukutsala ingqalelo yomntu oyithandayo, ukumdla ngomfanekiso wakhe, ukuma kwisihlwele. Isondo esinamandla kunomtsalane nomfanekiso wesifazane ohambelana nomoya wakhe. Kufuneka kube yinto ekhethekileyo, ebalabala, ekhohlisa kunye nezobugugu.
Izakhono zokwenza
Naliphi na umfazi okwenene ngumdlali we-actress kusukela ekuzalweni. Ngoko ke, ukudlala indima yokukhohlisa kwindawo kawonkewonke kuyintloko kwiimpumelelo. Ukunqoba umntu ngaphandle kwezifundo ezenzayo akwanele. Kufuneka ubonise zonke iikratshi zakho kunye nazo zonke izinto ezinomtsalane.
Emuva kumigca yokuqala ye nqaku, sathetha ngabasetyhini behla iglavu kwindawo ephakamileyo. Kwaye kwenzeka oku kude lula. Ixesha elinjalo eliqhophololo labesifazane sele lihlose ukukhohlisa umntu kumanethiwekhi akhe. Kodwa ngokusekelwe kwinto elula yangaphandle inkohliso, ngumsebenzi ongonakalisayo. Ngaphambi kokuba ulahle iglovu, kufuneka wenze okunyanzelisayo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba ayibonakali ukusuka kwicala.
Khangela kumntu ofanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokusola okungadingekile, ukuba ungene ngokungenakwenzeka kwindawo efunekayo ngaphandle kokuphakamisa iliso ukuba uthabathe umzuzu kwaye ... njengokwemvelo kunokwenzeka ukuba uphononise nayiphi na into eya kuba sepokothini lakho. Inkambiso kule nkqubo - ukubukeka kwakhe okunetyala kunye nokumangalisa (ngendlela, ukunyamezela kakhulu amadoda) ukubonisa ukuba loo nto ibuhlungu ngayo ingenakwenzeka kuye nangona kungenjalo ... Leyo yimfihlo yokukhohlisa kwindawo kawonkewonke. Ngendlela, ukubonakala kwakho okukrakra kunye nobuqili kuyisiseko sokukhohlisa umntu kwiphina indawo ephakamileyo. Kodwa khumbula, izinto ezinjalo ziyimfuneko kuphela ukutsala ummeli wesini esomeleleyo. Injongo yokukhohlisa indoda yinto elula yothando lwakho. Ukudlala ngothando kubandakanya ezininzi iingcinga zobuchopho zengqondo, umzekelo, ukudibanisa. Okokuqala, oku kubonisana nomboniso. Ukubukeka okwesifazana okubonakalayo okungena entliziyweni kwaye idumile "ukudubula" kwamehlo kunokubulala abantu abangaphezu kweyodwa. Ngendlela, phakathi kwezinye izinto, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbule malunga noqhagamshelwano lomzimba. Ukukhanya ngokukhawuleza kunye nokungathandabuzekiyo kuthintela ngethuba incoko kunokuthetha okuninzi malunga nobutyebi besini kunye nobulili.
Imbonakalo emnandi
Ufuna ukudukisa umntu? Ungesabi ukubonisa umzimba wakho, ewe, ngokumodareyitha. Ukuba kwindawo ephakamileyo umntu wanikela ingqalelo kuwe, akufuneki ukuba ugqoke ngokukhululekile. Kubalulekile ukugxininisa into enye. Ukuba le ndoda yatshintshile ngeempawu zakho (jonga), yenza isenzo esingenakuthenjwa, umzekelo, faka isandla sakho entanyeni, ubeke unyawo lwakho emlenzeni wakho. Ngokwemvelo, loo ndoda iya kuthobela oku. Khumbula ukuba indlela yokuma kwisihlwele ngoncedo lweengubo ezinxibeleleyo azikho konke. Ukuziphatha ngokwesondo kufuneka kubonakalise ukuziphatha, ukunyakaza, ukuhamba kunye nezwi. Kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba wonk 'ubani unokukhohliswa, kodwa akubona bonke abakwaziyo ukuyikhohlisa.
Kwaye into yokugqibela, ubugcisa bokukhohlisa bubungcali bokuba ngumfazi, ubugcisa bokutsala imibono yabantu. Kwaye akukho nto engeyonto, kuba inyaniso kuthiwa kwimfazwe zonke iindlela zilungile! Khumbula ukuba akukho nto eyenzekayo kungekho sizathu, zonke iimpumelelo zakho zixhomekeke ngqo kumsebenzi wakho nokukhuthaza. Nabani na umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unokuyithatha indawo, into ephambili kukufuna nokusebenzisa zonke iindlela zakho.