Umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje ngu "Umtshato, Usapho, Umtshato". Kuyo uza kufunda okunye malunga namaxesha amane omnyaka womtshato.
Umtshato, intsapho, ubudlelwane bomtshato ... Le nto ibhaliwe ngabahlali, kodwa ngaba iingqondo zeengqondo zicinga ntoni ngale nto? Ulwalamano phakathi kwabatshatileyo lukhula njani? Ngethuba langoku i-theory yamaxesha amane athandwa kakhulu.
Spring
Ukuvuswa kwemvelo kusuka ebuthongweni busika, imilambo yokuqala kunye namaqabunga, umoya uzele ngokutsha kunye nokulindela ummangaliso ... Akunjalo na ubomi bentsapho ekuqaleni kwayo: intombi ehlambulukileyo epheleleyo kwaye ilindelekile? Abantu ababini abanemibono yokuthandana kakhulu ngomnye nomnye, babhekane nokunyaniseka. Abatshatileyo baqala ukuqonda ukuba umfanekiso weqabane elifanelekileyo, ngoko ngothando nangenkcukacha ezilandelwayo ngaphambi komtshato, akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo. Ukongezelela, imeko ingahlakulela ngokwemizekelo emininzi, eyona nto ifanelekileyo yokufumanisa, xa amaqabane omabini ezama ukuhlawulela ukunganeliseki kwabo ngeempawu ezisandul 'ukufumanisa ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Imiphumo ayigxininiswa, isidima sidunyiswa, usapho luqhubeka lukho uxolo.
Okubi nakakhulu, ukuba umfanekiso ococekileyo uphezulu kwaye ungobubele kunokoqobo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, inkqubo yokuqalisa imfundo iqala. Ngokumalunga nomlingane oswelekileyo, imfazwe engabonakaliyo iyabanjelwa: iingxaki zipheliswa, imikhwa nendlela yokuphila iyatshintsha. Kodwa kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba kwakhona imfundo ingaqhekeka.
Kukho into phakathi, xa indoda ingenakuwwamkela umfanekiso kwaye ayikwazi ukuyitshintsha. Kule meko, umtshato ungenakupheka.
Kufuneka lubuhlobo luni na? Kakade ke, ekuqwalaseleni i-compromise. Xa kukho naluphi na ukungaqondani, akukho mfuneko yokuba ungathethi ngezikhalazo, njengoko, njengokuba uyazi, ongenagama engaziwayo. Ukuphepha ingxoxo kukunyanzelisi ukuxabana, ukujamelana nokuzama ukuzama ukuyinqanda, kwaye incokozo kuphela iya kubangela iindlela zokufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko kwaye ukhethe owona mgangatho ophezulu.
Ukwahlukana kunokwenzeka kwintsapho edalwe kwiimpawu ze-mercantile okanye ngenxa yokukhulelwa. Izikhetho ezimnandi, kodwa kunoko ziqinisekisa imithetho.
Ihlobo
Imifula yasemphunjini yabaleka, ihlobo lafika. Izipho zendalo zithe zityhutyha, ukuvuna kuhlwayelwe, umntu usebenza ngokunyanzela inzuzo yentsapho.
Amaqabane ahlala emtshatweni iminyaka engama-10 kwaye afinyelele kwiminyaka emaphakathi, abhekane nobunzima abathile. Umbuzo we-professional self-actualization unzima. Ngexesha apho umyeni wakhe wayebandakanya ukukhula komsebenzi, umfazi wakhe wazala waza wakhulisa abantwana. Kwaye kwafika usuku apho intsapho ingayidingi khona ukuhlala kwakhe ekhaya kwaye umfazi angaya emsebenzini.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ibhinqa lifumana inqanaba eliphezulu lezenzo zentsapho, uyesaba ukungayithobeli iinguqulelo "umama omhle" kunye "nomfazi omuhle" kwaye uzifanise nomsebenzi owenza umsebenzi wendlu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kufuneka ukuba azibonele njengengcali, ufuna ukuphuma ebantwini, jonga ngcono, uxoxe nabanye osebenza nabo. Kule meko, ngenxa yokungabikho kokuphumla, ixesha kunye nobunzima obuninzi, kubakho ukungqubuzana kwendima. Ibhinqa lidiniwe ngaphandle kokukwazi ukuzifeza ngokwabo nangomntu. Ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yokudandatheka okuye kwavela, kukho iingcamango zomtshato. Ungayinqoba njani ubunzima kwaye ulondoloze intsapho?
Okokuqala, simele sivume ukuba ingxaki ikhona kwaye emva koko uhambe isisombululo sakho. Musa ukuzibekela iinjongo ezingafumanekiyo. Ukuze ube ngummamkeli omhle, unina kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukufikelela eziphakamileyo zobugcisa akunakwenzeka - into ekufuneka ibe yenziwe ngamadini. Kufuneka ufunde ukwahlula okuphambili ukusuka kwinqanaba elisekondari kwaye ungaxhomeki kwiindlela zokuhamba ngeentsuku zonke. Ubuchule obukhulu bokuqwalasela imeko ukusuka kwicala, ngokukhethekileyo kunye nehlazo, kuya kuzisa iingeniso ezinkulu. Ukuncoma okwenziwe ngexesha okanye ihlaya elifanelekileyo lidala umoya wothando kunye nokuqonda okufanayo.
Kwala mabhinqa asebunzima bokukhetha phakathi kwekhaya nomsebenzi, izazi zeengqondo zicebisa ukuhambelana nezi ngcebiso ezilandelayo:
isicwangciso sekhaya kunye nemicimbi esemthethweni;
- Musa ukuthatha umsebenzi ekhaya;
- misela isigxina samatyala;
- uya kufunda ukukhanyela wonke umntu ophazamisa intsapho.
Ukulandela ezi ngcebiso ezilula kuya kulondoloza intsapho kwaye ayiyi kuphazamisa ukukhula komsebenzi. Kunzima ukudibanisa umsebenzi kunye nosapho, kodwa kunokwenzeka, ekubeni umntu ophumelelayo uphumelele kuyo yonke into.
Khumbula, wonke umntu wenza ebuntwaneni "iimfihlelo" ezivela kwiglasi kunye neentyatyambo ezahlukeneyo. Izinto eziqhelekileyo, ngabanye, azikho nto ekhethekileyo, kodwa xa yonke into ixhunyiwe, uthola umlingo. Ngoko kwenzeka kwimpilo yentsapho, kuba umtshato ubugcisa.
Kwindla
Kulo xesha lonyaka kwiintlalontle zentsapho, njengokwindla, umzekeliso "iigusha ezinwelevuvu - iidemon kwimbambo". Abantwana baye bakhula, ababakhathaleli abazali babo. Ngayiphi imithwalo isiqabane esitshatileyo siza kule mzuzwana wenyaniso? Ngaba nantoni na idibanisa nabo, ngaphandle kweengcamango malunga nesizukulwana esincinane?
Inkxalabo yobudala obudlulileyo idibaniswa nokuhlaziywa kwemilinganiselo yobomi kwaye idla ngokuqhagamshelana namadoda. Emva kokufikelela kwiminyaka ephakathi, babukela emva kwaye bebuhlungu befumanisa ukuba isiqingatha sobomi sidlule, kwaye akukho nto ebalulekileyo eyenziwe. Kungemva kweengcamango ezinjalo kunomnqweno wokwakha intsapho entsha njengomqondiso wobomi obutsha.
Bobabini izifo zomzimba kunye neengqondo zilula ukukhusela kunokunyanga. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ngeli nqanaba ukuba linomdla kwimisebenzi yobungcali yeqabane, izenzo kunye nempumelelo. Nangona iqabane lingazange lizihlukanise nayiphi na into ekhethekileyo - musa ukumxelela ngoku ngoku, ukuhlakulela umfanekiso wesilahleko. Gxininisa kwimpumelelo kwaye ungayithobeli ingqalelo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu: ungakhumbuli iminyaka yobudala elithi "iminyaka ayifani." Fumana naziphi na izizathu zokungaphumeleli kunye nezifo: iinkwenkwezi azange zenziwe, i-ecology iyatshintshile, umsebenzi usukhuni-nantoni na, kungekhona ukukhankanywa kweminyaka.
Ukuba le nkinga ayigwenywanga, yiba nesineke kwaye uyizilumko. Ncedisa umlingane, uthetha naye, musa ukuba nomona ngaphandle kwesizathu kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uyayinyamekela imbonakalo yakho.
Oko kungasiphuliyo kukuqinisa. Ukuba wakwazi ukuqhubeka uphila kweli xesha, umvuzo uya kuba ngumshushu womzwelo, ubulumko behlabathi kunye nolwalamano olomeleleyo oluye lwadlula iminyaka emininzi.
Kwimandla yowesifazane, ubunzima obuneminyaka emaphakathi obukhuselekile. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka unike umyeni wakho ithuba lokuphumla, ukunyamekela impilo yakhe, ukwandisa ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho ngokunyusa kunye nokunyanzeliswa kwezinto ezifanelekileyo. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba ibhinqa ifuna ukuyithintela ubunzima bebomi phakathi komonde. Ucela, ngubani na oya kumnceda? Uthando, Usapho kunye noBulumko.
Busika
Ngokungalindelekanga iqhwa lokuqala liwela, ngoko ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu buza ngokukhawuleza busika.
Kuya kuba yintoni le xesha lonyaka kulo mbhangqwana oye wahamba ngesandla ngendlela ende. Ndiye ndahlala ndawonye iminyaka emininzi, kwaye inkumbulo yam inceda ngokukhumbula izihlandlo ezibalulekileyo.
Umntu emva konyaka akhethiweyo ngokukhethekileyo ngenxa yobudala bakhe. Kuya kuba kuphosakele ukuthelekisa ulonwabo oluluntu olutsha, ngolonwabo olwenzeka ngabantu abadala. Ukuba kubantu abatsha le ntliziyo zizingca, ke abantu asebekhulile bayonwabile abantwana kunye nosuku oluchithwa kunye. Ukwahlukana kwale minyaka kunqabile kakhulu. Uthando kumlingane ufumana umgangatho omtsha ongalindelekanga: uvelwano, uthando, ukwesaba omnye nomnye. Umyeni nomfazi banokuphikisana, kodwa ukugwenxa okungenangqondo kuwukuzimela nje, oku kunceda ukuhlangabezana nokuguga ngokwaneleyo.
Yintoni enokuba yinto enhle ngaphezu kwesibini esitshatileyo esijikelezwe ngabantwana nabazukulu? Ukuthandana ngothando kwiminyaka, bafana nabancinci nje ekuqaleni kwesazi zabo, kwaye ixesha alikho amandla ngaphezu kweemvakalelo zinyani!
Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba abo bafikelele "isilivere yobudala" bahambelana nemigaqo elandelayo:
- Yonke into ifanele iphathwe ngokubalulekayo kunye neengcamango;
- bathetha ngokubanzi nabantu abatsha;
- ukulungisa iingxaki zeengqondo;
- Uthando luphakathi kwento yonke.