Akungabazeki ukuba oku kuyimfuneko.
Ubuncinane ukwenzela ukukhusela yakhe inzala kwiselo yotywala kunye neziyobisi. Ekubonweni kokuqala, oku kuzwakala kukungaqhelekanga, kodwa kukho ukudibanisa phakathi kwenkcubeko yangaphakathi yomntu kunye nezilingo. Ngaloo ndlela, izazi zenzululwazi, zixoxwe nabantu abangaphezu kwewaka, zafumanisa ukuba phakathi kwamaqabane omculo weklasi, kuphela aba-1.5% abaphendulayo "bangabangane bhotile". Ngethuba i-24% yabalandeli be-hip-hop kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi komculo kotywala, iziyobisi kunye noshintsho lwabelana ngesondo, njengeiglavu. Nangona kunjalo, oku akusiyo kuvulwa. Nangona umfilosofi wasendulo waseTshayina uXun Tzu wabhala: "Xa umculo ungenanto kwaye unobungozi, abantu baxoshwa kwaye banesiqhwala, basendle kwaye bafanelekile ukunyeliswa." Kuyafana okufanayo ngeencwadi ezingenanto, iifilimu, imidlalo ... Ngoko ke, ukuba unqwenela umntwana ikusasa elingcono, qalisa inkqubo "yokuqhubela phambili" ngokukhawuleza!
"Murka" okanye "i-Nutcracker"?
Ewe, kuya kufuneka siqale nathi. Unokuzalisa indlu kunye neencwadi zobugcisa, ngelixa ubheka "Dom-2"; unokumnqabela umntwana ukuba abeke iindwangu etafileni, kwaye ukhawule i-plate emva kokutya; unokuba udibanisa abantwana beklasi, kwaye wena ngokwakho uphulaphule ingoma - qi niseka: umntwana akayi kukholwa ngamazwi akho, kodwa ukuziphatha kwakho. Uze uyikopishe. Akunangqiqo ukuba abantwana abaninzi abalingisi, abalobi kunye nabaculi bayavuma ukuba abazali abazange 'bahlaziye' kubo - babehlala bephethe iincwadi ezintle endlwini, iindwendwe ezithakazelisayo zafika kunye nomculo omnandi uzwakala. Ngendlela, ngomculo. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafakazela ukuba sele sele iveki ye-18-20 yokukhulelwa umntwana uyakwazi ukubona umculo. Ngokukodwa, umzekelo, imisebenzi kaMozart noVivaldi. Ngoko ke, ukuba unamalungiselelo okubeletha omnye umntwana, faka kuye ingcamango enomculo ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uthe wafika emva koqeqesho "olukhulelweyo", yonke into ayilahlekanga. Bandakanya abantwana abanomculo ohlukeneyo - kungekhona iingoma zabantwana kuphela, kodwa kunye neklasikhi, i-jazz, i-folklore. Into ephambili kukuba umculo ophezulu, akuthengi iimpahla zabathengi, ezidlalwa kuzo zonke iziteshi. Iingcali zicebisa ukuba ziqalise nge-jazz - kulula ukuyiqonda, kwaye ke ngoko unako ukuphulaphula i-classics. Buza umntwana ukuba imvakalelo yomthi okanye enye ingoma yomculo kuyo. Kuthetha ukuthini lo msebenzi, ngaphandle koko inzala iya kulala ebuthongweni. Awunakucinga intsingiselo efihliweyo kwingoma ye nightingale - nje ujongela i-trills yomlingo. Umntwana akalahlekanga umdla kumculo ongaqhelekanga, ugule ixesha elifutshane. Ukuqala, imizuzu emithathu ukuya kwemihlanu iya kuba yanele. Emva koko kuya kuba nomnqweno wokuphulaphula kwakhona. Khuthaza umntwana ukuba akhe umculo wabo. Ukwenza oku, ungathenga kwilizwe labantwana "i-orchestra" yonke, ukuqala kwimibhobho kunye namadonga nokuphela nge-synthesizer. Umntwana wakho uya kuvuya ngokuzama ukuvavanya ngesandi. Bhala phantsi indlalifa kwisikolo somculo. Ungesabi ukuba akayi kuba namandla kwiimathematika.
Ngokuphambene noko!
Oososayensi baseSwitzerland nabase-Austrian baye bafakazela ukuba izifundo zomculo zinceda ukuba bafunde ngokukhawuleza iinjongo zesayensi neelwimi zangaphandle. Kwaye abaphengululi baseMerika bafika kwisigqibo sokuba ukudlala izixhobo zomculo kunceda abantwana abaneminyaka engama-4-7 ubudala, beshiya emva kokuphuhliswa, bafumana abaontanga ekufundeni nasekufuneni kwimathematika.
Ukuthinta izandla kuvumelekile
Umntwana uya kukhawuleza "ukuwela" ngokukhawuleza kunye nemilinganiselo, ukuba ufunda kakhulu. Akunabamaphephancwadi abaselula, iiveli zothando kunye nabacuphi abancinci, kodwa uncwadi lwangempela. Ukuqhelana nokufunda ngokusemthethweni ukususela kumntwana. Makuyeke umntwana angabi neenkwenkwezi kuphela, kodwa kunye neencwadi ezinokuthi zitshintshwe, zihlafunwe kwaye zitshitshwe kubhabha (ngoku iincwadi ezininzi zithengiswa ezingenzi ukubola kumanzi okanye amazinyo abantwana ababukhali) - umntwana wakho uya kufundiswa ukuba iincwadi ukuhamba naye yonke indawo. Funda okunye ngokwakho. Ukuba indoda encinane ihlala ibona umama kunye noyise bencwadi ezandleni zayo, isandla sayo siya kukhangela kwincwadi, kungekhona ebhankini kunye nebhiya. Funda umntwana ngaphambi kokulala - akubona nje abantwana abayithandayo, kodwa nabantwana abasebancinci. Ukuba indodana okanye intombi iyayizonda iincwadi, eziqhelekanga kwiminyaka yenguqu, ziza neenkqubo zokukhuthaza. Ngokomzekelo, ngenxa yokuba umntwana uqala ukufunda ngaphezulu, mvumele ahambe ngeyure aze ahlale kwikhompyutha. Abaninzi baya kukhanyela - akunakwenzeka ukufaka uthando lokufunda ngale ndlela. Ewe, ekuqaleni, umntwana uya kufuneka anqobe ngokwayo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uya kunqabile. Kubalulekile kuphela ukukhetha iincwadi ngokudala. Ngoko, umntwana oneminyaka eyi-10 akanakuze aqonde "Ulwaphulo-mthetho nokujeziswa", kodwa "iAventures of Tom Sawyer" iya kuqonda. Inketho egqibeleleyo - iincwadi zomsindo. Umntwana angabaphulaphula, umzekelo, endleleni eya kwikhente okanye ngexesha lokulala. Ukungena kufinyeleleka, kodwa akukho ndlela engaphantsi kweyona "yokuqhubela phambili" - ukuya kwimidlalo, kwimiboniso nakwiimyuziyam. Ukutshitshisa kwakumnandi, khetha into enomdla. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana basoloko bexhamla kwiintlungu kwiimyuziyam, kuba akukho nto iyakuchukumiswa ngezandla. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimyuziyamu apho lo mgaqo awusebenzi. Kwaye i-excursions ngokwayo iyona yendalo ngaphezu kwekimu eliqhelekileyo. "Umlobi owaziwayo wazalwa ngaloo ndlela nangaloo nyaka, wafa ngaloo ndlela kwaye, wahlala kule ndlu ke". Ukongeza, ungazami ukudlula yonke i-museum ngexesha, ingakumbi ukuba likhulu. Umzekelo, ukuba ufike kumyuziyam obugcisa, khetha ikamelo elinye okanye ubonise abantwana imifanekiso ethile ayithandayo ngokuqinisekileyo. Kuyafana nakwiimidlalo. Hamba kathathu ngeveki kwimidlalo yabantwana - uqhube. Yilowo nalowo uhambo oluya kwi-theater libe yiholide. Ukuba unomsebenzi obunzima - ukuguqula umntwana osemncinci ukuba abe ngumqhubi we-theater-goer, ohlala evuyisayo phambi kweTV okanye ejikeleza ngesitalato, kuqala khetha iitrafri zolutsha. Abantwana badla ngokuchukumiseka ngobuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nomoya okhethekileyo olawulayo. Ewe, ke ungaziwazisa kwiiklasi. Akungento yinto yokuba kuqwalaselwa ukuba ukuhamba rhoqo kwiteyimu kunokulingana nemfundo ephakamileyo yoluntu.
Ngaba akunakwenzeka ukuba ube nenhlonipho?
Mhlawumbi ulawula ukulungiswa kwengcamango yomntwana wakho, kwaye akusayi kuba nomdla "udityaniswe" kwi-techno okanye kwi-cartoon yangaphambili. Kodwa ngaphezu kweendlela ezilungileyo kufuneka usebenze ngakumbi. Ngoku ezininzi iincwadi ezinxulumene nobuqili, ezenzelwe nayiphi na ubudala, zipapashwe (kuba omncinci kukho iipatto apho kuxelelwa ukuba ziphatha ngayo kwiqela, kwitheyibhile, kwisithuthi, njl). Abantwana abakhulileyo banokuya esikolweni semilinganiselo emihle (izifundo zidla ngokuqhutywa ngeveki, ngoko oko akuphazamisi isikolo esisiseko), apho bafunda ukuphakama, ubuhle kunye nokulula kokunxibelelana (ukuba bangadideki nolwazi). Ewe, iziseko zobungcali ziza kufuneka uzibeke. Umyalelo wokuqala ukukhumbula ngegama amagama abadibaniselwano. Omnye u Roosevelt wathi le yindlela eqinisekileyo yokuphumelela abanye. Umyalelo wesibini: musa ukulibala ukubingelela abanye. I-gangbang eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, ineminyaka engama-4 ubudala iyakwazi ukucacisa ukuba ngubani othi "nguwe", kwaye ngubani-kuphela "kuwe." Inyanga-ezintandathu-ukululaza isibambo ngeligama elithi "bonisa" uze ulitshangise. Ukuba awufundisanga umntwana izinto ezisisiseko zobungqina beminyaka yesantya, ngoko "kwimveliso" uya kufumana intombazana ebuthakathakayo, ephosa phantsi kwempumlo yakhe "ayikho" inqwenela "ukuthobela" ukuphendula ngokubingelela ngabaziwayo. Umyalelo wesithathu kukuthatha isini kwi-akhawunti. Le nkwenkwe kufuneka ikwazi ukuba ekamelweni kufuneka uyisuse isitya, ukuba amantombazana nabasetyhini kufuneka badluliselwe phambili kwaye ukuba unina uya kuvuyisa xa epha isandla xa ephuma ebhasi okanye egcina umnyango kwisitoreji (kungcono ukuba konke oku kuboniswa imihla ngemihla kwindodana kayise , kwaye ingathatywanga umalume encwadini kwi-label). Intombazana ifundiswa ukuthokoza ngokunyanisekileyo uncedo lwezesondo ezinamandla xa, umzekelo, umntu ofunda naye umnika ithuba lokuthwala isikhwama esinzima okanye ukuncedisa ingubo. Naphezulu. Qiniseka ukuba wenze isaphulelo kwiminyaka. Abantwana ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu abakwazi ukufunda nantoni na ngokukhethekileyo: ukuba onke amalungu omkhaya ayenemfesane omnye komnye, umntwana uya kufumana "amagama omlingo" ngengqiqo yamagama kunye nobisi lomama. Umfundi othanda ukufunda esikolweni uyakuthanda umdlalo, ngoko kunokuba uziphathe kakuhle, cinga ngendoda enokuyidlala ngayo imizekelo eyahlukeneyo, umzekelo, ukuba awukwazi ukubiza umntu, ukukrazula, ukuphula ezinye iifyuni zabantu, njl. Unako ukunikezelwa "ngendondo" kuyo yonke into ehloniphekileyo. Ingcamango ingaba nayiphi na i-ayisikrimu ukuze ifake. Ootata, baqonde imeko, akukho mfuneko - bayaphonsa ngaphandle.
Ngomdla-ngongcamango
Uninzi lwabazali lifundisa abantwana abathandekayo bokutya-mveliso: umzekelo, ukuba ngexesha lesidlo awukwazi ukuphazamiseka ngumabonakude okanye umnxeba. Kodwa intle efanelekileyo malunga nokutya, i-alas, ayinakunyanzeliswa, ngoko ke abantwana badla yonke into abayifunayo: ii-chips, izinja ezishushu, ii-hamburgers ... Okwangoku, naseMelika, "waphenduka" ngokutya okukhawulezayo, ngoku yokutya okunempilo. Kwaye kumazwe amaninzi aseYurophu Union ibhiyozelwa Usuku lokutya okunempilo, xa abapheki beevenkile ezidumileyo bekulungiselela izitya ezidliwayo kubantwana ezivela kukutya okulula. Injongo yesenzo kukuqinisekisa abantwana ukuba isidlo sakusihlwa esilungiselelwe ngezandla zabo sininzi kakhulu kwaye sinomsebenzi ngakumbi kunesihlabathi esenziwe ngokufanelekileyo. Kwaye abantwana bethu bangabondliwa ngokutya okukhawulezileyo kunye nemveliso ekugqityiweyo, njengaseNtshona, kutheni ungalungiseleli uMthendeleko Wokutya Ekhaya? Emva koko, ngubani, njengomama, onokumxelela umntwana ukuba yintoni imveliso entle ehlukileyo kwizinto ezimbi, kunye neentlobo ezilungileyo zokugcoba - ezimbi.