Ingxaki kwiintsebenziswano emva kokuzalwa komntwana

Ngenkqubela yeenkqubela phambili kunye nobuchwepheshe obuphezulu, inyaniso ayitshintshi - intsapho yokwenene yintsapho enomntwana. Unina, umama kwisigaba esinqumlekileyo ukuzifeza. Ibhinqa liqinisekile ngakumbi kuye, amandla akhe, isimo sakhe sengqondo kwiinguqu zokuphila - uyaziqonda uxanduva lwexesha elizayo lomntwana wakhe.

Intsha, intsingiselo eyahlukeneyo yobomi ibonakala. Ukongezelela, inzululwazi ibanga ukuba ngenxa yeenguqu ze-hormone, ubukhulu beeseli zeendawo ezithile zengqondo buyanda emzimbeni womfazi ozalayo. Le nqubo inegalelo eluncedo kumsebenzi wengqondo yowesifazane osemsebenzini, kwaye ngokutsho koososayensi, yenza ukuba kube lula! Kwaye kwenzeka njani-enye umntwana ozalelwe azisa neemeko ezininzi ezintle kunye neengxaki ezizenzekelayo, ezenza ukuba umama aqokelelwe, enze izigqibo ngokukhawuleza kwiimeko ezingalindelekanga. Ukuziphatha komntwana oselula kuyatshintsha - ngoku uziva ejongene nomntwana, ngenxa yokuphila kwakhe. Uninzi olungileyo, uvuyo kwaye lukhanyayo. Kodwa azikho iingxaki ezingaphantsi. Ngeentlanga zobusuku kunye nemisebenzi yasendlini yansuku zonke, oomama bokamva baye bakuva. Kodwa inkathazo ekubudlelaneni emva kokuzalwa komntwana iba yinto emangalisayo kubo. Umama omncinci, ephuphuthelwe yimvakalelo emitsha, uyaqiniseka ukuba ukuziphatha komyeni wakhe kufanele kube yinto efanayo - inomdla, ishukumisa kwaye inganakulila. Nangona kunjalo, upapa akahlali evakalelwa yinto efanayo nangomama wakhe. Kwaye oku akuthethi ukungathandi ngomntwana wakho. Into leyo kukuba indoda eyayifumana into yokuba umfazi ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana ukuhlawuliswa kuphela kuye kwaye ngoku ubukele ukuba yonke ingqalelo kwintsapho yodwa yinto enomona ongenalwazi.

Umntwana utshintsha kakhulu indlela yobomi bomama, engamshiyi ixesha kunye namandla kuwo nantoni na enye-uyayithobela unina. Indoda ebona indlela umama ayinika ngayo yonke ingqalelo yakhe nothando lwakhe, unokuziva ungenasidingo, ungabonakali, kwaye uqala ukuba "unengqondo" ukukhangela ukuziphatha okunjalo, okanye ukuphepha indawo engasayi kuthandwa ngayo - ukuhlala emsebenzini, ukuchitha ixesha lokukhulula kunye nabahlobo. Enye imeko yentuthuko inokwenzeka - enomona nokubhekisela ekukhathaleni emsebenzini okanye ezinye izizathu "uhambe ngokukhawuleza", uvumele unina ukuba ahlanganyele ngokupheleleyo umntwana. Ngamehlo omama, kubonakala ngathi: umntwana wakhe, umntwana olinde ixesha elide, umntwana ongenawo uqondayo ubomi, obangela ukuba uyise angakhathaleli! Oku kusenokuba sisisiseko sokuvela kweengxaki ezinxulumene nobudlelwane emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Iinjongo zeenjongo zokuziphatha ezinjalo kufuneka zifunwe kwinqanaba leengqondo. Inyaniso yokuba ibhinqa ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana lidala isisu somntwana - engenawo amagama, kwinqanaba lokusebenzisana ngokomzwelo, unokuthetha nomntwana wakhe, engenalo ulwazi olukhethekileyo uyaqonda ukuba yintoni na xa umntwana wakhe efunekayo. Amadoda ayinaso isimo esinjalo - zonke iimvakalelo zakhe zomntwana zifunyanwa, zifuna ixesha lokuvuma, zithande umntwana wazo. Inkathazo edeleyo kwezobudlelwane yodwa iyanciphisa imeko, ingavumeli umntu ukuba athathele inxaxheba yakhe entsha. Nangona kunjalo, kungekhona umntu kuphela onetyala leengxaki. Isifo soxinzelelo lwangemva kokuphumayo, njengokuba i-bolt evela esibhakabhaka esibhakabhaka iwela kumfazi osuphelile kunye nokubeletha, kwaye unokukwazi ukukhupha ingxaki ebuhlotsheni. Ngoko uphuma njani kwimeko? Njengoko iinani libonisa, i-39% yezibini zifumana ubunzima kwiintsebenziswano emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Ngako oko, ingxaki ayifani kwaye iyadingeka ingqwalasela, kuba kuphela xa uqonda izizathu zinyaniso onokuyicombulula.

Ukuze unqobe ubunzima kwi-intsebenziswano kubalulekile ukuba kubekho umnqweno wokuphuma kuwo. Kule meko akunakwenzeka ukuthula-kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngengxaki kunye neqabane. Sitshele into oxhalabileyo ngayo, oko uhlangabezana nayo. Yiba nenyaniso kwincoko kwaye ngokubuyisana kufuneka ufumane ukunyaniseka kumlingane. Qonda ukuba kunye kuphela unokukunqoba inkathazo ebubudlelwaneni emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Ungamlondolozi loo mntu "kwiingxaki" zomntwana - umyalelo ukuba enze uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi - kholwa nguye, uya kuphumelela! Okokuqala, indoda iya kuyeka ukwesaba umntwana, kwaye okwesibini, iya kuziva ifunekayo. Musa ukukhulisa ingxaki kwiingxabano - zibeke ezicathulweni zomlingane, jonga imeko ngamehlo akhe - uza kwenza njani kwindawo yakhe? Musa ukucacisa ubuhlobo kunye nabangaphandle okanye nabantwana bakho - ingxabano yintsimi yakho kuphela, musa ukubandakanya abanye ekufumaneni ubuhlobo. Makungenzeke ukuba wena ngokwakho ubeka ityala ngenxa yesizathu sokuxabana - banabantu abambalwa kakhulu abangenasiphako. Ukuba wena ngokwakho ungeke unqobelele ingxaki ebuhlotsheni emva kokuzalwa komntwana, awukwazi - ungabuyi kuphawula ngxaki. Qhagamshelana nengcali yeengqondo, ukhetho olungcono apha lubonisana ngokubambisana.

Ekugqibeleni, ndingathanda ukuthetha ukuba inqakrazo nayiphi na ingxabano yentsapho yothando, intlonelo kunye nokuqonda phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ubomi bentsapho kunye nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa luxhomekeke kuphela kubazali, ukukwazi kwabo ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwintlekele, ukuxoxa ngeengxaki, ukungalindeli kumlingane, kunye nokuqala ukuya kwintlanganiso! Uthando, hlonelelane kunye kunye unokukunqoba nayiphi na ubunzima!