Impumelelo eyenziwa yinkwenkwe, ngokomzekelo, ulungisa izinto zokudlala, ufikelela kwizinto ezikude, ngakumbi xa ecinga ngaye, ukukhula kwakhe kuphuculwe ngakumbi. Ukuba umntwana ufezekisa into ethile, uyenza inzithemba kuye, umnqweno wokwenza into ngokwakhe ngexesha elizayo. Ukuba umntwana usweleka ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngaphandle kokuncediswa kunye nenkxaso yakho, akakwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo. Oku kunokukhokelela kumntwana ukuba angakhuselekanga okanye akafuni ukwenza nantoni yakhe.
Inkathazo yonyaka wokuqala wokuphila nayo ilele kwinto yokuba umntwana wenza umsebenzi. Abantwana kule minyaka yokuwa bahluke kakhulu kumgangatho omnye womsebenzi. Abanye abantwana basebenza ngokususela ebusheni, abanye banokukhawuleza babize abazali ukuba bancede. Ingxaki yonyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana ibonakala, ngokukodwa, kwimeko yokuba abazali bayayiqonda ubunzima bokuqala ekukhuliseni umntwana. Ukuba umntwana usoloko ethobela umnyaka, emva konyaka uya kuba yingozi, enenkani, ngenjongo. Ingane inokulwa ukusuka kwiinyanga ezili-11, ukukhusela umbono wayo! Abanye abantwana abayilwa, kodwa kunokuba bahlekise, xa abazali babo benqaba into ethile: benza i-grimaces okanye bayakhala. Yaye uhlobo lwesithathu lwabantwana, naphezu kokuvinjelwa, baqhubeke benza into yabo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wakho uphendule njani ukuvinjelwa, ukwazisa ukuba sele esele umntu ozimeleyo, ukuba iimfuno zakhe azihlali zihambelana neyakho.
Ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka elilodwa unomntu onenkani kwaye unobungozi, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ezi zinto ziyimvelo yendalo yokuba ngumntu. Kwenzeka ukuba iinkalo ezimbi zomlingane womntwana azikho nzima.
Into ehlukile yenkathazo yonyaka wokuqala wobomi bentwana kukuba ngaphezu kwexesha elifutshane ixesha umntwana ufunda izakhono ezintsha nolwazi. Ukubonakaliswa kweengxaki ekuziphatheni komntwana kuxhomekeke ekuphatheni kwabazali ngeli xesha. Musa ukucela okungakumbi ukusuka kwintsana kunokuba unakho, ungamvumeli, uvavanye ukufaneleka kunye nokufezekiswa kwentsana ekugqibeleni. Ngaphandle koko, usengozini yokuwa phantsi. Abazali bafanele bahlale bekhathalele kwaye banakekele umntwana ngeli xesha elinzima lobomi bakhe. Kufanele unike umntwana wakho ixesha elaneleyo. Ukuhamba okudibeneyo, imidlalo, iiklasi ziya kukudonsa kunye ne-crumb, ayiyi kukulimaza kwaye yenza konke ngokungahloneli.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzimela kwengane kuya kubangela inkathazo enkulu kubazali: inkunzi kunye nexesha lijongana ne-spoon ngexesha lokutya, ukugqoka ukuhamba, ukugubha imilenze nezandla, ukulala, ukukhohlisa.
Ngezenzo ezinjalo, umntwana uyaziqinisekisa. Emva koko, akazi ezinye iindlela zokuzimela. Kwaye ke abantwana bahlala beziphatha kuphela nabantu abasondeleyo. Ngabantu abangaziwayo, ababonisi inkani.
Ukuba ngexesha lobunzima abazali bahlonipha iminqweno kunye nempumelelo yomntwana, ngoko i-vagaries zayo zancinci. Usuvele ufunda ukudibanisa nabantu abadala, uthobela izicelo kunye neemfuno ngokulula. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukungakwazi ukutya, inkunzi izama ukuyibamba i-spoon kumama wayo, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa ifunda ukuba idle yodwa, iyakuthandana nokutya.
Ekupheleni konyaka wokuqala wobomi, umntwana sele esazi indlela yokwenza uhambelwano olunzima, uneendlela ezimbini zokunxibelelana. Ubuntu obuncinane, ukuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo okuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kubazali.