Kuyaziwa kuzo zonke iintombi zidla ngokufanayo kunye noomama, kwaye oku kufana neenkalo ezahlukeneyo. Ewe, kukho ukungafani, kodwa nakwiimeko ezinjalo, nokuba ncinane, kodwa kusekhona ezinye izinto eziqhelekileyo ezikhoyo. Ngoko ke, ukuze ukwazi kangcono okhethiweyo wakho, kunye nokucacisa okokukhethwa kwezi zinto okanye ezinye izinto kunye neziganeko, kukwanele ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo umamazala kamva. Yile ndlela eya kukuvumela ukuphepha iimpazamo, okanye nangaphezulu ukuqiniseka ngokuchanekileyo komviwa okhethiweyo kwisihloko somlingane wobomi.
Ixesha lokukwazi ukuba umamazala uya kukuxelela malunga nolwalamano phakathi kwentombazana nonina.
Umzuzu xa intombazana isigqibo sokwazisa wakhe unyuko kunina, unokukwazi ukuthetha ngokubanzi. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba uhlalutyo olufanelekileyo, kuya kubakho ukujonga iminyaka embalwa ngaphambili kwaye ufumane ukuba yintoni imeko kwintsapho. Nantsi yonke into ixhomekeke kubude bexesha emva kokuqala kobudlelwane nentombazana ikhetha kwisinyathelo esibalulekileyo kuye.
Kwimeko apho ulwalamano lwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, malunga nenyanga okanye ngaphambili, unokuqiniseka ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi kwentombi nomama bunamandla. Zihlobo lentombi, phakathi kwazo akukho zifihli. Oku kungabonakala kunenzuzo, kodwa ngokwenene kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele le meko. Inyaniso kukuba ebomini obulandelayo intombazana iya kuhlala iyinyaniso kunina, ngenxa yoko iya kuba nefuthe elibi kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo kwintsapho. Naliphi na icebiso lakhe liya kuthathwa ingqalelo, kwaye, njengoko kwaziwa, oku kubangelwa ukungavumelani phakathi kwabatshatileyo, ekugqibeleni, umtshato.
Ukuba ulwalamano luhlala ixesha elide, kwaye umzuzu wokuthandana awufi, ngoko ke, akufuneki ukuba nomnye ujabule. Ewe, imeko enjalo ingabonisa ukuba intombazana iyimfuneko, kodwa enye inokwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, usenokuba nokwesaba ukuphendula komama, othetha ngokuxhomekeka kwakhe ngokupheleleyo "kumhlobo omdala." Ngoko olu khetho alungcono, ukuba alubi nakakhulu. Ngaloo ndlela, kungcono ukuzama ukufumana "igolide yokuthetha", kungekhona nje ngokumalunga nomhla wokudibana nomama kamva, kodwa ngokuphathelele ubuhlobo bakhe nentombi yakhe.
Ulwalamano phakathi kokubonakala komama-mkhwenkwe kunye nokubonakala kwexesha lomfazi wakhe.
Kukholelwa ukuba idatha yangaphandle yoomama imele izuzwe njengeentombi zabo, kwaye loo nto ingabalulekanga. Wachaza yonke imvelaphi yokuzalwa, ngokubhekiselele kwindlela intombazana enjengokubonakala ngayo unina ngexesha elifanayo. Okokuthi, ukuba emashumi omane umamazala unomthwalo obunzima, ngoko intombi iya kujongana nengxaki efanayo. Kodwa kukho enye into ebonakalayo: oku kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba bafana kakhulu. Ngaphandle koko, lo mgaqo awusebenzi.
Kakade, oku kufuneka kukhunjulwe, kodwa le meko ayisoloko iqhubeka. Omnye akanakukungaziboni into yokuba intombi inokuba neengcambu zikayise, ezinokulinganisela kwazo, ngokomzekelo, zizithoba. Kule meko, naye uya kuba yincinci kwaye ilunge. Kwaye akunjalo. Nangona umamazala uzele, kwaye intombazana efana nayo, iyakwazi ukugwema i-vagi eyingozi. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka nje ukudlala imidlalo, yenza imisebenzi kwaye ubukele umlinganiselo wakho. Ngoko qaphela ukubonakala komamazala, kodwa ingakhathazeki ngoku.
Ukuziphatha komama-mkhwenkwe kunye nobulili bokhethiweyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ngaphambi komtshato kunye nokuzalwa komntwana, ubomi bobulili bobuqabane bubonakala kwimisebenzi yabo kunye nomnqweno, kodwa emva koko imeko iguqulwa kakhulu. Abanye bathatha le meko yezemicimbi kunikezelwa, ngelixa abanye bacinga ngokuqhawula umtshato. Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukujonga kwangaphambili ukuba le ntombazana iya kuba yenzalo yesini emva kokuzalwa komntwana, okanye umzuzu wokukhulelwa komntwana kuba yithuba lokugqibela lobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Ukuze ufumane impendulo yalo mbuzo, akufanele uzame nje ukumazi intombi yakho kwimicimbi yothando, kodwa nonina. Kulula ukwenza oku. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe uyathanda ukuthandana nomyeni wakhe, okanye umphathe nje ngesisa kunye nokunyamekela, intombazana ngokwayo, inokwenzeka, ayiyi kuba yimbi.
Olunye uphawu olungileyo - ukuba umama-mkhwenkwe unokuhleka ngokukhawuleza kwizihloko ezithandanayo, kwaye uyaziqonda kule ndawo. Kule nto unokuqonda ukuba ulungile kwimicimbi yothando, kwaye ngoko ke intombi yakhe nayo. Ewe, ukuba "umama" ebudeni obudala ubonakalisa kwesi sicwangciso, ngoko kukho inkohlakalo enkulu yokuba intombi yakhe ayiyi kupholisa emva kweeminyaka eminci.
Isiphelo.
Ngokusekelwe kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, ungatsho ngokukhuselekileyo ukuba uninazala unako ukuqonda kangcono umthandi wakho. Ewe, zonke iindlela ezidwelisweyo ziphosakele ezithile, kuba imeko nganye ihlukile, kodwa isebenza rhoqo. Ngako oko, ukuba ukhangele ngokukhawuleza "umama", ikamva lomfazi, kunye nempilo yomtshato esilandelayo, iya kucaca ngakumbi, iyacaca kwaye ivulekele.