Izizathu zokuba awukwazi ukungafuni
1. Unkwantya ukuba umntu ukhubekile okanye unomsindo
Ngokuqhelekileyo, asikwazi ukuphika abantu ngenxa yokoyika. Kuphela akucaci ukuba umntu ufanele akhubeke: ngomsebenzi wakho okanye umnqweno wokuphumla, njl. Ndikholelwe, uya kuqondwa ukuba uchaza ngokucacileyo isizathu sokwenqaba.
2. Unkwantya ukuba awusayi kuphandwa, uhlonishwa okanye uphathwe kakuhle
Ukunyaniseka, le meko iyakwenzeka, kodwa kuphela xa uzama ukusebenzisa. Ngoko, ukuzalisekisa umnqweno womnye, ukunyanzela ukunyuswa. Ngaba uyayifuna le nto? Kungcono ukuchitha ixesha elikhululekile kuwe: ukulahla iingxaki kunye nemizwa yokungakhuseki.
3. I-axiom yafunda ebuntwaneni: ukulahla uncedo - ngokukhawuleza nangenkohlakalo
Yinto enye xa ummelwane omdala ecela ukuba asebenze esitolo ukuze athengise ukutya, kuba kunzima ukuba ahambe, kwaye nakwezinye - xa umntu osebenza naye ezama ukuguqula ingxenye yakhe yomsebenzi kuwe. Kucacile ukuba kwimeko yokuqala kuyinto yesazela, kwaye kwimeko yesibini umzekelo ocacileyo wokuphathwa. Ngelinye igama, kufuneka uqonde kakuhle apho amaxesha uncedo lwakho lufuneka ngokwenene.
4. Ukwesaba ukuthi "hayi" ngamanye amaxesha kuthethwa ngumntu ngokwawo
Zibuze imibuzo emibili elula: uhlala ucela uncedo kwabanye kwaye ucele nonke? Ngaba kukho abantu kwimeko enu ngubani owenza nantoni nje nje ngeenkonzo ngenkonzo? Xa uphendule, cinga ukuba ufanele ukwesaba ukwenqaba. Mhlawumbi uzithembela ngokwakho kuzo zonke iimeko, kodwa abantu abanceda kuphela ukubuyisela into ethile, kutheni bafunekayo konke. Musa ukutshutshiswa koluntu, ungesabi: kuya kubakho abantu abakulungele ukunceda kungekho sizathu.
5. Isikhundla somntu onesidima esincinane kukuba: iimfuno kunye neminqweno yabanye ibaluleke ngaphezu kwam
Kulo mbuzo, buza umbuzo othi: "Kutheni ndikwazi ukukhanyela abantu? Ingaba ibhizinisi lam liyinto encinci kwaye ingabalulekanga?" Kungenzeka ukuba, kufuneka nje ukuba uzamkele njengoko ukhona kwaye uqonde ukubaluleka kwakho kubantu abakujikelezile.
Iziphumo
Kodwa naziphi na izizathu zokungaphumeleli-ukuziphatha okukhuselekileyo nabanye abantu, khumbula: akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Okokuqala, uyaziphoqa ukuba wenze into ongenakuyifunayo. Kwaye, njengoko uyazi, ukuba usebenza kuyo nayiphi na uhlobo lokunyanzeliswa, awuyi kufumana inkokhelo enamandla yamandla kunye nezakhono ezifanelekileyo. Emva kokuphela kwayo, uya kufumana ukukhathala okuqinileyo kunye nomvakalelo wokupheliswa ngokupheleleyo.
Okwesibini, ukunyamezela iimfuno zabanye abantu, usengozini yokuba yixhoba. Oku kuthetha ukuba ngokukhawuleza iindawo ezizungezile ziya kusetshenziselwa ukunyanzelisa umsebenzi wazo, iimfuno, indawo yokujonga, ukugqithisa izicelo kunye nezinto ezilungileyo. Ngelizwi, uya kuzama ukusebenzisa. Kwaye isiphumo siya kuthatha. Kodwa ingxande yenkxalabo, ngakumbi, ukuba umntu ube yintlanzi ngokuzithandela. Ingcamango yakhe idla ngokugqithiseleyo kwingcamango elula ehambelana nesigwebo esisodwa: vumela wonke umntu avuyiswe, makangabi nandixabisa ngoku, baya kuqonda xa belahlekelwa. Esi sikratshi esinokuphakamisa umntu ngaphezu kwazo zonke ezinye.
Okwesithathu, ukuhlala unetyala. Njengoko kwenzeka njalo, unika isithembiso, ngenxa yeemeko ezithile awukwazi ukuzalisekisa. Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka ulale, udide, ufihle. Konke oku kukhokelela komnye-umva wecala, phambi kwakho kunye nabanye, ungakhankanyi ubuhlobo obunobuntu nomntu.
Okwesine, ukuzisola kwethu, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba umntu ongenaphoso ubizwa ngokuba ngumntu ongathembekiyo kwaye ulahlekelwe yithemba labanxulumana naye. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba akakwazi kwaye akwazi ukungafuni ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo. Kunoko, uthembisa ukuzalisekisa isicelo eso, aze afihla, athathe indlela yokuziphatha komntu.
Indlela yokufunda ukuphika
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufunde indlela yokuphika ngokuchanekileyo umceli-sicelo wakhe rhoqo. Okokuqala, kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba uvele usebenze, oko kukuthi, zisetyenziselwa iinjongo zabo. Ukukhumbula le nyaniso, ungaphendula ngokuphephile ngokuthi "cha" ngaphandle kokwesaba ukucaphukisa umntu, kwaye ungahlali ujabule ngomva wecala kulo. Musa ukulibala ukuba unelungelo elifanelekileyo lokunqaba. Kanye nje ngomnye umntu ongenakukuthintela ukucela uncedo okanye uncedo. Kodwa kukuthi uthathe isigqibo sokuba uthini: "ewe" okanye "hayi." Yaye khumbula, umntu osondezayo kunye naye, othoba ngakumbi uya kukwenqaba. Ngoko, kufuneka ukwazi ukunqaba. Ngoko uqala phi?
1. Ngokuvakalayo, ngokukhawuleza nangokucacileyo, yithetha igama elithi "cha" maxesha amaninzi. Yenza oku kude kube yinto eyaziwayo kuwe.
2. Yenza umzekelo uze uphephe kwiimeko zakho zokucinga apho ufumanisa nzima ukuphendula "cha." Kodwa kuphela umahluko owukoyikiyo wokwenqaba umfaki sicelo kwaye ungazizathu zokuba uxoxe. Uze uxelele umnxibelelwano ongeke ukwazi ukumnceda.
Z. Ngenjongo yoqeqesho, qalisa ngezinto ezincinci. Nika ingqalelo kwiimeko ezilula kwaye ezingabalulekanga apho ungathi "akukho" ngobumnene kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo. Kwixesha elizayo oku kuya kunceda ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo kwiimeko ezininzi.
Indlela yokwenqaba ngokuchanekileyo
1. Okokuqala, bonisa udibaniselwano sakho ngesimo sakho sengqondo kwisicelo. Ingaba yimvakalelo eyahlukeneyo, ukucaphukisa. Awusenalo, kodwa bonisa iimvakalelo zakho kumlingane wakho kwaye uchaze oko akufanelekanga. Lo lukulungiselelo olungcono lomntu ukuba anqatshelwe ngaphandle kokukhetha ukuzithemba kwakhe.
2. Yithi cha. Chaza ngokucacileyo isizathu sokwenqaba.
3. Injongo ephambili yokwenqaba yithuba lakho ngeli xesha ukwenza okulungileyo kuwe. Cinga ngalo kwaye unike umenzi wesicelo esinye isisombululo kwingxaki. Oku kuya kukunceda ukuphepha ukuphazamiseka okungadingekile, kwaye abantu baya kubona ukuba awunandaba neengxaki zakhe.
4. Qiniseka ukuphulaphula iqabane lakho, ungamphazamisi.
5. Ukuba, emva kweengxoxo ezingentla, awuzange utshintshe isigqibo sakho sokwenqaba ngokuchanekileyo, phinda uphinde ubhale ingcamango yakho entsha, ucinga nje ngegama lomnxibelelwano. Kwakhona, gama zonke izizathu zokuba kungani isicelo singayi kuqhutywa, ngokuqhubekayo nangobunzima.
Ukufunda ukuphika abantu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko uya kuzuza ixesha kunye namandla, onokuyichitha kuwe, uya kuba nako ukugcina ubudlelwane obuhle nabantu abakuzungezile, ukuba uzuze inhlonipho.