Iingxaki zabesetyhini kwizesondo

Ngokweenkcukacha ezivela kuphando olwenziwa eMelika, malunga ne-70% yabasetyhini abaneengxaki ezahlukeneyo zesondo. I-Disharony kwinqanaba elisondelene nalo lingasongela nayiphi na ibhinqa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni intsapho yakhe okanye isimo senhlalakahle, ubudala, njl. Iingcali zenzululwazi zichonge iingxaki ezi-7 eziphambili kwizesondo, eziqhelekileyo zifumaneka kubasetyhini.

1. Ukungaqiniseki ngokukhangela kwakho

Kubomi bowesifazane ngamnye kukho amaxesha apho engachukumanga. Ngamnye wethu ngumntu kwaye wonke umntu ufumana ukuhlaselwa kwengcinezelo kunye nokukhathala okungasivumeli ukuba sibonakale sikhangelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngaba besifazane banokuzithemba, ngoko ke ukungabikho kokuqinisekiswa kungasigxina. Uninzi lwabasetyhini abakwazi ukuziphoqa ukuba bahlubule, bazinikele kuye ukuba baqwalasele, balala ngesondo, njalo njalo.Ukungaqiniseki kubonakala ngokukodwa kwimantombazana esanda kungena ebudlelwaneni obukhulu kwaye ayengasondeli ngokwaneleyo kunye neqabane lawo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iingcinga ezinjalo zijikeleza rhoqo entloko, ke le sizathu sokuzibamba kwaye uzame ukubalahla.

2. Ungesabi ukufumana oko kuyifunayo

Khawuqwalasele imeko xa ibhinqa litshintsha iqabane lakhe. Ngomlingani wangaphambili yonke into yayigxininisekile kwimigangatho yesondo, kodwa yayingenamfudumalo kunye nokuqonda. Kwaye umlingani wamanje ngumntu ophawulekayo, onokuqonda kunye noqondayo, kodwa yintoni ethanda ngayo ngesondo? Kuthekani ukuba ulahlekelwa ngumhlobo wakhe wangaphambili? Ngokukhawuleza, akusayi kuphinda kube yile hlobo lolwabelana ngesondo, okokuqala, kunye nomntu owayekade naye? Kwezinye iimeko, iingcinga ezinjalo ziyakwazi ukubamba ingqondo yowesifazane kangangokuba umane wenqabe ukuqala intsha entsha ngenxa yokwesaba ukudumala!

3. Amava aphelileyo

Kuloo meko apho intombazana yayingaphantsi koxhatshazo okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho ngumntu, udla kunzima kakhulu ukumela ngokwaneleyo abameli bezesondo ezinamandla. Ngokugqithiseleyo kunjalo, ubheka bonke abantu njengosongelo olunokumlimaza okanye kumlimaza. Kwimeko yamatyala kunyanzeliswa ukuba uye kwiziko lenkxaso yengqondo, okanye kwizengcali-kwengqondo, kuba bambalwa kuphela abakwazi ukujamelana nale ngxaki ngaphandle kokuncediswa ngaphandle.

4. Unkwantya ukuba olu lamano lusexesheni

Uloyiko lwendidi lufumaneka rhoqo kumantombazana anamava obomi obunxu lumano. Akuqhelekanga kwimbali yabasetyhini abaphumeleleyo, abanomdla kwaye ngokubanzi banalo lonke uluhlu lwezinto ezifanelekileyo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo apho amadoda angasifuni ukwakha ubudlelwane, aphelile kwiiveki ezimbini ukuya kulwazi. Kunzima ukucacisa isizathu esiqhelekileyo, kodwa akukwenzelwa ukuba olo loyiko lwenza inqanaba elikhulu kule mimandla.

5. Imfundo, ukuphoqeleka umfazi ukuba angabikho

Xa ubuhlobo buqala ukuhlakulela, umfazi kufuneka abonise ukuthozama - amadoda ayawaxabisa. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi nantoni na ukuba i-shady kufuneka ibe yinto ezayo, kusemthethweni ukuba ubonise uthando lomlingane wakho.

6. Ingqesho engapheliyo emsebenzini

Mhlawumbi oku kuya kuvelisa, kodwa ngokwesondo, njengawo nawuphi na uhlobo lomsebenzi, kufuna ixesha elininzi kunye nomzamo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ulale embhedeni kunye neqabane, umfazi akufanele akhathele ngokupheleleyo. Yaye ukuba umsebenzi wakho uphelela ukuba xa ufika ekhaya, ulala nje embhedeni, ufuna ukulala kuphela, mhlawumbi kufuneka ucinge ngento ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, ukuqhubekela phambili emsebenzini okanye ukunika ixesha lakho intsapho kunye nobudlelwane bakho.

7. Ngaba ndiza kukhulelwa okanye ndiza kugula?

Ingxaki yengqondo idla ngokuba yinto ephazamisayo ebomini yowesifazane xa, ngenxa yokungahambisani nomqathango wokuqapha, ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye, wafumana intsholongwane. Ngethuba elifanayo, ngamanye amaxesha loloyiko lunokuthathwa ngaphandle kwendawo, ungavumeli umfazi ukuba ajabule ngesondo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kunye naluphi na amanyathelo okukhusela, umfazi uyaqhubeka ekhungathekile, enoba uya kukhulelwa okanye angathathi-ntsholongwane, nto leyo ingakhokelela ekubanjeni ukutshatyalaliswa kobudlelwane bezesondo ngokupheleleyo.