Kubonakala kuwe ukuba utshintshile. Akayikho into oyithandayo. Nawe, awuyi kutshintsha? Ngaba uyicinga ukuba uhlale uhleka ngokufanayo ukuba umntu, ode wadibana nawe, wayethandana naye, njengendoda enobudlova.
Amazwi amaninzi kunye nemibonakaliso yaqulunqwa ngesihloko sokuba into kamva okanye kamva ithande amaqabunga. Abanye abantu banqwenela ukuzikhusela kwithuba lokuba bave ngovakalelo luthando. Ngenxa yento enokuyisebenzisa ngayo amandla kunye nemvakalelo yakho, ukuba uthando luphela. Emva kwakho konke, ngokwemibono yoluntu, uthando lunomdla wokuhlala.
Mhlawumbi kukufanele ukuphanda, ngaba kunjalo kwaye kutheni uthando luya.
Luyintoni uthando kuwe? Kakade, wonke umntu uyayiqonda ngendlela yawo. Kodwa, umthandi ngamnye emva komva wakhe aphakame amaphiko. Xa uthanda, ndifuna ukuonwabela ubomi kunye nokukholisa umntu ondijikelezile, ngakumbi into enothando. Utsalwe kumntu oyintanda, kwaye awukwazi ukucinga ngobomi bakho ngaphandle kwakhe.
Umthandayo uya kuba yindalo yendalo yonke. Nokuba iingcinga azivuki ukukhubekisa, ukuzithoba okanye ukuhlazisa. Emva kwakho konke, uthando lwakho luyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye yinto ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho.
Enyanisweni, yonke le mivakalelo emihle iya kugqiba. Yaye, yintoni na eyohlala?
Ukuze uqonde ukuba kutheni uthando luyeke, kubalulekile ukuqonda isizathu sokuba uthandane nomntu okhethiweyo. Ukuba kuphela kumomotheka omhle, umzimba omhle, idatha yangaphandle, ubulili obuhle-ngoko ke ukubonakala kokutshatyalaliswa kothando kuyanda. Emva koko konke oku kungentla kungabalulekanga. Kwaye, kunzima, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba lo lu thando.
Mhlawumbi uthandana nomntu kuphela ngenxa yokuba uyakhathalela kakuhle kwaye uyayinyamekela? Uyamthanda isimo sakhe sengqondo. Ukuqala kolwalamano oluthandwayo kubonisa ukunyuka kwengqalelo kwintando yothando. Kodwa, xa "iilazi ezinemibala ephakamileyo" iwa, i-fuse of feelings echanekileyo iya kudlula - yintoni eyohlala isentliziyweni yakho? Kuya kuba nombono wenkambiso, iintyatyambo zemihla ngemihla, ikhofi ebhedeni kunye nemihla yokuthandana iya kulahleka. Emva koko, mhlawumbi, uya kudana kwiqabane lakho, njengoko uya kuqonda ukuba yena, ngaphandle kwakho, unokuphila kwakhe.
Lo "thando" lukhawuleza luphele.
Uthando xa ungathandi ukubonakala okuhle, kungekhona ukuziqwalasela. Uthando xa uthanda umntu ngokwakhe, njengaye.
Kwaye, ngoku cinga, ukuba uthanda umntu, ngenxa yokuba uyabathanda abantwana, unomusa, uthembele kuye. Cinga, uya kuthanda ukuhamba, ukuba uyamthanda nje lo mntu njengoko yena? Ukungayithobeli ingqalelo emva kwexesha, waphinda wabuya okanye wamisa, kuba ngaphambili wayethwala iintyatyambo ezinyaweni zakho? Uxabisa ihlabathi lakhe elingaphakathi, iimpawu zakhe. Ewe, ewe, kunokuba neengxaki, kodwa wafunda nendlela yokubathanda.
Ndikholelwe, ukuba uthando lwakho lufana naloo nto, aluyi kuphinda luphele. Zizo kuphela iimvakalelo ezizenza ngathi zithande, kodwa azinjalo.
Uthando luya kudibana. Oku kukuchaphazeleka ngezinto zansuku zonke - ubomi bemihla ngemihla, iingxaki emsebenzini, iingxaki kwintsapho. Ukuphikisana rhoqo kunye ne-quibbles kunye nomnye - uthando lubulawa ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba, ufuna ukugcina uthando kubuhlobo bakho kwiminyaka emininzi, ngoko ufunde ukuqonda kunye nokuhlonelana.
Hlala ngolunye usuku uze unqume ukucinga kwakhona kwixesha elidlulileyo. Khumbula ukuba awukwazi ukubuyisela iimvakalelo ezindala. Kodwa, ukuyihlaziya yinyani.
Namhlanje, xa uvela emsebenzini, jonga umlingane wakho ngamanye amehlo. Mhlawumbi utshintshe ngaphandle, kodwa, ephantsi, usengumfana owake wawa thandana nayo yonke intliziyo yakho.