Ubudlelane phakathi kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana, amakholwa kunye nabangakholwayo

Ukholelwa kuThixo. Kuya kubonakala kungenasici, nangona kunjalo, umlutha kakhulu. Yiloo nto eyenzekayo ukuba omnye wenu usebenza njengomntu okholelwa kuThixo. Emva koko, ukuba kungabonakali, kubangele ukungqubuzana kweembono kunye nokuchasene ngokupheleleyo kwezinto. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda kunye namantombazana, amakholwa kunye nabangewona amakholwa yinto enomdla kakhulu. Nanku kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuthetha ukuba iimvakalelo zesi sibini kunye novavanyo lukaThixo ngokwamandla. Uyakuphepha njani ukungaqondi kakuhle kwaye ugcine ulwalamano lwakho ukuba kukho ingxaki phakathi kwakho.

Ngoko, umxholo wendaba yethu yanamhlanje "Ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda kunye namantombazana, amakholwa kunye nabangakholwayo", siya kuzama ukuqwalasela amacangca aloo thando kunye nokuqonda: ngaba kunokwenzeka, okanye ukwahlukana kweembono zenkolo kwenza loo mbhangqwana ingaphumeleli?

Kukho iindlela ezimbini ezilula zokusombulula le ngxaki. Eyokuqala kukuba akuyena nje umntu wakho, kwaye awukwazi ukunyamezela inkolo yakhe, okubizwa ngokuba "ingenangqondo." Kuya kukuhlambalaza, kwaye ukutsala phantsi uze ungabi nakukwazi ukuvumela uThixo entliziyweni yakho, nangenxa yakho ethandekayo. Kuphela kufuneka uhlukane nalo buhlungu. Kwimeko yesibini, uya kuthi ufune ukukhafulela kwimithetho ebhalwe ngumntu kwaye uphile ngokuqhelekileyo kunye nomntu wakho othandekayo (ucinga ukuba yonke into ikuthandayo, ngokuqinisekileyo). Kukho ukhetho lwesithathu, kodwa luyinto engabonakaliyo kwaye ininzi lwaso lungafanelekanga. Isiseko saso silele ekubeni ungeke ujonge kwixesha lakho elizayo, kodwa uhambe ngokuhamba ukushiya yonke into kwindawo yayo. Kodwa, njengoko siyazi ukuba inokuphela, enye imbambano yombono ngaloo ndlela ihlula ngokupheleleyo. Ngokubanzi, zonke iindibano zonqulo zonakalisa ubuhlobo. Kwaye ukubeka le nyaniso njengengxaki enzima ayifanelekanga nhlobo. Ngokomgaqo, ukuba uyaqonda, oku akuyona ingxaki nhlobo. Emva kwakho konke, kuba omnye wenu ukholwayo akukho nkohliso. Nantsi yonke into iyahluke, njengokuba umntu okholelwa kuThixo akaze avumele ukuba akwenze ukuba ube neentliziyo ezibuhlungu kunye nokuhlupheka. Kuba, njengommiselo, abantu abathembekileyo nabazinikezeleyo abona konke okulungileyo kuyo yonke ukutya kunye neengcambu zengca kubo isahluko sonke sobukho bomntu sivulekile. Uthando lwala madoda okanye amantombazana lufaniswa nesipho sikaThixo esikhulu kunazo zonke umntu angayifumana. Ngako oko, akufanele ukoyike ukuba into enokuzilibazisa ayifuni into enothando, kodwa incwadi yazo zonke iincwadi zeBhayibhile. Khumbula, abantu abakholwayo abahlali kuzo, kodwa ngoThixo nabathandekayo babo. Ngokuvisisanayo, ngaba ngokwenene uya kuba mnandi, ukuba xa bakuthandazela kwaye bacela unoyolo olucocekileyo nolwenyaniso ngomphefumlo wakho. Ewe, anditsho ukuba yonke into iya kuhamba njengewashi. Ngokuqinisekileyo ubunzima buvela. Okokuqala, amakholwa athetha ngokunyanisekileyo ngesondo ngaphambi komtshato, okanye, umzekelo, ukhethe indlela yokuphila enoxolo noxolo. Yiyiphi, ngokuqhelekileyo ayixhomekeke kwimigangatho yokuqonda kwanamhlanje kwesi sizukulwana esikhoyo. Kodwa ke, ngubani oya kuba khona, wayengathini, kodwa ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda kunye namakholwa amantombazana nabangakholwayo kuyinto evamile kwaye inokwenzeka.

Ukuba uvakalelwa ngokwenene, iimvakalelo zangempela omnye komnye, ngoko kuya kulungeleka omnye wenu ukuba anqumle, kwaye indlela engcono kakhulu yokwenza ngayo umntu ongakholelwa kuThixo ngaphambili. Zama ukuqonda nokuqonda ukubaluleka kokholo kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini kwaye ngokukhawuleza, kungekhona umzuzu, funda iLizwi likaThixo kunye naye. Kwaye ngoko uya kukwazi ukubona ngokukhawuleza ukuba ungasondeli nje ngokwenyama, kodwa ngokomoya. Okokuqala, libale ngemibono yabanye. Ekugqibeleni, awukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwane nabo. Kutheni unokuba uluvo olugqithisileyo kuninzi. Mamela oko ilizwi lakho elingaphakathi lithetha. Emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yomntu onomthandayo unokwabelana naye yonke into naye kuphela ukuba wayehlala ekhona. Ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho, okhethiweyo uya ecaweni. Akuyi kuba yinto enqabileyo yokubonisa umnqweno wokuhamba naye (wakhe) apho. Funda imithandazo, uye kuvuma, qalisa ukuqwalasela iinqwelo zokutya. Tshintsha wena kunye nendlela yakho yobomi. Ukuba ubukade umlutha kwimikhwa emibi, khawuleza uyilahle. Ngokuqonda okukhulu, phatha ilizwe langaphakathi lomdlali wakho, ungazami ukumgxeka, ngoko awuyi kufeza nantoni na, kodwa umane umchukumise umntu kude nawe. Inkxaso yakho isipho esona sikhulu kunazo zonke, into engcono kakhulu ayinakuyenza.

Qonda kwaye uyamazi le ndoda, ngenxa yokuba enjalo imvelo, ivulekile kwaye iphendule kuphela, abo bakholelwa kuThixo. Umkhokeli unika ingqwalasela, okokuqala, emphefumlweni, kwaye ongakholwayo ukhathazekile, okokuqala, ngokuthi "impahla" kunye neengxaki "zomzimba". Umntu okholwayo uzama ukuthatha ubulumko obungakumbi kuThixo aze akhokele ubomi bakhe ngokuvisisana ngokumangalisayo kunye naye. Kwaye abantu abajikelezileyo, ufuna kuphela iimpawu ezilungileyo. Ngoko unako ukutsho ngokukhuselekileyo kakhulu inhlanhla. Kwaye kufuneka uzingca ngako. Ngendlela, nangayiphi na imeko, musa ukukhwele umphefumlo wakho phambi koThixo. Uyazi, yena (yena) unelungelo elaneleyo entliziyweni yakhe kubini. Ngokuziguqula wena, uya kuqaphela ngokukhawuleza indlela owaqala ngayo ukwenza yonke into ngokunyaniseka, uhambelana nemilinganiselo kaThixo kuyo yonke into, abantu abahloniphekileyo. Utshintshe kuphela ukuphucula.

Konke oku kufuneka usebenze njengesifundo esihle kwisakhono sakho sokumisa kwaye usuke ebudeni begreyithri yabantu bethu. Ukuba ungumntu onokukwazi ukutshintsha kwaye uguqulwe ngokugqithiseleyo ukuguqula umhlaba kwaye ugobe phantsi komphefumlo wakho, qela phambili. Yelela nje lo kholo lo mntu. Umahluko kukuba umntu ubeka ingqondo ngaphezu kweengqondo, enye ingaphezu kwengqondo. Zonke ezinye izinto ezincinci. Ngelo xesha, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba umntu ongakholelwa kuThixo unokuba ngumkholi, kodwa ngubani ozibiza ngokuba nguloo nto, eqinisweni azinjalo. Ukuba ungamthandi kakhulu, okanye ukwesaba ukwenza okufana nokucinga kwakho, utshintsho olubalulekileyo ebomini bakho kwaye awukwazi ukuyeka iinkolelo zakho. Yiya nje ucebile uze ungabandezeli wena okanye lowo mntu. Okanye njengokuba ukhetha, ukuba uyaphumelela, zama ukugcina ubuncinane ubudlelwane obunobungane. Kulula kakhulu ukuba ngumhlobo nomntu okholwayo kunokuba bakhe ubuhlobo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ekuqaleni kwakukho ithuba lokungaqhubeki ngeemvakalelo zabo, oku akufanele kwenziwe.