Umhlobo osondeleyo okanye umfanekiso kwiskrini se-movie - ngandlela-thile, ngamanye amaxesha abaninzi bethu bathandwa kumfazi, kwaye kufuneka siyivume ngaphambi kokuba sithethe ngayo. Ubundlobongqingili besini, uthando lomfazi kunye nokukhwabanisa ngesondo sele kuye kwakha umdla.
Ndaduka - ndiyayifuna
Kwii-women's forum kwi-Intanethi, hayi, hayi, kwaye uya kudibana nokuqhaqhazela: "Ndithandana nomfazi, ndimele ndiyenze ntoni na?" Kwaye amaxesha amaninzi abafazi bakhulu, batshatile, banabantwana, banolwazi oluhle ebomini bentsapho kwaye bafumene umsebenzi. "Ndineminyaka engama-29 ubudala, ndinomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala kunye nendoda, sitshatile iminyaka engama-7. Kwaye ngoku ndixhomekeke kakhulu kumfazi, umlingane emsebenzini. Ndiyicinga ngaye ngokuqhelekileyo, malunga nobungqingili besini, uthando lomfazi, ndifuna ukuthetha naye rhoqo, ndifuna ukuba amkhathaze, amthande ... "
"Ndicinga ukuba ndithandana nomfazi. Sadibana kwiwebhu, sathetha kwi-intanethi ixesha elide. Siphila kumgama wesiqingatha somhlaba ukusuka komnye nomnye. Ngoku ke wagijima, kwaye sakwazi ukuhlangabezana nobomi bokwenene. Ndiyichukumise gqitha le ntlanganiso. Kwaye ngoku kuhlwanje into endiyikhathazayo: xa ndandithandana nomyeni wam, ngokukhawuleza ndaqonda ukuba esikhundleni sam indoda yam ndicinga nje-yena! "Okanye kunjalo:" Umphathi wesibindi emsebenzini wayesoloko ebonisa iimpawu zokuncedisa, ukunyaniseka, ukuchukumisa ... Ndandifumanisa ukuba ndandithandana naye - kwaye ndivakalelwa ngaloo ndlela kunye nokukhwabanisa ngokwesondo, into engazange ndiyazi ngaphambili ... "
Ongaqhelekanga usoloko ehlaziya
Yaye ngokwayo-iyesabisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo: kwindawo eqhelekileyo, ehleliweyo nangomphefumlo ococekileyo ngokukhawuleza ifunyenwe i-closet emnyama ngento engagunyazisiyo, ndingenako ukwesaba? Ngako oko, sihlala siqhayisa ukubiza le nkxwaleko kunye nobuqhetseba ngokubhekiselele kumfazi wesini esinikiweyo, uthando lomfazi. Siyifake kwizinto zayo, sifuna ukufudumala komnene, ukunyamezela ubuhle bomntu kunye namandla akhe omntu, ukunyamezela okungaqondakaliyo, ekugqibeleni, nje "ububudenge" kunye nobunzima bokuphela kobuntu ... Omnye, ngokuvavanya ngokuvumelana ne-algebra, ubungqingili besini, uthando ibhinqa, inxalenye yokwaluvuma kokwesaba "Ndithandana nomfazi" ngonaphakade. Omnye uphakamise umvakalelo kumgca womphefumlo, apho uphahla khona intlanzi kuyo yonke into entsha yokuhlangana kunye nento engathandekiyo. Kwaye umntu uthatha isigqibo sokuya ekupheleni-kwaye oku kuphelisa ngoqhagamshelwano lwezesondo, ngokuqhelekileyo angatshatanga, angenakuncipha ukuba abe nobuhlobo besikhathi eside.
Ngokwezibalo ezahlukeneyo , ubungqingili besini, uthando lomfazi kunye nentlobano yesondo, ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini, babene-1 ukuya kwi-2 ekhulwini yamadoda nabafazi. Nangona kunjalo, iinkcukacha malunga nemiba engqinileyo ayinakuthenjwa kakhulu: abantu abahlala bengathandanga ukuvuma ukuba banokukhetha ukulibala ngenxa yokukhuliselwa kunye neengqondo zentlalo. Kodwa ulwazi olunokufunyanwa, lubonisa ukuba ukuba ulala embhedeni nomfazi obandakanyekayo kwiintlobo ezimbini zabameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka.
Okokuqala, ngaba ngamantombazana amancinci, ngokuqhelekileyo abafundi besifazane. Ziyashukunyiswa yinqwenelo kunye nokunxanela ukuzama, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukuguqulwa, ubungqingili besini, uthando lwabesetyhini luququzelelwe kwiimeko ezixinyiweyo zokuhlala (iiborori, izindlu eziqashiweyo abantu abaninzi). Ukongezelela, kubo kuyindlela yokufumana amava enyama ukuba ngaba ngumbuzo wobudlelwane nomfazi okhulileyo: khumbula ukuba "kwiiLiaisons eziyingozi" uMarquise de Merthey "uyalela" umntwana omncinci uCecil de Volange, enganqikazi ukuhamba kwimfundiso yokufunda.
Okwesibini , ngaba besetyhini abavuthiweyo - kaninzi baqonda ukukhangwa kwabo besini emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu okanye emashumi mane. Ibali le-actress uCynthia Nixon (u-Miranda ovela kwi "Sex and City") uyaziwa, emva kokuqhawula umyeni wakhe nomyeni wakhe waqala ukudibana nomfazi, uCristina Marinoni, kwaye ngoku uyavuya kakhulu. Akunandaba nokuba unxibelelwano olunjalo luqhubekile okanye luhlala engqondweni - yile mvakalelo ngokukhawuleza eyasikhathaza kakhulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukulandela imigaqo yentliziyo nokubhala kwakhona ibomi yobomi bakho ukusuka kwiphepha elicocekileyo lichanekileyo kwaye lifanelwe inhlonipho. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba andifuni ukucinga kwakhona ngokukhetha kwam isondo, ukutshabalalisa intsapho yam kwaye ndiqalise ubomi obutsha ngokukhawuleza, obonakala ngathi uyayilinga, kodwa ungenathemba? Intombi yam, obenomdla kunye nentombazana ebusheni bayo, ngokuthe ngandlela-thile wavuma ukuba ininzi yazo zonke ezinxulumene nokudityaniswa kwabo. Kwaye akunjalo nangesimo sengqondo esikude noluntu olunokunyamezela kwimibano yecala elifanayo, kunoko-malunga nokuqonda ukuba unxibelelwano luyinto enye ngaphandle kokuthandana nendoda, kwaye ukwakha ibali elithandwayo elithandabuleyo lihluke ngokupheleleyo. Yaye ukuba uqonda, ubungqingili besini, ukuthandwa ngumfazi? Zikuphi ezi zinto, kude neemvakalelo zobubele ngomhlobo?
Ulonwabo xa uqondwa
Ukuba ucacise ngokucacileyo - ukuba uthandane nomfazi sinamathuba amaninzi kunomntu. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba phantse zonke iidonki zobuhle zidibaniswa nomzimba wesetyhini: kwakuqhelekileyo kuboniswe ngabaculi, iingoma zicula, iifoto zifakwe. Khumbula i-cinematograph yakudala: Kwiimeko ezininzi, ama-actress ayadingeka ukuba abe nobuhle bamehlo, kwaye ukusuka kubalingisi bendoda, kwakwanele ukukhangela kangangoko nje njengenkunzi. Ngoku lo mlinganiselo ushintshile, kodwa ukuba ungakhange ukhangele ngqo, imifanekiso yamabhinqa amahle ayifumaneka nangayiphi na imini engabonakaliyo ngaphezu kwamadoda ahlakaniphile. Unokumelana njani nenani lobuhle? Kwaye-ke unako ukudibanisa ukunqwenela ngobungqingili besini, uthando lomfazi.
Kodwa akusiyo nje imizwa yokuzibonela. Ubundlobongela besini buhluke kakhulu kwindoda, kwaye kwingcamango yokwaneliseka esisityalayo ngaphezu kwenani leengqungquthela ngeyunithi yexesha. Ukwaneliseka ngokwesini kwabesetyhini kunokonwaba ngokwenyama kwaye kuthiwa ukwaneliseka, oko kukuthi, ukwaneliseka kunye nobudlelwane, ukufumana kwiqabane lakho inani elaneleyo lomdla kunye nokunyamekela. Ibhinqa linokuvuyisa emtshatweni, nangona awanelisekanga ngokwenyama, ukuba uneliseko okwanelisayo. Yaye ukuba akukho nanye-izama ukuwanelisa isidingo sokuqwalasela kwicala.
Siya kuphi , ukuba asifumani nzulu ingqalelo kwiqabane, ukuba singenalo ithuba lokuthetha naye, xubusha ishishini, ukhale kwisibambiso? Kunene-kumhlobo. Ukungabikho kwenkcubeko yokonyango kwisifo sengqondo, intombazana iba ngowokuqala kunye neengcali. Kwaye ukufumana ingqwalasela kunye nokuqonda okufunekayo, siyancipha kwaye sinquma ukuba asinakufumana umntu ovelele ngakumbi ebomini. Ukuthembela - isiseko sobuhlobo obusondeleyo - kwintsebenziswano yabangane abahlobo abasondeleyo kunakuqala. Ibinzana lale themba ngokuqhelekileyo ligxininisa, esele isele kakhulu kumano phakathi kwethu. Kwinkcubeko yabasetyhini, ukumbathisa, ukumanga, kunye nokuthintela kuthathwa njengamkelekile ngakumbi kunomntu - ngoko ke amantombazana asele asemncinci alungiselela inxaxheba koomama, abafuna ukukwazi ukuthintana nomnxeba nomntwana.
Yaye apho udibaniso olunxibelelwano - apho kunye nokuvuswa kwesondo. Umzimba womntu awuqapheli ukuba ngubani ochaphazelekayo - indoda okanye ibhinqa. Ngaphandle kwegumbi lokuhlalisa phantsi kwezandla zengcali unokuziva unomdla, ungakhankanyi ukunyamekela kumhlobo osondeleyo, esimthembayo. Ukuvuswa kobulili kwesiqingatha sokulala sizama ukufumanisa ukuba ngubani omele athumele umnqweno-kwaye ufumene umfazi omhle nomthandekayo osondela kuye ukuba umgudu wethu uphumelele. Kwaye sizama ukuxhuma le nto engeyiyo injongo, eqinisweni, umnqweno wokukhanga kumntu othile, nangona eqinisweni akunjalo, nje umzimba ukhululekile kwaye uyasabela ngothando.
Enyanisweni, ukuthandana nothando njengento ephilileyo , eyinkimbinkimbi kunye nobunzima, ayinayo isini. Ungakwazi ukuwela othandweni kungekhona kuphela kumntu, kodwa kunye nento ethile, kwishishini, kwisixeko okanye ilizwe ... Omnye umbuzo kukuba akuzona zonke iintlobo zolu vavanyo olwamkelekileyo kuluntu. Isigqibo sokudibanisa ubomi nomntu omtsha ngokuzenzekelayo sihumushela uxhulumaniso lwethu kumgangatho woluntu, nokuba siyayithanda okanye cha. Ubudlelwane, imfihlo ngokukhawuleza, izicwangciso ezidibeneyo zexesha elizayo, kunye nokuqwalasela rhoqo iminqweno yeqabane, kunye nokwabiwa kwexesha elininzi kuye ... Ukuba awulungele le nto - kwaye akukhathazeki ukuba luhlobo luni lolwalamano othetha ngalo, kunye nendoda okanye kunye nomfazi-ke, mhlawumbi, indlela kuphela yokuphuma eya kuba yenze imvakalelo yakho igugu eyogcinwa kwibhokisi ephakamileyo yentliziyo yakho. Abafazi kule ndawo bacebile kunamadoda: Kulula ngathi ukuba siphila kwiimvanoveli kuphela kwiingcamango zethu, kwaye sikwazi ukuhlula ngakumbi kunemibala yeemvakalelo. Kwaye mhlawumbi le ntliziyo engaziwayo - nje "insimbi" ofuna ukutshintsha into ebomini bakho, ukufumana indlela yakho? Kuphela kwaye ukuyikhangela kuyimfuneko, ngokuqinisekileyo, kungekho embhedeni.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ubudlelwane bamabhinqa amabini banokuthi baye kwinqanaba elitsha kuphela xa enye yeentombi ziphendulela ngakumbi kwaye zikhululiwe - kuba, umzekelo, unamava afanelekileyo. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ama-lesbians avulekileyo, ngokungafani namadoda amaninzi, ngokuqhelekileyo ukwakha isithethe sokuthandana ngokucacileyo kwisicwangciso "sobungane" "ukuthembela - ukuxhamla ngokomzimba - ukulala ngokwesondo", kwaye baziva kakuhle ukuba yiyiphi ibhinqa idinga inkxaso ngoku. Kwaye banokuba ngabahlobo abalungileyo - nje musa ukufihla injongo yabo yangempela.
Ubumnandi besithelo esinqatshelwe
Ukuthintela kwisifundo esifanelekileyo, umntu akanakunceda kodwa khumbula isimo sengqondo samadoda kunye nabasetyhini abesilisa kunye nabasetyhini ngokubhekiselele kwinkcubeko yesini esincinci. Akusiyo imfihlakalo yokuba abanye abazalwana bavuyiswa ngamafilimu e-pornography kunye neentlobano zesini, ngaphezu koko, ngamanye amaxesha abacingi ukuba bethengisa umlingane, ukuba uyenze nomfazi. Ewe, abafazi ngokuphindaphindiweyo banomdla kwiinkcubeko zesini, bafunde amaphephancwadi afanelekileyo, iifrimu zokubukela. Kukho nobuninzi obuninzi be-intanethi phantsi kwegama eliqhelekileyo le-slash-ezi zibhalo ngokuphathelele ubudlelwane bolwabelana ngesini kunye neendawo ezininzi ezithandanayo, kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kubalingisi abanjwe ngumlobi okanye owaziwayo. Ininzi yabasetyhini bayabhala bayifunde, kwakhona bavame ukukhula, kunye neentsapho nabantwana. Kutheni kuthi ukukhangwa kobudlelwane bobulili obuhlukile?
Ukutsalana kweentlobo zesini zobunqunu ngesondo esomeleleyo ngolu hlobo olufana nolwaluvuyo lwabo xa bebukela i-masturbation yabesifazane. Iziganeko ezinjalo - olu luhlobo lwemfihlelo yabesifazane yobungqingili besini, uthando lomfazi, okuqhelekanga ukuba aluvumelekile kubantu. Ujonge kubo, ngokucacileyo okanye ngasese, umntu ufumana uvuyo, esihlala sisenza into enokuyenza kunye nezinto ezinqatshelwe. Ukuze angeniswe kwindawo yothando lwabesetyhini ababini, indoda ayinalo ithuba, kwaye akukho nto ibenza abazingeli kunye nabanqobi njengokuba bengenakukwazi ukufikelela kwinjongo.
Kodwa kubafazi abathanda iincwadi kunye neefilimu malunga ne-gay, i-motivation ihluke ngokupheleleyo. Kukho abaninzi abafazi abangenwabileyo ngokwabo, kunye nemizimba yabo. Ngako oko, ukuthanda iintlobo ezibandakanya abafazi abathandekayo kubangela ukuba bangabi namnandi. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwamadoda amabini amahle, abathandana nabo, kunye nokuthandana, kunye nokukhangeka, bazinike yonke into abayisebenzisayo ekufundeni iincwadi kunye nokubukela iifilimu zothando - kuphela ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba kwintetho. Ndiyongeza ukuba xa ndibukela i-porno yobungqingili, abesifazana bahlala behlala kwindawo nganye yamadoda, okubenza banike ithuba lokuba bazame ngokwabo kwaye "inxaxheba" kunye ne "inxaxheba" ekuhambeni kwezocwangco ezingafaniyo njalo.
Isiphetho esinqwenelekayo kukuba ukuthambekela kwethu ukuthanda ubuhle bomnye umntu wesifazane, ukuva novelwano kunye nokumncoma kwakhe, kungqina ukuba siyavuya ngokubonakala kwethu kunye nomtsalane ngendlela efanayo, asiyi kuba nomona kwaye sinqwenela ukuqeda imbambano. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukukhangwa kwabasetyhini akunxulumene nokudumala kumadoda, njengoko kwenzeka kumaninzi amaninzi kunye nabasetyhini. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ibhinqa elizithandayo kunye nabanye, ngakumbi abameli abalungileyo bobulili bakhe, bafumana into efana nokuwela othandweni-ngokufana neyokunika ubomi ngokubanzi. Ubuhle besifazana luyingxenye ebalulekileyo yobuhle behlabathi. Ngoko kutheni ungaphumuli kwaye ungayithandi nje - ngaphandle kwempuphu?