Ngoko, kutheni kungabikho ukuxabana nokuphazamisana nomfana? Kwaye kulungile, uhlala uhlukile kumsindo onokuzulazanyiswa, kodwa bonke abahlobo nabahlobo bakho bakhumbula wena njengomntwana ongenasiphelo kunye nentombi eguquguqukayo engenakuze ilungiselele ingxaki ngaphandle kokuqonda isizathu kwaye ngaphandle kokuzama ukuyiqeda ngokuthula. Luhlobo luni lobuthakathaka olwenzekayo kwikhanda lakho eliqaqambileyo? Nangona kunjalo, oku akucatshangwanga ngabahlobo bakho, kodwa umntu ofanayo onentloko yakhe ithulule yonke loo nto idibanisa kwaye ikhutshwe, ngokukhawuleza isatshatyalaliswa ngesandla sakho esilubumnandi. Kule meko, ukhawuleza uhambe, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uqale ukubeka uphinde uphelele isohlwayo lakho. Kodwa konke oku kuphela ngenxa yeso sihlandlo ngokukhawuleza kwakhona ukuqala ukuxabana nokuphulukana nokuhluleka kokukhathazeka kokubili, kunye nomfana. Kutheni kunjalo?
Okokuqala, qaphela impilo yakho. Hayi, asifuni ukubonisa ukuba ukuphazamiseka kwakho rhoqo kudibene nolunye uhlobo lweengxaki zengqondo. Mhlawumbi nje ukuba umzimba wakho unikezeleke-umzekelo, ngenxa yokuthatha nayiphina imishanguzo, imvelaphi ye-hormonal yaphazamiseka. Le nto ibangela ukuba ukwethuka okanye ukukhwabanisa kwandiswe. Kule meko, ukufikeleleka ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwi-ingcali kuza kusindisa iimbilini zomntu kunye no kunceda ukulungisa ingxaki ngokukhawuleza. Kaloku, okwangoku, zama ukusela isilwanyana-kodwa, umfana akayikusola, ukuba unengxaki zezempilo. Ibhizinisi lakhe kule meko kukukuncedisa kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye kungabangela isizathu sesinye isikhalazo, ukuzama ukukhusela ama-angles abukhali.
Ngexesha elibi, elibizwa ngeyeza kuthiwa "i-PMS", sihlala sisichukumiseka ngokukhethekileyo. Asinelisekanga ngokupheleleyo into yonke: indlela ebheka ngayo, indlela enxibe ngayo, oko akuthethayo. Siyakwazi ukuphazamisa nawuphi na umzuzu kwaye sitshise sibe ngumlotha wethu. Akunjalo, kunjalo, kodwa kunjalo phakathi kwethu. Ngoko ke, ukuba uhlala ngokwahlukileyo, zama ukujonga ubuncinci kunye nomthandeki wakho kule xesha elibi, ukuze uphephe ukungqubuzana okungadingekile kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemiba.
Esinye isizathu sokuxabana sithe ngqo phakathi kwakho. Kwaye kuthiwa ukungaqiniseki. Kwaye kudala ukungathembeki kwesimo esisodwa esinamandla-umona, oza kuba neengxaki ezindala ziyakunqumla. Uza kuzibona: mhlawumbi unomhawu kuye yonke insika? Mhlawumbi uya kusebenza kunye ne-podkolkami ukuba wayelindele abasebenzi? Okanye mhlawumbi uhlala ucinga ukuba uphendulela kwisitrato, ukuze ukhangele ngeklasi ukhangele enye ibhinqa elihle elinemilenze engapheliyo? Ngoko ke, ngelo xesha, jonga iimeko zonke kwindawo apho indoda yakho iphendule khona. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba imoto yezemidlalo yeBMW igxininwe kwendlela-kuphela leyo iqabane lakho eliliphupha ngayo ubomi bakhe bonke? Musa ukumthukuthelela kwangoko, ungaqala ngqo phakathi kwesitalato. Uhamba nawe. Apho engakhangeli khona ngengozi. Yaye ungakhangeli kwiinyawo zakhe lonke ixesha. Kodwa, ukuba le nto iyakuchukumisa, cwangcisa ukuba unqabile ekhaya. Masibe neentloni (kwaye bacinga ukuba sibahlambalaza ngeentlekele zoluntu) ingxabano esitalatweni. Okanye wenze impendulo yokuphendula. Yaye ngokukhanukela, jonga umfana omhle. Qinisekisa kuphela ukuba umhlobo wayekubona. Yikholelwa, uya kuqonda isifundo sakho.
Kwaye makhe sihlale sinyanisekile. Mhlawumbi ezo ngxabano kunye neengxabano apho ulungiselela ukuba iqabane lakho lingabi nasizathu esilungileyo kukungqubuzana kwangaphakathi, oku kuthetha ukuba unqwenela ukuba nenxenye nale ndoda? Udibane, kwaye yonke into ilungile kuwe, kodwa ulwalamano lwakho luya phambili - xa uqonda ngakumbi ukuba akayena mntu ofanayo, kungekhona umlingane wobomi onokuthanda ukuhamba naye? Emva kwakho konke, kwaye oku kuya kuba - akukho nto ihlaziyikayo okanye eyingozi kule nto. Kunoko, ngokuphambene noko: kungcono ukuqaphela ngexesha lokuba awuyiyo isibini, kwaye usasazeka kunokuba uqonde oku xa sele udibanisa into engaphezulu nje kokuthandana. Umbuzo kuphela yindlela oziphatha ngayo, ugqiba ukuba awukwazi ukuba kunye ... Mhlawumbi awufuni ukubeka le ngongoma? Ngaba ukwesaba, ngaba uyika ukuba awuyi kufumana omnye umntu? Okanye awufuni ukuba ngumceli wekhefu phakathi kobudlelwane? Xa amabini amabutho elwa phakathi kwentombazana, enye yayo imqhubezela ngokucacileyo ukucacisa ulwalamano, kwaye i-force yesibili iya kuxoka ize ixabane ukuze loo mfana ashiye ngokwakhe, ngoko ubomi bakhe buya kuba isihogo sangempela. Akukho nto embi ngaphezu komzabalazo onjalo. Kwaye kungcono ukuzibamba kunye kunye nokuthetha ngokuthe tye, kunokuba uphazamise i-scandals kwaye ugqibe ngokubanda kwakho. Kwakhona ungumntu ophilayo, uyakuthanda, ukuba akayeki, nangona unobungqina obungenakubekezelela. Thembeka kuye: ufanelekile ukuba uthembeke.
Enyanisweni, izizathu ezibangela ukutshatyalaliswa rhoqo, ukuphazamiseka nokuxabana nomfana, mhlawumbi imoto nenqwelo encinane. Mhlawumbi zizinto ezincinci ebomini: umzekelo, akaboneleli ngokwaneleyo, akayithandi njengommelwane wommelwane wase-Irki kwaye akanalo imoto epholileyo, akazi ukuba udansa kwaye akabhali iingoma. Kodwa ngokwenene wena uyayithanda into ethile? Ngokuqinisekileyo, unomdla kwaye unomdla kwaye uyakhathalela kakhulu-kwaye oku kubonakala kungabonakali kumadoda anamhlanje! Ngoko fundisisa ukuxabisa ubudlelwane obunalo, kwaye ungabakhuseli nge scandals ezikhohlakeleyo.