Uthando lomfazi kumntu otshatileyo yenye yezona zifundo ezidumileyo ebomini nakwiincwadi. Esi siqhinga sisona sihluthulelo sezinto ezininzi kwaye sibandakanya abathathi-nxaxheba abaninzi kunye nale ntlungu. Kodwa kutheni lithandwa kangaka? Yintoni ebangele abasetyhini kumadoda esatshatileyo?
Okokuqala, sifuna ukwahlula ezimbini iinketho eziyinhloko: xa umntu otshatileyo ukhethwa ngumfazi ongatshatanga ngenjongo yokutshata naye kwixesha elizayo, kwaye xa waba nomdla kumfazi otshatileyo njengomthandi onokwenzeka.
Kwintombi engatshatanga, into yokuqala ebalulekileyo kumntu otshatileyo: akayena u-sloven kwaye akayikukhupha inkululeko enemvelo ekhoyo kwii-bachelors. Umfazi otshatileyo uhlala ekhangeleka (okanye ngaba? Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akunakuchukumisa abafazi, abo bonke bafuna ukulawula ngokupheleleyo abanye kunye nemeko yonke.
Ngokucacileyo, ukukhangela umntu oqikelelweyo ngendima yendoda ezayo yenziwa ngokungazi. Ingubo yowesifazane kuphela injalo, njengoko ithi, "abathembekileyo" abantu. Abasetyhini abayaziyo le nqwenela - ngokuqhelekileyo bayayiqonda ukuba kunene kulula ukuluhlaza "umntu osendle" kunokuba ambethe kumdlali wakhe kwaye emva kwexesha aphumelelanga ukulwa nemiphumo yokuqeqesha.
Olunye udidi: umyinge weminyaka yamadoda atshatileyo mkhulu kunabakithi. Oku kuthetha ukuba (kwakhona, ngokwesilinganiso) baphumelela ebomini - ngenxa yobudala babo kuphela. Ewe, akusona isono sokuba nesono nomntu. Kakade ke, le mibala i-statistical.
Iinjongo ezihlukileyo ngokupheleleyo zebhinqa elisele lifumene umyeni kuye, kodwa ngoku uye wakhathalela ukufumana umthandi. (Kakade, lo uphando luya kwenzeka ngaphandle kokuqonda: ngokukhawuleza, xa isondlo seentsapho sele sisekho, izidalwa zamandulo zesondo zavuka).
Ngokuqinisekileyo, umthandi kufuneka kwakhona aqikeleleke, ngenxa yokuba umnikazi waloo mfazi angenanga kwantoni ngaphantsi komyeni wakhe. Ngoko nangaloo ndlela indoda esatshatileyo inezinzuzo ezithile. Kodwa i-tame - asiyiyona imfuno ebalulekileyo kunomthandi.
Okubaluleke ngakumbi, indoda echanekileyo ixabisa amathuba okulala ngesondo. Andininzi ukulahlekelwa ngumthandi ongatshatanga - akafuni ukufumana ubuso kumyeni wam. Kulula kakhulu kwaye akhululekile ukuqonda ubudlelwane, kungekhona ngokukhawuleza kunye nokunyamekela.
Kodwa umntu otshatileyo unokulahlekelwa. Yena, njengowomlingani wakhe oqabane, ngokuqhelekileyo ufuna ukugcina umtshato wakhe - kwaye oku kunika loo mfazi uqinisekisa ukuba bobabini baya kukhathalela ngokumalunga ubudlelwane ngokwabo kunye nemfihlo yabo.
Kodwa zonke ezi ngxabano azibonisi isizathu esona sikhokelo sabantu abatshatileyo kubasetyhini abaninzi. Kwaye into yokuba abalambile ukulala ngokwesini kunye nolwalamakhosikazi. Bambona loo mfazi imihla ngemihla phambi kwakhe, kunye (ukuyibeka ngenyameko) ubunzima besifazane basentsha kwimemori yabo. Ngoko ke, amadoda asetshatileyo avame ukujonga abafazi bengenomdla ocacileyo, kodwa ngokuqapha okukhulu kunye nokunganakwa. Kulungile kwaye ngolo hlobo abantu abambalwa banokuhamba bathule: "Kwenzeka njani ukuba, akazange awangchukumise, ngoko kukhangeleka kwaye kukumangalisayo?"