Imfihlelo kunye nokungaqondakali kokuziphatha kwamadoda, njengokuba uyazi, inyaniso engenakucaciswa ukuba kunzima kubafazi ukuba baqonde. Ukungena kwixinzelelo, ukuzityhawula ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kunye neengxaki ezahlukeneyo kunye neengcamango malunga nabo, njengoko kuvela kuzo zonke, kwaye kungengowona mfazi. Ndikholelwe, amadoda ahlupheke kakhulu ngoku. Ngokulula, ngomgaqo-siseko, abayibonakalisi esidlangalaleni, ngaphandle kokumemeza ngakwesobunxele nakwesokunene, ukuba apha, bathi, Ndine-black streak ebomini bam kunye noko ndimele ndiyenze nayo. Ziyimfihlelo, kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo zeemvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabo. Okubi kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, ekufumaneni ihlabathi lakho elingaphakathi kwaye uthetha malunga neengxaki ezilula kunokuba uzifihle zonke kwiindawo ezinzulu kwaye uzama ukuhlala njengaye. Amadoda awanakho konke ukuthabatha iimvakalelo zabo, ezibandakanya iziphumo ezibuhlungu kubo. Ukuba ngumntu wokwenene kwaye ungalokothi ukhononde ngeengxaki zabo, ubeke phantsi, kuwo wonke ummeli wesilisa, njengesiseko esisisiseko, ebomini babo. Ngoko ke, i-credo eyinhloko yabo bonke abahlali, kukuthi, ukuba yingumoya oqinileyo, ozimeleyo, ofanelekileyo ukuba amkele zonke iingxaki zobomi kwaye ahlale evimba ukunganeliseki kunye neemvakalelo. Kwaye, ngenxa yesi sizathu, uhlala ezama ngamandla akhe onke ukufanisa lo mfanekiso, ethwala zonke izinto ezingekho ngaphakathi kwaye akafanele aphumele kuye. Le ngongoma yesintu kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza malunga nayo, isele kuphela thina besifazane ukulwa nale nto. Wayefuna ukutshintsha into ethile, kodwa akakwazi ukuyicombulula ngokwakhe, ukwesaba ukuhlazisa inkunzi yakhe "mna". Kwaye yonke imizamo yakho, ukukhupha kuye isizathu esiyinyani, ukuziphatha kwakhe okungaqhelekanga, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukukhawulela kwingcaciso elula nechanekileyo kwifomu, bathi, badidekile ngokwabo nangemvakalelo yabo. Kwaye, nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu uthi unxibekile ebomini, musa ukumshiya yedwa kunye neengxaki zakhe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwakunjani, zama ukuthetha naye kwaye, mhlawumbi ekugqibeleni, kumncedise ngandlela-thile, ngendlela yokuziphatha yegama.
Ukuba wenza ngendlela yomzabalazo ekungeneni kwakhe nokungaqiniseki ebomini, ukuba ngexesha elifanayo uya kuba nodonga oluphezulu lwamazwi aluyi kukhishwa. Yiyiphi imizuzwana embalwa, yakha, ngqo, indoda ngokwakhe. Uya kuzama, ngoncedo lwalolu donga, ukuba azicime kwihlabathi lonke kwaye uncedo lwakho olubandakanya. Akayithandi xa ibhinqa lizama ukungena emphefumlweni wakhe kwaye ngendlela engcono, egameni lokuphepha, licinga ukuba "ubalekele emkhombeni". Kufanelekile, ukwazi ukuba abaninzi abantu, abanqwenela uphawu, baqonda nayiphi na icebiso elivela kwicala labesifazane. Oku kubangelwe kukuba icebiso esilinika lona, kwingqiqo yabo yengqondo, ayithathwa njengento engeyiyo into yokuhleka usulu kunye nokugwetywa. Ngoko, nangayiphi na imeko, musa ukumisela icebiso lakho kuye, kodwa unikeze, njengokungathi, ngengozi, nangendlela. Into ephambili ukubeka umfanekiso ocacileyo wengxoxo yakho phambi kwakho, ungabuzi imibuzo uze uvumele ukuthetha. Amadoda athanda abaphulaphuli abaphulaphuli, kwaye ke, amathuba enu okufumanisa, ukungavumi komphefumlo wakhe, nokufumanisa into efihliweyo apho, iya kunyuka kakhulu.
Kodwa okokuqala, ukulungiselela ukuba inxaxheba yesazi sengqondo somntu, makhe sihlaziye ngokufutshane izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokubamba umntu ngaphandle kwendlela yakhe yokuphila.
Bonke abalimi, ukwenzela ukuba yabo imbi ingazange ifikelele ebomini, kwiingqondo zabo zengqondo zithandwa ngamava obuhlungu. Esikhundleni sokuba yonke into ihlelwe ngaphandle, ukuba kungekhona ngezenzo, ngoko ubuncinane ngegama. Bazixhaphaza malunga nantoni na eyenzekayo. Ingaba kusebenza, intsapho, abahlobo okanye nje uthando olutsha olulahlekileyo. Thatha kakhulu ngeendleko zakho - eli li-counter counter. Kwaye kunokucaciswa oko. Ukuba yena, indoda eyinyani, uyithatha kakhulu. Ukucinga ukuba yonke into iphantsi komthwalo wakhe, kwaye ukuba akukho nto iphuma ngaphandle kokulawula. Uyazigxeka ngokwakhe, ngokuzikhethela ngokwakhe, ukuba akakwazi, oku kukugcina kwimida ethile. Uzama ukufumanisa apho wayesenza khona iphutha kwaye, ngantoni na, waphelelwa ukulawula. Ngelinye igama, wayesele edinwe ngumthwalo onjalo.
Sekunjalo, izizathu zinokubakho ukungabonakali kwakhe njengendoda. Ukungazinzi kwezezimali, ukunganeliseki ngokwakho, kungekhona ukuphunyezwa kwezicwangciso nemisebenzi ebekwe phambi kwazo, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuqala komgca omnyama kwi-front front. Ngokuphathelele isizathu sokugqibela, yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye iphakame ngaphezu kwayo yonke into. Iquka imiba emininzi, ngenxa yokuba umntu udidekile, engazange aziqonde iimvakalelo zakhe kunye neminqweno. Oku kunokuba ukhathala kwakhe kubudlelwane obude, uthando oluthathekayo lomnye umfazi okanye uvakalelwa nje ngolu hlobo luthando. Nantsi indoda, ngaphezu kwanini ngaphambili, igawula intloko yakhe kwisivunguvungu salolu thantathu luthando, uzama ukugqiba ukuba ngubani oyintanda kuye kwaye ngubani ofuna ukuhlala naye. Nanku sibhekisela kwinto yokuba waqala ukungaqiniseki ngokukhetha kwakhe, esondele kuwe kwaye nonke akakwazi ukuziphendulela umbuzo: "Ngaba ngokwenene ungumntu ofuna ukuba uphile ubomi bakhe bonke?". Okanye mhlawumbi kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kukhwaza kangakanani, uyaphuma ngenxa yothando. Okanye ucinga nje ngekhefu elincinci kulwalamano lwakho.
Ukuba umntu uthi unxibekile ebomini, kwaye ufuna ukumnceda kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uxhaphaze iintlungu ezibuhlungu malunga nokungaqiniseki okukhoyo, ke ungamcindezeli. Kwaye uthetha nje naye, mnike ixesha lokubona ukuba unokuyiqonda okanye amncede kule nto. Ngokubambisana, njengoko uyazi, zonke iingxaki zibonakala ngathi ziyingqumbo. Musa ukutyhoxisa kwaye ungamxhasi xa enza isigqibo sokugqibela, asiyi kukhawuleza isiphumo sesigqibo sakhe. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, nokuba yintoni ayenaye, ayithathe kalula.