Ukungakwazi komntwana ukugxininisa ingqalelo kunokuchaphazela kakubi ukusebenza kwakhe kwezemfundo. Ngoko ke, ukususela kumncinci, abazali kufuneka bahlawule ngokufanelekileyo ngolu hlobo. Iingcali, kwakhona, zinika iinkcukacha ezininzi zokukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kwengqalelo yengqalelo yomntwana.
Inkcazo yokuqala yile ndlela elandelayo: xa usebenzisana nomntwana, qiniseka ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho - kumomotheka, kumangaliswa, ubonise umdla kwaye ujabule!
Inqaku elilandelayo kulabo ababandakanyekayo ekuphuhliseni ingqalelo yabantwana babo kukuba bona ngokwabo bayalathisa ingqalelo yomntwana, bambandakanya kwimisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, kwaye babonisa izinto ezintle zomsebenzi omnye. Fumana kwaye ufike ngeendlela ezintsha kunye nezixhobo zokugxila ingqalelo yabantwana. Into ekhangeleka kakhulu kumntwana kukuba unemibala enemibala engalindelekanga, khumbula ukuba.
Intetho yindlela ephakamileyo yokulungisa ingqwalasela. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana basesikolweni abasebancinci kunye nabantwana abasenkulanga-ntloko, benza umsebenzi, bathethe ngokuvakalayo. Ngaloo ndlela, inkulumo ngesimo semigaqo okanye iimfuno zomntu omdala unceda umntwana ukuba alungiselele ngqalelo ngqalelo. Umyalelo wesinyathelo-nge-nyathelo uhlala usebenza kakhulu. Loo myalelo uququzelela ukucwangciswa kwemisebenzi yomntwana kwaye ulungiselele ingqalelo yakhe. Kule nto ivelisa inkcazo yesithathu: yakha imiyalelo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kufuneka ibe yinyathelo-nge-nyathelo, efanelekileyo, inokuqonda, ikhonkrithi kwaye iphelele.
Iimeko zokumelana nezinto eziphazamisa umntwana kusentliziyweni yokugcina ingqalelo. Ukuphazamisa umntwana unokukwazi ukwenza izinto ezahlukahlukeneyo, ezivela kwi-external stimuli, izinto, abantu, kwiimeko zangaphakathi zengqondo. Umntwana wakho kufuneka ancede ukuphuhlisa indlela yokumelana neziphazamiso. Ukuncedisa kule meko, abazali bangakwazi ukuthetha imiyalelo ejolise ekuzaliseni imisebenzi ephambili yomntwana. Ubugcisa bokufunda kubazali kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha imisebenzi enje ngokusekelwe kumakhono kunye namakhono omntwana.
Kulo mzekelo, umsebenzi olungeleyo ungaphantsi kobunzima bomntwana. Oku kukhuthaza ukuphuhliswa komntwana. Ukongezelela, amagama abazali, enjongo yokugcina ingqwalasela kwimisebenzi ephambili yomntwana, akufanele ibe nemvakalelo embi. Akungathandabuzeki ukuba uya kugqiba isabelo ukuba umzali uthetha iibinzana kwi-tone ehlelekile "Musa ukuphazamiseka!", "Ungakhange ukhangele!", "Ungachukumisi amathoyizi!". Kule meko, amabinzana asebenzayo: "Ngoku sigqibe esi sigwebo kwaye sidlala!", "Khangela, unayo iileta ezimbini zokubhala!".
Kwabafundi abasebekhulile, ukugxininiswa kwengqwalasela kuya kuba ngcono. Xa uneminyaka engama-6 ukuya kweyisixhenxe, abantwana bangakwazi ukugxila ingqalelo kwimifanekiso okanye phantsi kwemizuzwana engama-20.
Ekuzinzileyo, ingqwalasela iphinde ichaphazele ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka komntwana. Abantwana abanentlungu kunye nababuhlungu banokuphazanyiswa ngakumbi kunempilo. Kule meko, iqondo lokuzinza kweengqalelo zabo liyakwazi ukuhlukana ukuya kwesinye nesiqingatha ukuya kubini. Kwigumbi apho iTV okanye i-tape recorder isebenza, umntwana uya kuphazamiseka kaninzi kunendawo elinezolileyo. Umntwana onomsindo okanye othukutheleyo naye unako ukukwazi ukuxhoma kunye nokuphuhliswa kwengqwalaselo. Kule ndlela ilandelayo isondlo sesine kubazali: kufuneka unakekele impilo yengqondo yomzimba kunye nomzimba wakho, ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho enze kakuhle umsebenzi wesikolo kunye nezabelo zakho. Yenza indawo engabandakanyi iziphazamiso ezifana nentetho yesimo sengqondo, izandi ezivakalayo, amaphephancwadi anomdla kunye neencwadi, iimathoyizi ezikhanyayo, izinto ezihambayo.
Ukuqwalaselwa kakuhle kwengqalelo kubonisa ukuba yonke into ejikelezileyo ayibonakali, ngaphandle komsebenzi oyintloko. Umntwana kufuneka abe nokuzinyameka ngokwaneleyo, ukuze umntwana enze le propati. Ubukho bezinto ezithandwa ngumntwana, izinto ezithandwayo okanye ishishini, eliza kuba nomdla kuyo, ligalela ekuphuhliseni ingqalelo kumntwana. Ngokugxininisa kwishishini lakho ozithandayo, umntwana uya kuphuhlisa ikhono loxinaniso lokuxininisa.