Kuyinto engokwemvelo, xa abazali bexhamla malunga nokuphuhliswa kwezakhono ezibalulekileyo zobomi babo. Ukuba unendaba malunga nale ngxaki, ngoko unokuthi ungumzali omhle kwaye kwintsapho yakho kukho izimo ezaneleyo zokuphuhliswa kakuhle nokufikeleleka komntwana. Ukuze ufumane ukuba kukho na ukuphambuka ekuphuhlisweni kwengane yakho, ukuba umntwana uthetha unyaka, kufuneka uphendule le mibuzo ingezantsi.
Uthetha ntoni ngo "kuthetha"? Imiqathango yokuphuhliswa kwentetho kumntwana izalelwa ezinyangeni zokuqala zobomi bakhe. Okokuqala kukho "ukuhamba". Ngaloo nto, umntwana wakho uqala ukuzama ukwenza izandi, uzame ngale ndlela ukuvavanya izixhobo zakhe zokuthetha kwaye uxelise izandi zentetho yabanye. Ngokukwenzekayo kwixesha leemvakalelo ezinamandla, xa umntwana ebona omnye wabazali, ujabulela ukuhamba okanye nayiphi na into ebonakalayo, ufuna ukutya. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuzithokozisa kubonakalisa ubuncinane kwiinyanga ezimbini. Emva koku qalisa isigaba sokubamba - oku kusana usuqala ukuqonda intetho yakhe kwaye uzama ukuvelisa inkulumo yabantu abadala ngokuchanekileyo. Uphuhliso oluqhubekayo lwentetho yomntwana kunye nokutshintshwa kwinqanaba lencoko eyaziwayo ngokupheleleyo kuxhomekeke kuphela kwimeko yakhe, kumama, utata, unina, nabanye abantu. Ukuba uhlala uthetha nomntwana, ngoko uyamqhubela kwingxoxo, ngoko uphuhliso lwakhe luya kukhawuleza. Ukuphuhliswa kwabantwana kuthathwa njengesiqhelo ukuba ngaba uneminyaka elilodwa ukuya kwisiqingatha iminyaka sele sele enezakhono ezilula kakhulu zokuthetha.
Ubani ubulili bomntwana wakho? Kuyavunywa ukuba amantombazana ahamba phambili kubafana, nangona kunjalo, ngokubhekiselele kwisantya sokuphuhlisa izakhono zokuthetha. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba unayo intombazana kwaye ekupheleni konyaka wakhe wokuqala ungenalo izakhono zentetho elula, mhlawumbi kufuneka uthathe umntwana wakho kudokotela okanye kwi-psychologist. Abafana kaninzi abanakukwazi ukulawula intetho yabo de kube yiminyaka emibini. Ewe, loo meko nganye ngumntu ngamnye kwaye kwiintlobo ezininzi kuxhomekeke kumabini angenangqondo yomntwana, nakwizenzo zabo abasondele kuye.
Yintoni umntwana ayenayo? Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali be-alarms abangenangqiqo abanabantwana abacebileyo abahlambulukileyo abaphuhlisa ngokuthe ngcembe ngakumbi kune-an alarm sound alarm. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba abantwana abanesi simo bafunda yonke into ngokufanelekileyo kwaye xa uthetha, intetho yakhe iya kuchaneka kwaye inentsingiselo. Abazali babo kufuneka babe nomonde, kuba ngezenzo zabo zokukhawuleza bangayesabisa umntwana, bamphoqelele ukuba azenzele, oko kuya kunciphisa intuthuko yakhe.
Ukuba iimpendulo zemibuzo zibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba kukho naziphi na iziphene ekuphuhlisweni komntwana, ngoko ke, akufanele uhlale phantsi. Ukuba umntwana wakho akathethi nonke, ukhetho oluhle kukumthabatha kwizodwa. Kwezinye iimeko, xa uphuhliso kuphela ngesizathu esithile siyekile kwisigaba esithile, ungazama ukujamelana nale ngxaki.
Okokuqala - uthetha phambi kobantwana kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Shayela ngokucacileyo, izinto eziphakamileyo kunye ngokucacileyo apho umntwana ekhangele khona. Ukuba uya kwindawo ethile nomntwana-xelela into oyenzayo, mbuze, umkhuthaze ukuba athethe intetho ngeendlela zonke. Umzekelo, unokumcela ngokuthatha ithoyiyali enye esandleni ngasinye: "Ngaba uza kudlala nale nto yokudlala (bonisa kuqala) okanye nangalo (bonise okwesibini)?". Ukwenza ukhetho, umntwana uya kudingeka ukuba akhombise kwisitokethi ayithandayo aze athi igama.
Kungangoko kunokwenzeka, khuthaza umntwana ukuba athethe, athokoze ngamazwi akhe. Musa ukuphazamisa nayiphi na indlela, vumela ukuba ube nolwazi oluvela kwintetho yonxibelelwano kuphela. Musa ukumlingisa kwaye ungayilungisi ngokucacileyo, kodwa zama ukucaca ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo amagama awawathethileyo.
Ukuba umntwana unyaka angakhulumi nantoni na, ngoko unako ukudibanisa ngokuzonwabisa kunye neentanga zakhe. Zama ukunika ithuba lemvu. Oku kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuya kuba negalelo ekuphuhlisweni kwentetho.