Yintoni ongayenza ukuba u-Lovelace abe ngumyeni wakho? Enyanisweni, kukulungele ukungavumeli oku. Akuzinzile, umoya, ukuthembeka kwayo kuhamba phambili, kodwa umnqweno wokuwunqoba nokufezekisa, ukufunisisa - rhoqo, ngendlela engavamile, oko kukuqinisekisa. Ngamadoda anjalo akulula ixesha elide ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kwaye nje malunga nokuphumla kwaye uzive uthanda, unakho ukulibala. Ewe, kungcono ukuba ungatshatanga umntu onjalo.
Nangona kunjalo, wenzeni ukuba uthe wathandana naye wayesele umtshatile, okanye ukuba uyicinga umlingani wakhe emva komtshato (kwaye kwenzeka njalo), ngokubanzi - ukuba unokuba usenokuthi ngoku: "Ewe, indoda yam yindoda"?
Kule meko, khumbula ukuba ubudlelwane obude kunye nomntu onjalo kunzima ukugcina, kodwa kunokwenzeka, ukuba unamathela kwimithetho ethile.
Ungabonisi umyeni wakho, Lovelace, ukuba ungowawe-ukukhanya okuphela kwindwindla, ngakumbi ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Xoxa nabahlobo, uye emsebenzini kwaye mhlawumbi mvumele ukuba ngamanye amaxesha athethelele, akukhumbuze ukuba ungumntu okhethekileyo onomdla kwaye unomdla. Ngaphandle kweso sizathu ungagqithisi - umona uyisixhobo esinamandla kakhulu, kulula kakhulu ukugoba intonga. Kwaye emva kokugqabhuka komona wakhe, ji kelela umthandayo kunye nokunyamekela, ncokola naye ngothando, bonisa ukuba uyamthanda njani.
Ukongezelela, bonisa rhoqo umyeni wakho-abafazi ukuba ufumene izinto ezintle kuye, njengoko ufunda naye. Phawula ububele bakhe, amandla akhe nengqondo, ngoko ke, ubuchule obukhokelela njani kwezoqoqosho, i-acumen yakhe yezo shishino, ngokubanzi, uthetha ngendlela enokwenzeka ngayo ukuncoma. Musa nje ukulibala ukuba ukuncoma kubalulekile kuphela xa kulungelelaniswa - akufuneki ukuthetha ubuxoki. Nangona umntu okhuselekileyo akayi kukholelwa ekudumiseni ukuba uyamnika, ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza kukunika umvuzo kwaye ungalokothi ubonise impumlo kwisitoreji, uya kuthetha ukuba uthanda kangakanani ukukwazi ukukhokela indlu. Kodwa ukwesaba ukunyanisekisa iimpawu ezikhoyo, ukudumisa umyeni wakhe, Lovelace, akuyimfuneko - ukuva amazwi amnandi imihla ngemihla, uya kuzama ukulinganisa. Nangona kunjalo, kwalapha kukho ingozi yokugqithisa intonga. Ukuva ngokuncoma kakhulu, indoda yamadoda inokugqiba isigqibo sokuba ufanelekile ukuba ibe ngumyeni wakho, kuba wena uyamdumisa. Ukuphanga umntu onjalo kuhamba ngqo, mhlawumbi, imeko engathandekiyo yobudlelwane bakho-ngomzekelo, uya kukushiya ngokuqhubekayo ukuba afune ukulungelelanisa naye-enjalo enhle, okanye ukutshintsha nje ukushiya ngakwesobunxele, ngaphandle kwe penny ukubeka iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo.
Ngoko, ndumdumise umyeni wakho Lovelace, mnike uncomelo, ungaziphakamisi ukuba ngaba kunjalo, kodwa ungamdumisi; ahlale ekhangelekile kwaye enqwenelekayo kwamanye amadoda, kwaye makabone (kodwa ungayitshintshi nhlobo), ube nomnene, umthande kwaye unamathele kuye, kodwa ungayikhohlwa malunga neminqweno yakho yangaphambili kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa - kwaye oko kwakubonakala kungenakwenzeka - ukwakha intsapho enoqinileyo nolonwabileyo ngo-Lovelace - ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphumelela.