Uthando luvakalelo olunzulu kakhulu, kodwa lunokuhlulwa kwiindawo ezine eziphambili: umnqweno, ukuphefumlelwa, inceba novelwano. Uthando alunzima ukudibanisa nenye yezi ndawo. Nangona kunjalo, uthando luya kuhlala luqala ngomnqweno.
Phakathi kwabantu abathandekayo kunjengendawo yasemagnini, apho onke amaxesha ayithatha omnye komnye, ndifuna ukuba babe kufuphi kangangokuthi kakade akakho omnye kubo onokukwazi ukuhlulekisa kumntu okhethiweyo, ukudibanisa ibe yinto enye engabonakaliyo. Othandayo, njengokuba ngaphantsi kwe-hypnosis, ungaboni nto kwaye ungaboni nto, ngaphandle kwabo.
Umnqweno wabo ukhumbuza i-reindeer rushes. Xa inqatha, xa iphunga iphunga elimnandi lalo likazi ngaphaya kweekhilomitha, iqhubela yonke imingcipheko, ifunyenwe kuphela ukuba ibe nayo. Kuthatha ixesha elide ukumchukumisa, ukuwa phantsi ngamadolo phambi kwakhe, ngoko, nangona uphelile, uyifumane, umhlangabezane naye, mnandi, enqwenela, owamnika le fowuni. Emva koko, uthando luya kuhlala luqala ngomnqweno.
Kodwa umnqweno awukona nje ukukhangeka komzimba, kungenakwenzeka kwengqondo okwesikhashana ukuba ungenzi ngaphandle kukhethiweyo. Umphefumlo unomdla omkhulu, ovuthayo emzimbeni wezithandane, ukungafihli, ukukhawuleza ukutshatyalaliswa emphefumlweni womnye - kwaye ugcine ukuhlala ngonaphakade. Bobabini umzimba nomphefumlo bafuna ukwandisa ulwalamano lwabo nomnye umphefumlo oyifunayo, kwaye ukuba izolo ingxoxo yayingakumbi malunga neencwadi, ubugcisa, okanye ezopolitiko, namhlanje, ngaphandle kwakho kunye nathi, ngaphandle kwethu nangothando lwethu, akukho ncoko. Ndifuna ukukuxelela kwaye ndithetha kuphela ngezinto ozikhathazayo kuphela - wena kunye naye, kuphela ngothando lwabo oluvuthayo. Kubo, kwihlabathi akukho mntu kwaye akukho nto ikhoyo. Kubo, mna kunye neyakho awusayikho, ngokuba yonke into yinto yethu.
Umphefumlo nomzimba womnye umntu ngumnqopho omkhulu wokufuna. Ukuze lo mzimba ube ngowam, umphefumlo wam wawuvuleleke kum, ndalinda ndaza ndithululela iimvakalelo, kuphela ukudibana nam. Yonke into ekhoyo kwihlabathi nguwe, iingcamango zakho namava, ingqondo iya kuba yindoda enamandla, ekuthwaleni ukuya kukhethiweyo wakho. Kwaye unomva ongaqhelekanga, kwaye ngezinye izikhathi ungaziqondanga, uyakukufihla ngokupheleleyo-kwaye awunayo ngokwakho ngoku.
Uthando luqala ngokuphefumlelwa. Inkulumkiso yokuqala malunga nesiqalo, okanye uthando olunokwenzeka, luyinkululeko engaqondakaliyo, engaqondakaliyo yena kunye naye, engazange ahlangane, ngokukhawuleza abe namava.
Uthando luya kuqala ngothando. Uyabona phambi kwakho isidalwa esiphelele, "esimhlophe kunye ne-fluffy", ukuba ndifuna ukuyijikeleza ngokunyamekela, kwaye ndikhusele rhoqo kwizinto ezizungezile kwaye ndingavumeli mntu ukuba amcaphukise, nokuba amthinte.
Kodwa kaninzi kunoko, uthando luqala ngomnqweno. Yilapho ubona isidalwa esiphambi kwakho esihambelana nazo zonke iingcamango zakho, malunga neyona ndlela, ngemilinganiselo yakho, njengokungathi yenziwa ngokwesi-templar yakho, okhethiweyo. Unomdla kakhulu, uqala ukukrakra malunga nalo mntu, uziva ungenanto yangaphakathi, kuphela yena, okhethiweyo wakho, ongazalisa ...
Uthando luqala ngomnqweno, kwaye ke ngoko, ukuba, ngokwenene unamacala amabini enye, ukhula lube luthando lokwenene, kunye nazo zonke iimvakalelo, ngesisa kunye nokuphefumlelwa, ngokuthembeka nokuthanda. Ngomnqweno uqala, kodwa uya kuba ngumlilo wangempela wothando.
Isiphetho sale nto yilo: zonke izinto eziphilayo kwindalo yonke zizinikele ekuthandeni nasekuphileni uthando, zizalwe, ziphile, zize zife ngenxa yothando. Uthando abantu abafumanayo aluveli kubo, kodwa kubalingani babo. Ngako oko, simele siwaxabise uthando kunye namaqabane ethu othandweni.