Kwaye kwangoko kubekho ingxaki engathandekiyo: mhlawumbi umnqweno wokuphazamiseka ngokupheleleyo kwindawo ethile, okanye ubuhlobo obusondeleyo abuyilo lonwabo. Ngelizwi, isondo asizange siphindele. Akasetyenzisiwe kuye, okanye ngokuphambene nanjalo, akayithandanga kuye. Ukufudumala komnqweno kubuthathaka, ubunzima bobudlelwane bubuhlungu. Iimeko ezinje, ngelanga, izigidi, ukuba zingekho. Kodwa oku kwixesha elizayo kunokusebenza njengesizathu esibalulekileyo sokuhlukana.
Ngoko kwenzeka ntoni? Ziphi na izinto zokuqala zokubanga ezinomdla kunye nokutshisa okutshisa? Ngaba yonke imihlali kunye nemihlali emva kwayo kwaye ayiyi kubuya? Yaye indlela yokubuyisela inzondelelo kumfazi emva kokubeleka? Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka ngexesha lokuqala, ezimbini emva kokukhulelwa. Kodwa kukho, ngelishwa, iimeko xa umnqweno wesondo ushiyweka ixesha elide ukuya kwiinyanga ezi-6-7 okanye ngaphezulu. Yaye ingaba yintoni uhlobo lwesini esingabakho, xa yonke ingqwalasela ijoliswe kumntwana.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto kwaye ziyakwazi ukwahlula ngamaqela amakhulu amabini: okwenyama kunye nengqondo. Okokuqala kunokubandakanya: utshintsho lwe-hormones emzimbeni, ukuncelisa, ukukhathala, ukuguqula umzobo; ukuya kwesibini: ukudandatheka, ukuguqula indlela yobomi, ukunika umntwana indima ephambili kwintsapho.
Makhe sicinge ngeendlela ezithile zokubuyisela ukunyamekela kwabasetyhini emva kokubeleka.
Okokuqala, umfazi kufuneka athethe nentliziyo yakhe yintliziyo. Sitshele ngeengxaki zakho, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba. Incoko enjalo inceda ukuqonda kunye kwaye iya kucacisa ngakumbi kwiintsebenziswano. Yaye unganqikazi ngemibuzo: ngokucacileyo baya kunikwa, bhetele kuya kusombulula.
Okwesibini, kuyimfuneko ukuba ibhinqa likhulule kancane. Kubalulekile ukufowunelwa ukuqiniswa okongeziweyo kumntu wabazali, indoda kunye nezinye izalamane ekunyamekeleni umntwana. Uncedo olugqithiseleyo kule meko alinakulimaza. Kwaye kuninzi ukufumana inzuzo yoluntu.
Okwesithathu, fumana ukulala ngokwaneleyo. Ekubeni umntwana efuna ukuvalela imini nobusuku, kunzima ukwenza. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukulala kunye nebhokhwe kwaye emva kwexesha umama omncinci uza kuziva ngcono.
Okwesine, zithobela wena. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa, lithwalwa ngumntwana, libalahle ngokuziwayo kwaye alikhathaleli ngokubonakala kwayo. Ngethuba elithile, shiya umntwana ekunyamekeleni umyeni wakhe okanye abazali bakhe, kwaye u tyelele i-beauty salon. Ubomi ngokukhawuleza buzalisa ngemibala emitsha kunye nemizwa.
Okwesibini, nwabele yonke iminithi, nokuba unemizuzu emi-5 ukuya kweleyo. Kungakumbi ukuba kunye kunye nokunyamekela omnye nomnye.
Okwesithandathu, ukukhulula ubudlelwane bosapho. Ukucinga okungakumbi malunga nendlela ebomnandi ngayo ubomi ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana, kwaye yintoni eyona nto yaba ngcono ngayo. Zama ukukrazula iimpawu ezintle nakwiimeko ezibi kakhulu.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, okwesibhozo, akukho mcimbi ungakhathazeki. Ewe, kukho utshintsho olubonakalayo kunye nokuqonda, ngamanye amaxesha awanelisekanga. Kodwa konke oku kuhamba kunye nexesha. Nangona kungekhona ngokukhawuleza, oku, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kuxhomekeke kwimimandla yendalo yowesifazane ngamnye.
Amadoda kufuneka ahlale ephapheme aze athathe amanyathelo okubuyisela umdla wokuqala ulwalamano. Kuyafaneleka ukunyamekela nokunyamekela abafazi bakho kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Okokuqala, ukhulule isiqingatha kwimisebenzi yasemakhaya. Kwaye ngomhla wokuphuma, kufuneka uhambe kunye nentsapho yonke. Kwaye kuyinqweneleka ukuba umfazi unxibe kwaye uyenziwe. Oku kuya kuthintela ngokufanelekileyo impilo kunye nemizwelo. Akufanele ukhawuleze wakho othembekileyo ukuba ube nobuhlobo obusondeleyo, ixesha elide emva kokuzalwa komntwana, kungcono ukuba ube nomonde kwaye ulinde. Qala umyeni wakho, udinga ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungakhange udideke, kulungile okokuqala, kungcono ngokudibanisa, ngokuthe ngcembe ufike kwi-caresses yomfazi wakho. Nangona kufuneka uphazamisekile ngenxa yokuba umntwana uvukile, musa ukuphelelwa yithemba kwaye uqhubeke ngokunyamezela okufanayo, ukuzola, ukufudumala nokunyamekela. Unokwabelana ngomnye nomnye. Okanye utshintshe imeko encinane. Emva kwakho konke, njengokuba uyazi, utshintsho, nokuba luncinci, lukhokela kuphela kwiyona nto. Ngokwabaninzi bezocansi babuyisela umdla omnye phantsi kombane weqela ngalinye. Yaye ukuba kukho uthando olushiyekileyo, ngoko kufuneka uthabathe amanyathelo kwaye wenze.
Kucinga ukuba izisombululo zibanceda njani ukubuyisela okokuqala isisu emva kokubeletha. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, oko kufuneka ukholelwe kukuba zonke iingxaki zobomi obusondeleyo besikhashana. Kwakhona, abafazi abancinci kufuneka baqonde ukuba i-caress, ingqalelo kunye nenkathalo ayifuni nje kuphela kumntwana, kodwa nangenxa kayise. Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi kufuneka afumane ixesha lomyeni wakhe, khawuqwalasele ukubonakala kwakhe. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, bafazi abathandekayo, yintoni okumele ikhunjulwe: UTHANDO NOKUXHUMANA kuya kunceda ukubuyisela inzondelelo kumfazi, ukunqoba nayiphi na ingxaki kunye nobunzima, kwaye ubomi obutsha bentsapho abuyi kuba bubi ngakumbi. Kwaye kungcono!