Kubonakala ngathi amathoyizi amasha, abahlobo, iimidlalo kunye nemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo-konke oku kufuneka kube ngumtshini wenene lentombazana enomdla, kwaye ukuya enkulisa kudibaniswa nexesha elimnandi nelityebileyo. Enyanisweni, ezininzi ziba yintlekele yangempela. Yisiphi isizathu sokuba ulungelelaniso olunzima lwengane kunye nendlela yokumfundisa kumyezo? Abazali abacwangcise ukutyelela umyezo kwixesha elizayo bafanele bazi ukuba ukulungelelaniswa yinkqubo yemvelo yendalo. Intsana kufuneka ifundiswe kulawulo olutsha, abantu, iimfuno.
Enye into kukuba ukulungelelaniswa kwezinye izinto zibuhlungu kakhulu: intsana, engafuni ukwahlukana nonina noyise, igqithise ukutshabalalisa ekhaya, kwaye inokuqhubeka yonke imihla. Ukuthabatha umntwana omnye kumyezo, endaweni yokumamatheka kunye nokuthobela kwakhe, abazali bayabona intshontsho, inkani nexinezelekileyo. Ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yoxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, ukukhuselwa kungaphinda kwinciphise, kwaye umntwana uya kuqala ukugula rhoqo.
Ukongezelela, abazali, beza iimvumba kumyezo, bonani ukuba abanye abantwana bangakwazi ukuhamba ngokuthe ngqo kwiqela, ngokukhawuleza kwaye bachithe ngokugqibeleleyo usuku lonke ensimini nasemini kunye nabazali babo. Kwaye bayazibuza ngokwemvelo: yintoni imfihlo?
Okokuqala, abazali bafanele bazi ukuba ukuba umntwana kuphela yedwa kwintsapho, unonophelo olunzulu ekhaya, kuxhomekeke kumama kwaye engaqiniseki kuye, ngoko, mhlawumbi, ukulungelelaniswa kwakhe kumyezo kuya kuba nzima. Ngoko ke, ukuba abantwana abanjalo kungcono ukuqala ukulungiselela i-kindergarten ezintandathu iinyanga ngaphambi komzuzu xa ewela umnqamlezo wakhe. Uthanda ntoni?
Okokuqala, kwandisa ngokubanzi isangqa soqhagamshelwano lomntwana wakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukutyelela iipaki zezingane, ukuphuhlisa iiklasi, ichibi lokubhukuda. Thatha inkunzi kunye naye ngexesha lokuhlaselwa kwindalo, ukuya esitolo okanye ukutyelela kwaye ngokukhawuleza ujwayele ukusebenzisana nabantu abahlukeneyo ngokwesini, iminyaka kunye nezikhundla. Zama ukushiya imvumba kaninzi. Xelela inkcazelo yamanqaku, bukela i-movie okanye i-cartoon ngomntwana malunga ne-kindergarten. Dlala ngaphakathi kuyo, cacisa injongo yomyezo. Ngaphandle kweenkcukacha ezongezelelweyo, zithi le yindawo apho abantwana bedlala xa abazali babo basebenza. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, musa ukuxoxa ngegadi ngendlela engafanelekanga, musa ukuzisebenzisa kakubi abantwana abanonophelo kumntwana, kodwa akufanelekile ukudumisa kakhulu.
Ngaphambi kokutyelela kokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukulungisa ulawulo lomntwana wakho kulowo wamkelekileyo engadini, mfundisa ukuba adle, agqoke, aye kwindlu yangasese. Inqaku elihle linokukutsala umntwana ukuba akhethe i-wardrobe entsha yomyezo.
Kwinqanaba lokuqala lokulungelelanisa, kungcono ukukhetha ukuqeqeshwa ngokukhawuleza, xa umntwana ushiywe engadini ngaphandle kweeyure ezimbalwa ngosuku, ukongeza iiyure ezimbalwa kwixesha nganye ngeveki. Ngamathuba onke, dumise umntwana, uthethe ukuba sele sele esemdala kunye nendlela athanda ukuya ngayo ensimini - abantwana bayabonakala bakhawuleza.
Xa umntwana eqala ukuya kwigadi, zama ukuhlala uhlakulela kakuhle. Unganikeli amava kunye nokwesaba kumntwana. Yiza rhoqo kwixesha uze uzame ukuseka ubudlelwane obuthembayo nabasebenzi basegadi. Yithi, zityumza uze uthethe xa uza kuphinda ubuyele umntwana: emva kwephupha, emva kokutya, emva kokuhamba, njl. Ngaloo nto, unako ukunikela ithoyiyayiyintandokazi okanye ubumnandi.
Kodwa nangona yintsana ekulungiselele kwaye ethobekileyo ukulungiswa kwento kunokuthatha ixesha elithile. Kufuneka ulungele oku kwaye uyithathe ngokuzithoba nangokuzezela. I-crumb ithatha ixesha ukuba isetyenziswe. Ukuxhaswa, kwaye emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa awuyi kubona ukuba umntwana wakho uya kuvuyela njani ukuya kwintsimi, yenza abahlobo abatsha kwaye banxibe ngokukratshi imveliso yokuqala.