Into ephambili yokuba nayiphi na ibhinqa elikhulelweyo kufuneka lenze ukuzama ukulahla ukuxhalaba, ukwesaba nokonwaba. Ngaphandle koko, esikhundleni sokunandipha ilizwe lakho kwiinyanga ezi-8-9 ezizayo, vuyiswa ngokukhawuleza kwembonakalo emancinci, uya kuguqula ixesha elivulekileyo lobomi bakho libe yinto embi kakhulu. Akuyikubulala nje amangqamuzana omzimba, kodwa kunye neengqondo zomama, uthando nothando lomntwana, kunye nempilo yowesifazane.
Ingxaki enkulu kunabafazi abakhulelweyo kukuba bathambekele ekuthandeni okubi. Ngaphezu kwe-90% yabasetyhini bafumana kwaye banentshiseko malunga nokuba baya kusinda njani intlungu yokuzalwa nokuba ngaba baya kuphumelela. Ngaphezu kwe-80% yabasetyhini abakhulelweyo banenkxalabo malunga nesimo sempilo yabo kunye nesibalo. I-95% yabasetyhini abalungiselela nje ukuba babe oomama, bazixhaphaze ngokwesaba malunga nokuba umntwana wabo uya kuqhelekileyo. Kwaye phantse bonke oomama bokamva bayaxhalabele ngokwenene ukuba bakhathazeke kakhulu.
Abasetyhini kufuneka babhekane neengxaki ngexesha lokukhulelwa malunga nobuthathaka emilenzeni, isisongela, intlungu emva, utshintsho kwizinto ezithandayo, ukuhlala ulambile. Baxhala ngenxa ye-cigarette kunye notywala, utywala utywala, bathatha i-contraceptive ngexesha lokuqala lokukhulelwa, xa bengakhange baqikelele.
Kwakhona ukhulelwe ukukhathazeka rhoqo malunga nokutya kwabo kwansuku zonke. Abafazi bezityalo bavalo xa umntwana wabo ephosakele iiprotheni ezibalulekileyo zezilwanyana ngokuphuhliso oluqhelekileyo. Abanye babo ngexesha lokukhulelwa baze bathathe inxaxheba kunye nezinto zabo zokuzonwabisa.
Kunabesifazane kuphela abangabingeleli (ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngokungenangqiqo) ngenxa yokuba umntwana ophilileyo, onengqiqo nomhle uzalwa! Imigaqo iya kwimvelaphi xa kuvela ukwesaba malunga nempilo yomntwana. Ukwesaba kunokubangela nayiphi na i-cramps emilenzeni, ukupheliswa kancinci kwentsholongwane kunye nokunyamalala kwe-toxicosis kwinyanga yesine, ukuphelelwa amandla, ukuwela kuyo nayiphi na inxalenye yomzimba, ukuqhenyuka ... Abangenalo ulwazi lokukhulelwa ngokwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha, abafazi baya kwi-gehena yonke yokungathandabuzeki nokuxhalabisa, ngamanye amaxesha abakwazi ukugxotha noogqirha. Bakufumanisa kunzima ukujamelana nombono wesifazane "we-jabob" kunye nemiqondiso kwiiseshoni ezifutshane.
Abafazi abakhulelweyo bayesaba yonke into - ukusuka kwii-microorganisms emoyeni ukuya kwesoyiko elingalindelekanga. Ngaphezu koko, abesabi nto - kwi-99% yamatyala abayithwalayo kwaye bazala ngokuqhelekileyo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo ukuze ndijamelane noyiko ngexesha lokukhulelwa? Okokuqala, ukuze ungakhathazeki kangako malunga neengxaki ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana, kufuneka uyeke ukufunda amaphephandaba, ukuvakalisa kwiindaba kwi-intanethi nokubukela i-TV - yonke into ifakiwe. Kodwa malunga ne-99% yabantwana abathandekayo kunye nabantwana abanobuchopho, abeendaba bethu bezobuqili banokuthula, kuba ababazisi. Kodwa malunga ne-1% yokuzalwa okungaphumeleli, ukuphazamiseka kokuzalwa komntwana kunye nemiphumo eyahlukileyo eya kubetha kuyo yonke indawo. Kwaye, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukugqithisa ngaphezu kwehafu.
Ngexesha lokukhulelwa, gxila kwizinto ezilungileyo. Kholelwa kuwe kunye namandla omzimba wakho. Ngokomzekelo, abafazi abakhulelweyo bawa kaninzi ngenxa yokutshintsha kwinqanaba lobunzima, kodwa oku akuchaphazeli uphuhliso lwangaphakathi lomntwana. Kukhuselwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngamanzi amniotic kunye nezicubu zesisu. Kodwa ngenxa yamava okuqhubekayo kunye nokwesaba komfazi, umntwana unokuhlakulela ukuxhalabisa, ngoko kufuneka uzame ukuncumo ngakumbi, nwabele umntwana wakho, ncokola naye.
Okungaphantsi kokusabela kwizinto ezingalunganga. Beka ngengqondo i-shutter phakathi kwabo kunye ne-psyche yakho. Makube ludonga olungenakunceda. Ngokomzekelo, yenza oku. I-nausea - kwaye ifanele! Oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana ukhula, kwaye imvelaphi ye-hormonal yomzimba iyatshintsha! Ngaba unobandezeleka? Kulungile - konke okwethutyana, kuba ngoko yena kunye nokukhulelwa, ukwenzela ukuba ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva kuya kupheliswa ngokukhuselekileyo! Uwile? Vuka kwaye uhambe kunye nenkolelo yokuba yonke into iya kulungelelwa bobabini.
Ukuze ujamelane noloyiko, kubalulekile ukuba owesifazane okhulelwe ukuba athole ulwazi oluluncedo ngokumalunga nesimo sakhe. Unokuthenga ikota yevidiyo kubafazi abakhulelweyo okanye uthenge i-encyclopedia efanelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukufundela izigaba ezisemgangathweni zophuhliso lomntwana emzimbeni womfazi, funda okwenene (kwaye ungaqulunqwa ukuphakamisa amanqaku) malunga nokubeleka.
Into eyona nto icandelo eliphambili elikhunjelwe yiinkxalaleko kunye nezifo ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ukuba konke kuhamba ngokucwangcisa, ungakhathazeki ngento engayi kwenzeka kuwe.
Kukho enye indlela enkulu yokunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokwesaba kubafazi abakhulelweyo - umthandazo. Thatha ngokungqongqo. Inceda ngokwenene, ivuselela kwaye inike ithemba kwizinto ezilungileyo. Thandaza kuMariya Oyintombi Eyintsikelelo - uthathwa njengomkhuseli wabasetyhini kunye neentsana. Lowo ukholwayo oku kuza kuzaliseka. UThixo unenceba kubantwana, kwaye ukuba uyamcela ngobuqotho, uya kunika into oyicelayo.
Musa ukufunda amabali ambi malunga nokubeletha - yonke into iya kuba yinto ehlukile kuwe. Naluphi na ukukhulelwa kuyodwa. Ukuba kukho into ephosakeleyo ngexesha lokubeleka, oku akuthethi ukuba isimo esifanayo silinde wena. Ungazivumeli izinto ezimbi, ziphephe, ziqokelele ulwazi olubalulekileyo, oluncedo malunga nokukhulelwa nokubeletha, lugxotha okulungileyo kwintsana yakho ezayo kunye nawe.
Khumbula ukuba i-99% yabesifazane besaba ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwi-99% yeemeko azizange zenzeke. Jonga ngeenxa zonke - kukho abafazi abahamba ngeenxa zonke nabantwana abancinci nabaphilileyo kwisihlalo sabakhubazekile. Khumbula abahlobo bakho, intombi, intombi yakho ...
Ukuxhalabisa, ukuxhalaba kunye nokwesaba kubafazi abakhulelweyo kukuxhamla. Baya kutya amandla akho kunye nemikhosi efunekayo ekuphuhliseni umntwana wakho. Vumela ukukhulelwa kwakho kukukholise - ngokukhawuleza uzokunika ubomi obutsha ngokukhawuleza! Ukukhulelwa lunoyolo, olungenakunikwa wonke umntu. Ngoko uvuyo!