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Ngokukodwa, iincwadi zithi umdla wobomi awubonakali kubantwana ngokwabo. Kodwa ngelo xesha, akusiyo ixesha lokugoma, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe. Ukuqinisekisa umntwana ukuba aye embukisweni okanye kwimidlalo yezemidlalo, umntu makabhenele ukuba angaboni, kodwa ukuvakalelwa. Ukwenza oku, zama ukukhumbula oko uvakalelwa ngethuba lokuqala xa uvakashela igalari yezobugcisa okanye indawo yokudlala. Emva koko xelela umntwana ngalo. Kodwa musa ukuhamba phambili uze ungasitsheli oko umntwana aya kubona. Ngoko unako ukumkhathalela ngokunyanisekileyo uvuyo lweziphumo ezizimeleyo. Xa usembonweni, mnike umntwana ithuba lokugxila kwaye ucinge. Unokumxelela ngomfanekiso, malunga nemvakalelo yakho, kodwa kuncinci kakhulu, mhlawumbi kuya kumphazamisa umntwana. Ukuba umntwana akawuthandi umfanekiso omnye, hamba naye kwenye. Ukuba emva koko ufuna ukubuyela emfanekisweni, buyele emva kwaye uxoxe kwakhona. Ngokwenza njalo, xelela umntwana malunga nomxholo walesi sithombe uze umbuze malunga nombono owamkelayo.
Musa ukuchazela umxholo weefoto kwiimigaqo ezinzima. Ukuqala, kuya kuba neengcamango eziqhelekileyo.
Ukuze umntwana abe nolwazi oluhle lokuya kumyuziyam, umntu akafanele ahambe apho ngosuku olubi. Ukuya kwiimyuziyam kufuneka kube yiholide, ngoko kungcono ukhethe usuku olufudumele olushushu. Ukuya kwiimyuziyam kwimimoya engafanelekiyo inokuyityhefu ukuqala kokubonakala kobugcisa.
Xa ufika kumyuziyam, uchaza umntwana ukuba aziphathe njani ngokufanelekileyo. Chaza ukuba imithetho yaqulunqwa ukuze kugcinwe umzobo ngokukhawuleza.
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Yiyiphi yokuqala kuyo yonke ingqalelo ukunyamekela inkwenkwe kwimyuziyam okanye kwimiboniso? Ukuba umntwana umncinci, ke ubeke ingqalelo yokuqala kuyo yonke imibala ebomvu, efudumeleyo, ngakumbi ebomvu. Unako ukuhlawula imibala eyahlukileyo. Ukuqwalasela imifanekiso, ebonisa abantu kunye nezilwanyana, kunye neendawo zendawo (kwintsimi, indlu, ingadi, idolophana, njl.). Kungcono ukujongana nabantwana abancinci ngemifanekiso enxulumene nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Oku kungenziwa iziqhelo eziqhelekileyo, izinto, izenzo. Ngoko umntwana uya kuba lula ukubona umfanekiso.
Sitshele ngento echazwe kumfanekiso. Buza umntwana malunga nokufunyanwa okufunyenweyo. Vumela ukucinga kwengane ukuba kuphuhliswe - oku kuya kumvumela ukuba abone ukubunjwa kwepeyinti.
Kubantwana abadala, kuya kuba lunomdla ukuthetha ngezinto ezintle nezimbi ezichazwe kumfanekiso, malunga nokulungileyo nokubi, njl. Unokuxelela umntwana ngomlobi wesithombe, yakhe imbali. Sitshele ngembali yale mfanekiso-kutheni umculi wabhala kule nto okanye ngelo xesha lobomi bakhe. Unokuthetha nangendlela yokubhala umfanekiso. Ngokomzekelo, kunokufumana ulwazi malunga nendlela yokufumana ingcamango yokujongwa okungavamile komfanekiso. Cacisa, ngoncedo lwezakhono zobugcisa umculi ubonisa iingcamango zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, cacisa, ngoncedo lweziphi iindlela ezibonisa ukuhamba komfanekiso kufezekiswa, nangona amanani asekhona. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuthetha indlela amandla omntu ogxininiswayo athatyathwa ngayo kwaye oko kunika umqondo wokuvisisana. Unokuthetha ngentsingiselo yeempawu ezisetyenziswa kumsebenzi.
Qiniseka ukuba uzama ukuphendula yonke imibuzo yomntwana evela ekubukeni imifanekiso, imibukiso okanye imyuziyam.