Iingcali zengqondo zifumana kunzima ukugweba okokulala ngesondo, kwaye abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba bangazikhusela njani kwimiphumo yokulala ngokwesondo.
Kodwa akukho namnye wethu owaziyo ukuba ukulala ngokwesondo kunokunceda umzimba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, naye ubeka ingozi, kodwa oku akusibi kakhulu, njengokomzekelo, ukubamba isifo se-venereal, okanye ngakumbi, ukusuleleka kuGawulayo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unokuzikhusela ngexesha lokulala ngokwesondo kunye neepilisi ukusuka ekukhulelwe - uphosakeleyo kakhulu. Ukufumana ukuba zeziphi iziphumo, sithembele, kwaye uza kuzifumana ezininzi.
Ngoko, mhlawumbi, siya kuqala. Nantsi ke - intombazana yamaphupha akho, wadibana nayo, akubonana, kwaye ngolunye usuku olulandelayo wamema ubuhle kwi-cafe, bhiyozela omaziyo. Ukuhlwa kobuthongo kwaphela ngokukhawuleza, kwaye wanquma ukuthokoza kwikhotele. Ngendlela, le nkqubela yokuzibandakanya nayo ingabizwa ngokuba ngumntu ongathandana naye, ngenxa yokuba awukwazi kakuhle iqabane lakho (iqabane), kwaye sele ulungele ukulala naye. Ewe, ngoku abantu abaselula baye bahamba, nantoni na inokuthi, kodwa oku kwenzeka njalo.
Ngesondo esingaqhelekanga, kuya kuba buqiliba ukuba unokukhawuleza ubuze iqabane lakho malunga nokuba unayo ikhondom okanye ingaba iqabane lalingumfazi litshintshisa ibhinqa. Isidenge, kwaye nangona kunjalo, akunqabile ukuba intombazana ifane. Kodwa konke okufanayo, makhe sifumanise ukuba ngaba isondo esifanelekileyo sisenokuthiwa ngesondo esingaqhelekanga, ukuba awukwazi kakuhle umntu.
Ubundlobongela kufuneka kube njalo uthando, kwaye oku kubalulekile - abaninzi bakholelwa. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza kulabo abangazange bahlangabezane nothando lwabo, kwaye bafuna ukulala ngesondo? Aba bantu bahamba ngesondo ngokungaqhelekanga kunye nabo abangazi kakuhle. Oku akulungile, njengoko sathi.
Kukho amaninzi amaninzi apho ukulala ngokwesondo ngokuphangaleleyo kuyonakalisa "ixhoba" layo yonke impilo, kunye nempilo. Ngaba oko kulungile? Emva kokulala embhedeni nomfokazi, awukwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba unempiliso kwisigaba sesondo. Kwaye ukubuza malunga nabalingani bakhe bokuqala kunye nokuba uyazikhusela, unamahloni. Kungekudala emva koko uhlupheke kuyo.
Yintoni abantu abaye benza "ubugebengu" obunjalo? Emva kwayo yonke into, isondo soqhelwano oluqhelekileyo lwenzeka nangona abantu ababethandayo bexabana kwaye iqabane / iqabane lifuna ukuba intanda yakhe ithande. Yaye wabuyisela ngokuguqula nokuzisa intsapho isifo sesisu. Ngenxa yoko, intsapho yahlukana, iqabane lixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwimpilo yakhe kuphela, kwaye ukuba kwintsapho kwakukho umntwana ukususela ekuqaleni, ngoko, ngelishwa, naye wayehlupheke kakhulu.
Ukuthintela oku, nangona ufuna ukulala ngesondo, soloko ukhuselwa! Lo ngumgaqo obaluleke kakhulu kunye oyisisiseko kwindlela engcono yokuphepha ukufumana izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo.
Emva kwesondo, nangaphambi kwakhe, uhlambe ngokugqibeleleyo izitho zangasese ngeesepha namanzi. Njengoko uyazi, i-alkali iyabulala zonke iindidi ezincinci kunezinye iindlela, kwaye ngoko ke ithathwa njengendlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nayo. Ukuba unesizathu esithile asinalo ithuba ngokukhawuleza ngaphambi kokuba ulalane kwaye emva kokuba wenze ukuhlambalaza, sebenzisa i-napkins yokunyusa ama-bactericidal napkins. Bona, ubuncinane, baya kususa zonke iigciwane.
Ukutyelela rhoqo kwi-gynecologist kunye ne-urologist nazo zinyanzelekile, kunye nokunyanga kwamayeza rhoqo. Ngoko ke, sincoma ukuba uhlale uhlola uvavanyo, oluya kukusindisa kwiintlobo ezininzi, kwaye i-gynecologist izokunika iingcebiso ezininzi ezinokuthintela.
Zithande kwaye unakekele impilo yakho, ngaphandle koko impilo yakho ayikwazi ukugcina ingqibelelo yakho kuwe. Hlalani uhlamba, zikhusele, kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, libale ngokusisigxina malunga nokulala ngokwesondo. Emva koko, akukho mntu uyifunayo. Ulungelelaniso olungcono kunye nexesha elide lokuyeka ukulala ngesondo kunokugqithisa ngokwesondo, ngokuya kuthi, kuya kukwenza ube ngumntu ongafanelekanga. Ngoko ke, ukuzikhusela, njengoko besithi, kufuneka ube ngumncinci.
Emva kwakho konke, njengomntwana, safundiswa ukuba singagqoki iihappy zomntu, singagqoki izicathulo zabanye, kwaye ukuba ufuna ukwenza oku, cela imvume kubazali bakho. Ngoko apha: musa ukulala kunye nomntu ongazi kakuhle, ngenxa yokuba uyazi, kodwa kuthekani ukuba ungumlutha weziyobisi? Abantu abaninzi banetloni ukuthetha oku, kwaye bavuma. Ngenxa yesondo bazimisele ukufikelela kuninzi, ukuba kuphela kumlingane olungile, kwaye wahlala enelisekile. Ewe, kwenzeka ntoni kumlingane emva kwesondo, oku kakade, hayi, ayikhathalele nabani na.
Kungemva kobudlelwane obungapheliyo ukuba iintsana ezingekafiki, iintsholongwane, kunye nabantwana bazalwa yi-HIV. Bangaphi abantwana namhlanje? Ezininzi. Ingaba oku kuthethwa ngumbonakaliso olungileyo kwithuba lohlobo? Ngaliphi na indlela, oku akunako ukubizwa. Ngoko ke, sincomelela ukuba uhlale uphethe ikhondom ephaketheni lakho, ngenxa yento ethile, kwaye sinayo iifsi ezaneleyo kwilizwe lethu. Ewe, ewe, kwaye amaxabiso, kwakhona, angaluma. Kodwa into ongeke uhambe ngayo ngenxa yempilo! Sonke sifuna ukuba yomelele, inhle, inempilo. Ukuze singaguli, sidla i-ascorbic ekuseni, siqinise ukukhusela izifo ezihlukeneyo, i-oyile, i-concentric kunye ne-serum. Kodwa oku akwaneleyo, ewe, mhlawumbi uya kuba nempilweni, kodwa kufuneka ube nempilo kwintsibano yesini.
Xa abantu beselula kakhulu, abanqabile ukuba bacinga ukuba banempilo eyodwa kwihlabathi lonke, oko kuthetha ukuba baya kudala ukuzala intsapho baze babele abantwana. Kuphela xa kufika eli xesha, abantu bacinga ngako. Ewe, ngoku, ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba umntu ngamnye uyingqayizivele ngendlela yakhe kwaye wonke umntu unemikhwa yakhe, kodwa nangona imeko yakhe, indlela yokuphila kunye nemeko yezemali, ngamnye kuthi ngamnye kufuneka anakekele impilo yakhe nabantu abatsha. Ucebisa ntoni!